Thank you. I plan to hyphenate as I will be slightly older when I marry and cannot give up my adult identity but do wish to have the same last name in part as my child. Works for me.
I think it’s pretentious to hyphenate, here’s why. Taking his name has always been a sign of commitment, hyphenating it gives the impression of no intention of following through with the commitment. It is a symbol (IMO) that further affirms the divorce rate levels we are currently experiencing, the rules have changed and only the feminine gender seem to understand the new rules…. because they wrote them, without any consultation. Why? Because its their bodies and life and should be able to do what they feel with it. Agreed to some extent, but they forgot to look at what they are compromising. Hyphenating a name to a man of tradition means non acceptance. Here is a little fact everyone knows and forgets, when you get married all the vows you say from engagement to the alter is an affirmation of acceptance and dissolution of independence. Married folks are not independent they depend on each other. Households with marriage are full of “requests” and presentation of “unity”. The writer here says her name is her Identity, I disagree, your name is your name, Shakespeare put it into context. The point is when you get married doesn’t your identity change as well? Don’t you consider yourself as a person transformed? Society does and so should you. Your candid responses below
Really, all this over a name? Commitment has little to do with a name. Change your name to Optimus Prime, I don’t care. Commitment is Commitment is Commitment. I dont need to have my husbands name to prove I am commited to him. I dont need to prove to ANYONE that I am commioted to him, except to him. And he already knows that. Suck it up. A woman not taking your name or adding it to hers does not mean she is not commited. What does it say that you feel the need to have her change it to yours? Do you need to feel like you own her? Like shes yours? You sound posessive; This explains your written above. While your lives are joined, you stay as individuals joined together in love. If you are not divorced, I assure you will be some day. The REASON people get divorced is they lose themselves. Lost in all of the stresses in life. If you give yourself up, who are you? To say you dissolve yourself into a marriage is ignorance. Thats the struggle with life, love, and anything else; Becoming a part of something that is larger than yourself while still maintaining and being true to you as an individual. A wife can accept that her husband is traditional yet still stay true to what she wants to do by keeping her name. And if a non traditional woman marries a traditional man; He must not mind at all because hes marrying her isnt he? He already knows. This isn’t the 50′s. Men are just angry because we don’t just stay in the kitchen and give them babies anymore. We actually stand up to them and they don’t like it and have their panties in a hike. Quit cryin already.
Your words carry some weight as well as some distasteful wishes, However to skipping the negatives and focusing on your positives. Yes this is not the 50′s and men don’t literally pick women from their fathers doorsteps anymore to a life of wedded bliss. Women have their own identities to protect as well as engaging careers. I also agree with your point that marriage does not mean each person losing themselves for that will surely be disastrous for both partners.
Also; To all you whiney asses complaining “Oh I have to do more work because someone hyphenated their name” The world does not revolve around you, people do not soley act to make your life or your job convenient, do your job, get over it. We have to purchase a lot more headache medication and anger management classes living in a world full of people like you. Did Mommy do everything for you? Are you angry she doesn’t help you? Do you want me to hold your hand? Not that complicated. Get used to the fact that people make choices that are best fro them every day, and don’t think twice about your blubbering butt. Don’t expect that to change. Learn to communicate effectively with the general population, ask for clarification on the name, take the time to gain KNOWLEDGE something you clearly lack. If it “doesn’t matter” what your name is (–The Rock) or “Nobody cares” then WHY. Are you bitching about people who hyphenate? Hmmm? I guess someone does care! Whiners…Get a real hobby.
I just think you’re a stupid c*nt
Do us a favor and get your balls out of your wife/girlfriends purse before you attempt to type next time
Thank you. I plan to hyphenate as I will be slightly older when I marry and cannot give up my adult identity but do wish to have the same last name in part as my child. Works for me.
I think it’s pretentious to hyphenate, here’s why. Taking his name has always been a sign of commitment, hyphenating it gives the impression of no intention of following through with the commitment. It is a symbol (IMO) that further affirms the divorce rate levels we are currently experiencing, the rules have changed and only the feminine gender seem to understand the new rules…. because they wrote them, without any consultation. Why? Because its their bodies and life and should be able to do what they feel with it. Agreed to some extent, but they forgot to look at what they are compromising. Hyphenating a name to a man of tradition means non acceptance. Here is a little fact everyone knows and forgets, when you get married all the vows you say from engagement to the alter is an affirmation of acceptance and dissolution of independence. Married folks are not independent they depend on each other. Households with marriage are full of “requests” and presentation of “unity”. The writer here says her name is her Identity, I disagree, your name is your name, Shakespeare put it into context. The point is when you get married doesn’t your identity change as well? Don’t you consider yourself as a person transformed? Society does and so should you. Your candid responses below
Really, all this over a name? Commitment has little to do with a name. Change your name to Optimus Prime, I don’t care. Commitment is Commitment is Commitment. I dont need to have my husbands name to prove I am commited to him. I dont need to prove to ANYONE that I am commioted to him, except to him. And he already knows that. Suck it up. A woman not taking your name or adding it to hers does not mean she is not commited. What does it say that you feel the need to have her change it to yours? Do you need to feel like you own her? Like shes yours? You sound posessive; This explains your written above. While your lives are joined, you stay as individuals joined together in love. If you are not divorced, I assure you will be some day. The REASON people get divorced is they lose themselves. Lost in all of the stresses in life. If you give yourself up, who are you? To say you dissolve yourself into a marriage is ignorance. Thats the struggle with life, love, and anything else; Becoming a part of something that is larger than yourself while still maintaining and being true to you as an individual. A wife can accept that her husband is traditional yet still stay true to what she wants to do by keeping her name. And if a non traditional woman marries a traditional man; He must not mind at all because hes marrying her isnt he? He already knows. This isn’t the 50′s. Men are just angry because we don’t just stay in the kitchen and give them babies anymore. We actually stand up to them and they don’t like it and have their panties in a hike. Quit cryin already.
Thank Nicole for your response,
Your words carry some weight as well as some distasteful wishes, However to skipping the negatives and focusing on your positives. Yes this is not the 50′s and men don’t literally pick women from their fathers doorsteps anymore to a life of wedded bliss. Women have their own identities to protect as well as engaging careers. I also agree with your point that marriage does not mean each person losing themselves for that will surely be disastrous for both partners.
Also; To all you whiney asses complaining “Oh I have to do more work because someone hyphenated their name” The world does not revolve around you, people do not soley act to make your life or your job convenient, do your job, get over it. We have to purchase a lot more headache medication and anger management classes living in a world full of people like you. Did Mommy do everything for you? Are you angry she doesn’t help you? Do you want me to hold your hand? Not that complicated. Get used to the fact that people make choices that are best fro them every day, and don’t think twice about your blubbering butt. Don’t expect that to change. Learn to communicate effectively with the general population, ask for clarification on the name, take the time to gain KNOWLEDGE something you clearly lack. If it “doesn’t matter” what your name is (–The Rock) or “Nobody cares” then WHY. Are you bitching about people who hyphenate? Hmmm? I guess someone does care! Whiners…Get a real hobby.