In the latest issue of Vanity Fair, the magazine features an excerpt of a new book about President Obama that aims to shed more light on his past, particularly his love life. The book, Barack Obama: The Story by David Maraniss shares intimate details from two of the President’s former girlfriends.

Despite many hoping to find the sordid details of a wild young man complete with drug use and rampant sexual promiscuity, what we see is a man in search of himself and his identity who spends a lot of time thinking about his place in the world and rereading an old copy of Ralph Ellison’s Invisible Man. Sort of a young, less-assured version of the President we see today.

In one particularly interesting journal entry from his ex-girlfriend Genevieve Cook, an Australian woman three years his senior, we learn how a 20-something Obama described his perfect woman. Despite being in love with each other, it was clear to Cook that she wasn’t his ideal woman.

From Vanity Fair:

Early in Barack’s relationship with Genevieve, he had told her about “his adolescent image of the perfect ideal woman” and how he had searched for her “at the expense of hooking up with available girls.” Who was this ideal woman? Genevieve conjured her in her mind, and it was someone other than herself. She wrote, “I can’t help thinking that what he would really want, be powerfully drawn to, was a woman, very strong, very upright, a fighter, a laugher, well-­experienced—a black woman I keep seeing her as.”

When the pair eventually broke up in 1985 after an unsuccessful (and temporary) bout of living together Cook wrote:

Barack leaving my life—at least as far as being lovers goes. In the same way that the relationship was founded on calculated boundaries and carefully, rationally considered developments, it seems to be ending along coolly considered lines. I read back over the past year in my journals, and see and feel several themes in it all … how from the beginning what I have been most concerned with has been my sense of Barack’s withholding the kind of emotional involvement I was seeking. I guess I hoped time would change things and he’d let go and “fall in love” with me. Now, at this point, I’m left wondering if Barack’s reserve, etc. is not just the time in his life, but, after all, emotional scarring that will make it difficult for him to get involved even after he’s sorted his life through with age and experience. 

Hard to say, as obviously I was not the person that brought infatuation. (That lithe, bubbly, strong black lady is waiting somewhere!) 

It looks like she was. He met Michelle four years later and the two have been inseparable ever since.

While I was slightly disappointed that there were no bombshell skeletons in President Obama’s relationship closet (but at the same time relieved), getting a glimpse into past romances made me wonder what my exes think of me. I wonder if they’d also kept journal entries or past emails and letters we exchanged, and if they would still speak of me in such positive terms as President Obama’s past loves.

If someone asked your exes what type of person you were when the two of you dated would you get glowing reviews or would they have a seriously, juicy (and dramatic) story to tell?

Lets talk about it!

  • Dreaming

    But President Obama isn’t Black. He’s Black AND White. He’s biracial.

  • pink

    Jess: First of all President Obama is not black…..he’s bi-racial. To say he’s black disrepects his mother because she was white. Secondly when you are Leader of the Free World/President…..Everything about you is fair game. You life is an open book. In my opinion the only thing that should be off limits is their kids. And that goes for anly president’s kids.

  • Tonton Michel

    Feel bad for her, in love with someone you know doesn’t feel the same way about you and to be constantly reminded of that and what you wish could have been cause the dude is on freaking TV every damn day. That’s a tough one. On another note that pic is straight Mack material, got to get that hat.

  • pink

    ms: Poor taste?? Everyone writes a book these days. It’s unrealistic to think that no one would ever write a book about this; in fact numerous people have already written books about the President. President Obama was well aware of this, and it’s been reported that he even gave a 2 hour interview in conjunction with this. As for Michelle….she not insecure and also is intelligent enough to know that these type things come with the territory. As the comparison to Kennedy; that was a different time in history. Now everything comes out early.

  • somewhiteclutchfan

    It seems pretty distasteful…why do this? People are curious for this kind of thing, but it strikes me as not right here. Nothing really bad said about him, but just in poor taste to bring up all these personal details years later. Plus he didn’t do anything wrong, no scandal or affair or anything like that.

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