Before Bobbi Kristina Brown took the stage Sunday night to honor her mother, music icon Whitney Houston, during the Billboard Music Awards, stories surfaced online about a rift between Houston’s only child and her sister-in-law Pat Houston. Both wanted to be on the stage to accept an honor on the singer’s behalf. All reports seemed to hint that the show had only asked Bobbi, but the sister-in-law was inserting herself into the tribute.

It seemed to be a strange thing to fight over.

But then I remembered that Pat Houston has a reality show coming out about the lives of the Houston family since Whitney’s passing. And suddenly, it all makes sense.

From MTV:

Titled “The Houston Family Chronicles,” the show will feature Houston’s daughter, Bobbi Kristina Brown, and mother Cissy Houston, though the focus will be on The Bodyguard superstar’s brother Gary Houston and sister-in-law and manager Pat Houston, as well as their daughter, Rayah.

Houston’s cousin Dionne Warwick and Bobbie Kristina’s godmother, gospel legend CeCe Winans, will also appear in the series.

According to Lifetime, the reality show will focus on Pat and Gary “as they take on their greatest challenge, supporting and guiding Bobbi Kristina as she faces the world alone, without the one person she relied on the most, her mother.”

While every family is free to grieve in whatever way they feel fit, there’s something ghoulish about grief via reality TV.

The Houston family’s sudden move from the background in Whitney’s life to the limelight has shades of the most recent season of Bravo’s Real Housewives of Beverly Hills. The series went morbid late last year in the aftermath of cast member Taylor Armstrong’s husband’s suicide. Armstrong, who was a battered spouse, rounded out her public grief with a book tour.

And the Houston family has had their reputations rocked by reality TV before with the image tarnishing embarrassment that was Being Bobby Brown. The 2005 Bravo network show chronicled Houston’s then husband Bobby Brown and his children’s lives with a seemingly out-of-it Houston along for the ride. While highly rated, the show only lasted one season after Houston refused to appear in any more episodes.

Maybe the show will be a loving, comical, and career-boosting tribute, akin to what Braxton Family Values has been for singer Toni Braxton and her loving, bickering, then loving again sisters. But something about it makes me not want to trust it. Something about how for months since Houston’s death someone within the family has routinely leaked gossip to sites like TMZ about Houston’s mother Cissy’s reactions and Bobbi Kristina’s personal life. Houston’s death knocked down that last remaining wall of what was left of her personal life and made it public.

It reminds me of some of the messier aspects of Michael Jackson’s family. That for every member who sought to protect their brother and son’s legacy, there was father Joe Jackson, out on the eve of the funeral, show-boating his latest “act” for CNN. Then Jackson’s remaining brothers turned what was supposed to be a one-hour special about an upcoming tour into a reality show in the wake of Michael’s death.

It, like Being Bobby Brown, didn’t last.

I understand that Bobbi Kristina may want to sing. I can understand a family’s need to find ways to make money after the primary bread-winner is gone. I can understand grief. I don’t understand exploitation and fighting over who gets to accept tributes on the behalf of someone they all claimed to have loved dearly. I don’t understand exposing your grief, family stress and pain to public scrutiny. I don’t understand rushing into a spotlight that, in the end, contributed to the death of someone you held dear.

I don’t get it.

But I’m sure they’ll be happy to explain it all one night a week for Lifetime Television.

  • PreciousWms

    I was weary of Pat after the interview Opra did with BK. Pat appeared phony and also appeared to to be an opportunist.
    Should anyone had been beside BK to except the award for her mom it should have been Cissy, or Whitney Houston’s Brother ( NOT PAT) Pat is only a Houston by marriage.
    Pat’s husband need to get some back bone and make Pat stay in her lane……

  • azza

    I have a funny feeling about this Pat! In Oprah interview she said that she felt sorry for her brother running out of breath while he was performing CPR on Whitney and asked him to stop. It feels like she cares about her brother more than Whitney. Also she said she was upset Whitney’s picture was published not because it was taken. Naturally she should be upset because it was taken as it is an appropriate and unfair. Even while Whitney is alive it feels like she is treating her like she is a kid and ordering her around. Of course she is after the money now Whitney is gone there is nothing for her and her husband to do and they get used to the high life style. I feel so sorry for Whitney and her beautiful soul and heart to have to experience such pain. The husband, the family and the media…… so true she has no one to turn to apart from her Jesus…. I look to You.

  • SMaria

    EXACTLY! Ner one of them have learned from watching what happened to Whit. I do not trust any of them!They all EVEN CISSY is suspect! If any of them really knew what was right for Whitney she would still be here because they wouldve listened to the things Whitney saidto Oprah in her interview in 2009 and said DON’T GO BACK INTO THAT INDUSTRY/WORLD! Go and sing for the Lord where you KNEW that it was a gift and and stay away from CLIVE and the pressure to live the lifestyle that you KNEW was bondage and killing you before! SMH I pray of for Krissi often. She IDOLIZED Whitney and people are celebrating that which is only helping her to go down the same path! You would think Cissy would be discouraging her from following on the same path as Whitney but she is doing the same thing she did with WHITNEY! Granted it’s unrealistic to believe that Krissy wouldnt want to sing/act but there must be some lessons learned about how to do things differently. I wonder if those lessons will be taught in the show on Lifetime!
    Why would they want to be in the public eye when they saw how it treated Whitney! Seems like they always wanted it themselves and in the wake of Whitney’s passing they are getting it and riding her coattails STILL! Its sad! SMH! GOD HELP THEM ALL!

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