I feel like, even if you’ve changed, whatever it is about the person you were with that made you comfortable enough to try him/her the first time is probably still there. So what’s to say you won’t fall back into that same comfort zone and let old habits creep back up the second time?
If you truly have changed, let the next person benefit from that. Forgive, seek forgiveness, and apply your lessons learned to the next potential blessing, but don’t get caught in the cycle. Sometimes, it’s not about how good you are or have become if you’re with the wrong person to complement your growth.
You should have just chuck that dude the dueces and been like poof pw be gone and texting the convo is what is draining lol. He messed up big time like alot of screwups think that grass is green on that side. Then when they get bored of that life come back at you. Not because they have changed its because of arrogance, certain people believe they can treat others like dirt, then waltz they behinds back in your life because they can. None of us are Jesus or the Pope so no one is owed forgiveness you either can choose to forgive or not its really up to the wronged party. Bottom line if you meant anything to this chump he would have acted right when yall was together and showed real remorse. Dont entertain anything from him let this be his lesson on how to treat the next woman better but, his chances with you are over.
I’ve found that blacklist and reject list work fine for the men I let go but can’t get that I am done and no longer want to hear their excuses and lies. I had one guy lie all the way up until he was caught and then told me not to believe what I saw. I’m not dumb or blind so I told him I was done. He has been calling and texting but I know I am worth more than that. I know I deserve a man that is honest, caring and loves only me so I can send him on his way even when I am in that lonely state.
I feel like, even if you’ve changed, whatever it is about the person you were with that made you comfortable enough to try him/her the first time is probably still there. So what’s to say you won’t fall back into that same comfort zone and let old habits creep back up the second time?
If you truly have changed, let the next person benefit from that. Forgive, seek forgiveness, and apply your lessons learned to the next potential blessing, but don’t get caught in the cycle. Sometimes, it’s not about how good you are or have become if you’re with the wrong person to complement your growth.
You should have just chuck that dude the dueces and been like poof pw be gone and texting the convo is what is draining lol. He messed up big time like alot of screwups think that grass is green on that side. Then when they get bored of that life come back at you. Not because they have changed its because of arrogance, certain people believe they can treat others like dirt, then waltz they behinds back in your life because they can. None of us are Jesus or the Pope so no one is owed forgiveness you either can choose to forgive or not its really up to the wronged party. Bottom line if you meant anything to this chump he would have acted right when yall was together and showed real remorse. Dont entertain anything from him let this be his lesson on how to treat the next woman better but, his chances with you are over.
I’ve found that blacklist and reject list work fine for the men I let go but can’t get that I am done and no longer want to hear their excuses and lies. I had one guy lie all the way up until he was caught and then told me not to believe what I saw. I’m not dumb or blind so I told him I was done. He has been calling and texting but I know I am worth more than that. I know I deserve a man that is honest, caring and loves only me so I can send him on his way even when I am in that lonely state.