Comments on: Accepting Estranged and Difficult Dads

By: michelle

michelle — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 17:50:27 +0000

“I will not expect what I know I won’t receive. I will not nurse anger that I know I have the power to release. I will not allow my father’s absence or estrangement to dictate my adult life.” this says it all. Once we accept and work to create our own healthy life, thats when I get peace. Thank u.

By: Melancholy Soul

Melancholy Soul — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 17:18:25 +0000

Well, at least my half-brother got lucky and was born a boy, because my father has been in his life for all twelve year while barely being there in ours (my sister and me) for the 26 and 28 years. Even for the three years that he lived in the same house as us, he was more into his electronics and doing things for other people than he was spending time with my sister and me.

I guess my father’s way of making amends with his parenting mistakes the first time around has been to be a good father to my brother. He moved his other family up to Canada. I guess the farther away he is from us; the better he can pretend that we don’t exist. He seems to be practicing the ‘Out of sight, out of mind’ thing.

At this point, I know that things will never change. I just hope he isn’t lying to his son about why thing are the way that they are. I haven’t seen my brother in six years.

Even when I know not to expect anything from him, it still hurts the same when I am let down.

I resent both of my parents. I am at the point where, if my father died today, I wouldn’t care!

By: Sherrell

Sherrell — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 16:15:39 +0000

This article speaks to my soul. Father’s Day is always such a bitter sweet time for me. And although I’ve “made peace” with my father, the lingering pain of not being able to post reflective thoughts of how great my father is on my facebook status or my twitter handle leaves me feeling void. I’ve had to learn to forgive my father for failing at being a parent. For not being there to protect me, teach me and make me feel whole. I’ve had to muster the strength from my mom, my community and ultimately God himself. Today, I give recognition to those men in my life who have greatly influenced me and I’ll visit the museum to make this day great and powerful. Thank you Stacie for giving the rest of us some father’s day realness and recognizing both our pain and opportunities for growth and love.

By: Isis

Isis — Sun, 17 Jun 2012 16:07:13 +0000

Lol therapy is how I cope. Thanks Dad! Lmaoo