Frenchie Davis, the absolutely gorgeous songstress who first captured hearts on American Idol, then moved on to Broadway before also making a stunning appearance on The Voice, has come out as lesbian.
“I wasn’t out before the relationship, but I wasn’t in,” she told the St. Louis Post-Dispatch. “I dated men and women, though lesbians weren’t feeling the bisexual thing. Now I’m in love with a woman I think I can be with forever.”
She also made sure to show her support for gay men, just in case we were wondering:
“I love the gays,” she says. “I love the gay boys. They have that awesome, masculine energy, but there’s also something else going on as well.”
As usual when someone has their come-out party, I did a private salute and allowed for a short internal round of applause at her bravery. But this time, I paused and asked myself:
Why do we still care?
I understand that coming out is an intensely personal experience, one full of hesitation, fear and anxiety. When someone takes that step to be re-introduced in the eyes of a world that they fully expect to shun and shame them, each person that offers a smile, hug or look of encouragement is a hero in my book.
The question “why do we still care?” is not the pseudo-acceptance of people who say “Be gay, damnit, but can you do it over there!” I really want to know: Why does society need an announcement? What is the fixation with is she or isn’t she? When do we move past treating homosexuality like some illicit fetish and instead like the natural state of being that it is?
I am proud of Frenchie for taking the next steps of her life’s journey open and honestly. Still, I look forward to the day when someone can make this kind of announcement and it’s met with shrugs and a slightly perplexed: “And why are you telling me?