Comments on: The Angry Black Introvert?

By: Kid Poe

Kid Poe — Sat, 06 Apr 2013 01:24:52 +0000

I know this is old but you really dont sound like you were a good friend to begin with. You say she should cont. to keep her emotions to her self but that sounds like something a self absorbed person would say. I would never want my friends to hide their feelings from me. Especially if i’m the cause of it.

By: Sylvester Williams

Sylvester Williams — Tue, 29 May 2012 14:30:33 +0000

I have more than my share of silent bombs that I’ve attracted; for what reason I don’t know, but I do know this. I advise them and give them a chance to let some, most or all of it out, usually by the third glass of wine and all of them and I mean all, outside of the family that is. feel so much better these days. I have the same policy with family but I feel they are trying to keep peace with me and the family and there is no reason for it. My “buddy hat” is just that, the end. I reason after all of the years I’ve lived, women has trusted me with their deepest fears and feelings because each one of them and myself have a different relationship and no one can snipe us because they have found out; those that have confronted me with he say, she say bull, that is; have been vehemently turned on by their female counterparts that has interacted with me.. I learned the greatest lesson a man can learn before I entered college; men cannot be totally honest with women on all subjects because they refuse to understand our honest mistakes. Most of the storage they are dealing with is misunderstanding what their men are saying to them. Not having a traing manual for training up a child I had to use my own childhood as a guide and trust God for the rest I instuted the buddy system to get them to open up with no reprisals. Just straight talk between the five of us or one on one if they prefer and that is where it ends except the changes I felt needful to make to preserve the peace and fairness as the saw it. My advice; LET IT OUT! if nowhere but on paper and then burn it. DON’T HOLD BAGGAGE LIKE THAT IT’LL EAT YOU OUT LIKE CANCER. YOU CAN LOVE EVERYBODY BUT EVERYBODY WILL NOT LOVE YOU.

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By: Dateless Jana

Dateless Jana — Wed, 16 May 2012 01:43:25 +0000

Funny thing: professionally, I’m an extrovert. My livelihood depends on me being outgoing, friendly, and adaptable. Seriously, it’s like a switch or something. Once I’m away from all things professional, I am my introvert self. Maybe I have split personality or something…

By: Pam Hollister

Pam Hollister — Fri, 11 May 2012 17:56:49 +0000

Understanding my personality type – INTJ – has been a very powerful plus in my life. I’d been introduced to type in early years of college after graduating from high school, not in a way that I truly understood my strengths how to use the information to my benefit.

Many years later in my early 40′s, I was reintroduced to type and rolled up my sleeves and learned everything I could about it. This new understanding explained so many things that had happened to me the previous 20 years and why.

Teaching others about personality type is my life mission!

By: Kgchrissy

Kgchrissy — Mon, 07 May 2012 20:05:43 +0000

You just described me completely. All these years I thought I was the only one like this I’m glad to see there are others like me.

I don’t think my family and friends are ready for me to be upfront with them. I might tear them a new one lol.

By: Doctora E

Doctora E — Sat, 05 May 2012 17:57:56 +0000

Sad. I lost a very close friend after she “lost it” in a disagreement we had. She disrepected me the hilt with all of her pent up feelings. I understand not sharing all your emotions all the time. But you should continue to keep them to yourself. Her years of unshared frustration all came tumbling out in a fiery, rude stream of texts that were better aimed at an enemy and not a bff. Maybe introverts are better off keeping to themselves if they cant discuss in a civil manner the day to day disagreements that others can move beyond after a simple convo, ya know, “agree to disagree” talks. She told me that she always hated that i (a moderate extrovert) always wanted to be the center of attn, she envied my looks, popularity, etc. In reality, i always wondered why she was so shy, so dismissive of the good qualities i valued in her, her beauty, and why she never spoke up. In comparison, sure, i look like the center of attn, but it was by default.
Ive seen other comments asking the extroverts to try and understand the introverted types. But i challenge them to take a closer look at us, and not JUDGE by comparison. Its called middle ground for a reason- we both have to walk towards each other in order to get understanding.

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By: Eri

Eri — Sat, 05 May 2012 16:19:52 +0000

You’re talking about me! Joining the INFJ/P convention!

By: Crys

Crys — Sat, 05 May 2012 14:01:52 +0000

Entro, Dreaming…the both of you are friends in my mind!

By: binks

binks — Fri, 04 May 2012 04:06:32 +0000

I can’t add any more to this discussion because this article and a lot of these comments describes me down to the dot on the “i”

By: TypicalBlackWoman...

TypicalBlackWoman... — Fri, 04 May 2012 02:40:47 +0000

i’m in the middle of reading “quiet…” too!