Two Separate Rooms Can Make Your Marriage/Relationship Thrive
They say distance makes the heart grow fonder and this holds true even in your own home. Maintaining your individuality is important to having a healthy relationship, and sometimes having separate rooms in your home can help with this. A little “me time” is something we all need. It in no way means you love your mate any less, but rather that you don’t need to be joined at the hip every second of the day.
My man can literally watch EPSN all day; I mean all day. We enjoy spending time together and kicking back like most couples, but at times I want to watch what I want and vice versa. At times like those, I retreat to my own little room and leave him to his sports heaven. The separate rooms come in handy for those days when the two of you are home all day with not much to do. There are, of course, other extracurricular activities that can pass the time, but sometimes you want to do the little things you enjoy. If he wants to watch television, but you want to read, you can go to that separate room. If you need quiet time away from the family to just think, pray, or maintain your sanity, this extra room will be a godsend.
Constantly being in each other’s space can drive the two of you crazy after a while. Having a sanctuary of your own can strengthen your relationship. When you feel like you are about to go off on your mate and say things you will later regret, you can go to this room to blow off steam.
The idea of separate rooms from your mate is not a new one. Author of Marriage Confidential: The Post-Romantic Age of Workhorse Wives, Royal Children, Undersexed Spouses and Rebel Couples Who Are Rewriting the Rules Pamela Haag says separate bedrooms may be the solution to saving any relationship on the rocks.
“Already one in four Americans sleeps in separate bedrooms or beds from their spouses. The National Association of Homebuilders predicts that by 2015, 60 percent of new homes will be designed with ‘dual master bedrooms.’”
I don’t agree with sleeping in a separate room from your mate because I feel the best part of my day is laying in bed with the one I love, cuddling up and falling asleep in his arms.
One of my favorite episodes from the “Cosby Show” is when Bill built that separate room for Claire. They were by no means having issues in their marriage, but she loved it because it was her private little getaway. We all need our own personal piece of tranquility to get us through the rough patches.
What about separate houses, will it have the same affect on a relationship? How about separate countries lol just kidding.
I have to agree with this article. I love my sweetie dearly, but his interests are sports ALL DAY, history, military channels, and politics. I “like” sports and political channels sometimes, sitcoms (can watch The Parkers and Jeffersons all day), an occasional reality show, and the hour long dramas like Greys Anatomy and Drop Dead Diva (weird, I know). At those times, we will kiss and head to separate rooms to watch TV. When it is bedtime, we sleep in the bedroom together – although I do occasionally sleep in the guest room when his snoring is unbearable!! : )
We sleep in two separate rooms the night before each other has to work because he snores really loud and I have to wake up really early and I don’t want to wake him up while Im getting ready.
My parents also slept in separate rooms during the work week and they’ve been married for 22 years!
I was just going to post the same thing. I’ve seen lots of articles lately that try to make it seem as if sleeping in separate beds means your relationship is over, but I’ve been happily married for 12 years and I don’t sleep in the same bed with my husband. He snores so loud the walls vibrate. We spend lots of awake time together, but when it’s time to sleep, I need peace and quiet.
Yes! If we slept together THEN our marriage would be in trouble because I would be awake all night listening to him snore which would cause to me to be a a little bit of a attitude throughout the day.
I think that having separate rooms does help. When we actually started using the extra room so that we can have our own space, our relationship improved almost instantly. Sometimes you don’t realize that always being around each other and not taking that time to nurture yourself and be your own individual can take a toll on things and make everything more “tense,” for lack of a better word.
To have a private little getaway is a necessity for me. Even when I purchased my starter home, I chose it because it had a small reading area and nice kitchen. With my family increasing, that is something I will try to create even if we don’t have the ample space at first.