Lil Scrappy Owes Child Support

Last night on “Love & Hip Hop Atlanta” rapper Lil’ Scrappy attempted to make amends with his longtime girlfriend and mother of his child, Erica Dixon. After deciding to take a break from living together (and apparently, their relationship), Scrappy asked Erica if he could also take a break from paying child support for their 7-year-old daughter Emani.

Umm … what?

While Erica is working hard to support herself and Emani, it seems as though Scrappy’s career is struggling. After having a couple of hits a few years ago, his music career has taken a turn for the worse and his money isn’t what it used to be. And now that Scrappy and Erica are apart, it looks like he wants to take care of his daughter on his own terms, but Erica isn’t falling for it.

Last night, Scrappy apologized for how he’s been stringing Erica along while he gets himself together. Although he says he wants them ultimately to be together, he isn’t ready to commit fully to her now. Erica stood her ground and told Scrappy she wasn’t going to be mistreated anymore and claims that chapter of her life is now closed. As they seemed to come to an understanding, Scrappy then asked if Erica would have the child support order lifted because “he takes care of his child,” but she refused, reminding him that she asked him for money for their daughter and still hadn’t received it.

We’ve seen this scenario play out time and time again. The parent with primary custody wants the other parent to step up and pay their fair share, and the non-custodial parent feels like what he is doing is enough. While it may seem adversarial to involve the court in such decisions, allowing a third party to determine the minimum amount that should be paid toward the child’s care is not only fair, but it’s best for all involved.

While some couples are able to work out amicable agreements, far too often we’ve seen the reverse. When emotions and loyalties are in play, things can get blurred and the money it takes to provide for a child can be put in jeopardy.

Because Erica hasn’t been holding Scrappy accountable, his support for his child has been lacking. But now that the court will be involved, he’ll have no choice but to pay up or suffer the consequences.

Parenting isn’t easy, and when you have to share parenting duties with a former partner, things can get even more complicated. Because children cannot eat air and good intentions, it’s important that both parents work out an agreement that is fair and, above all else, provides for their child.

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  • KG

    The whole child support and who is responsible for the child really grinds my gears. First thing first, for certain men who feel like they should have a right to walk away from an “unwanted” pregnancy, you had every right to prevent said “unwanted” pregnancy by wearing a condom. Any person in their right mind should be able to understand that 1 egg + 1 sperm+ unprotected sex (whether failure to use a condom or the woman to be on contraceptives) = PREGNANCY. Please, stop the madness people. If you truly DO NOT desire to have children then refrain from having sex. It absolutely AMAZES me how people will freely engage in unprotected, casual sex with someone that they obviously cannot fathom being connected to for life. Also, I have been in the presence men who ridiculously believe that paying child support, as mandated by the courts, is enough because that’s what the law requires of the. HORRIBLE! While providing food, clothing, and shelter for a child is a huge part meeting that child’s needs, any rational adult must admit that it takes far more than a check to raise a child. Children need to know that the man responsible for playing a part in creating them actually loves them by the Father making it a priority to spend time with the child. Some men are running around saying that if they are put on CS then the mother better not call for anything extra or that she will be a single parent. Let’s be real, unless an athlete or celebrity fathered your child, court mandated payments are minimal in comparison to what it really cost to provide for a child. The fact of the matter is, women, before the thought even crosses your mind about having sex with a man, engage in SEVERAL conversations about his feelings and perceptions about his role in his children’s lives. OBJECTIVELY observe how this man behaves financially, emotionally, etc. If he’s suspect and irresponsible, and unwilling to commit to you BEFORE the sex, then he will be the same shiftless person after you are impregnated. Men, if you already know that this is just a casual encounter or that you can’t see yourself procreating with this woman, WRAP….IT….UP or don’t have sex at all.

    • my_reply

      Right? Mr. Pauley upthread whining about there being consequences for his irresponsible actions is beyond crazy. *The poor innocent deadbeats need to be freed from their responsibility* Nope. You had abstinence and condoms to prevent a pregnancy, and you didn’t do it. The child is here now. Man up. Women have options to prevent pregnancies not walk away from children that are already here. He thinks that abandonment is the man’s version of an abortion. I will be happy when they get this male birth control on the market. That should be lots of protection then. She uses her birth control. The man uses his birth control, and then you also wear a condom to prevent STDs. Wow! That’s a lot of protection. For some reason, I don’t think that will help too much. Men who can’t afford it will start lying about being on it just to have sex without the condom. Women will still get pregnant, and STD rates will rise.

  • Paul

    I’m not particularly concerned about CS because I live in a country where men don’t go to jail for so called defaulting, however I find the ethical issues raised by Child Support make it an excellent topic of debate.

    That does of course depend on whether you can find a debate opponent who can elaborate and develop their ideas to counter yours, rather than a fool who can only repeat themselves.

    :-)

    No luck on that with my last “challenger” so let’s move onto to something else.

    The – “what about the children?” argument.

    Which is an argument intended to silence any examination of the CS system because it implies that CS is the only way to support the children of broken families.

    pah!

    Ok

    “what about the children?”

    What do the children get out of child support?

    Most women tell us that it is inadequate, albeit better than nothing.

    That’s it.

    So these people show their concern for children by accepting a substandard solution on children’s behalf.

    Jokers.

    Is child support really a satisfactory substitute for a FATHER?

    really?

    Why would anyone accept pennies over the presence of a child’s father in a child’s life? Shows you what it’s really all about for these people.

    Indeed “what about the children?”

    btw – has anyone ever asked the children what they want?

    Do they want dad’s pennies or do they want dad?

    And what about men themselves, whether dad’s or not? Personally, it doesn’t cheer me to feel that the only value I’d have to my children is how much I’d be able to give their mother for their upkeep.

    That’s not what fatherhood means to me.

    So yeh – “what about the children?”

    One thing’s for sure – no one in this discussion (except me) has any real concern for children.

    • Paul

      Should read

      ethical issues raised in the American CS system

    • echidiime

      So, when are you going to tell us the name of this awesome country you come from where men refuse to be men, but rather spread their seed around freely like irresponsible he-goats?

  • Paul

    And finally

    it’s really this simple, if men are to be denied walk away rights, those rights should also be denied to women. If not then how do you reconcile allowing women to walk away via safe haven and adoption, but not men on similar terms?

    All the same arguments for giving women these options can be applied for men. Poverty, underage, inexperience . . . etc.

    So unless we can find someone with the BRAINS to tell us why it’s ok for women to walk away from their children, but not men – anyone who objects to men having walk away rights is a fool and a hypocrite.

  • Quez

    Child Support (in California) is Time spent with the children Vs Who makes more. Some women WILL NOT go to court because without a man, husband or willing boyfriend to support them, they have to WORK. Scrappy fell off, he could make less than Erica therefore with time spent and her earning more, she would pay him child support.

    Maybe we are looking at this from an outdated view point where men are financial providers. MEN SHOULD GET CHILD SUPPORT TOO! or Erica should decide if she wants to be alone, with another man or scrappy.

    A man getting child support isn’t less of a man, that is the outdated idea that needs to be changed in society. Would you rather a man walk away or spend time with his children at a woman’s cost. How beneficial is a man in a child’s life is the question…..

    Of course im a man, im going through this situation myself. Me and my wife have been to a paralegal about a divorce and that was the question. Without me paying for the roof over our heads she has too work, will she make more money than me?… Maybe, I have my daughter Thursday-Sunday, Every week. What type of man do you have? Educated, good job, non-hustler, straight up guy….He’s going to get screwed. Hustler, jack of all trades, no W-2’s….Your going to get screwed