As R. Kelly’s ex-wife, Andrea Kelly, steps into the spotlight with VH1’s reality show “Hollywood Exes,” the singer has become more open than ever about their divorce. In his new memoir Soulacoaster R. Kelly discusses how the film The Notebook, which came out in 2004, impacted the dissolution of their marriage in 2009.
According to TMZ, he was hurt that his marriage didn’t live up to the one depicted on film. He writes:
“As the film credits started to roll, I couldn’t move. I burst into tears. People walking past me patted me on the back, trying to console me. The Notebook was beautiful, and I was crying because its hero and heroine had died together. But I was also crying because I remembered a Valentine’s Day — when a helicopter dropped a rainfall of roses — that had come and gone …. My marriage had died. And there was nothing I could do to bring it back.”
While a movie was obviously not the sole cause for their divorce (,as Andrea points out), there’s something to be said for how the fantasy of romance, whether on film or in novels, plays a role in forming many people’s views on marriage. When their reality doesn’t live up to that perfect marriage they imagined or saw on film, divorce almost seems imminent.
Recently, now-divorced singer Katy Perry made the same claim, saying:
“Being in love is a dream, but the reality is not like the movies. There’s a lot more compromise and sacrifice …. The truth is I’m a romantic and I believed in the fairytale …. I did everything I could, but it still failed. The dream of being in love is a lot different than the reality of making it work.”
We’re sure this battle between fantasy and reality is the impetus behind many divorces, and not just in Hollywood.