The word “weave” elicits eye rolls and furrowed brows from most people of color. But the reality is weave wearers enjoy a plethora of benefits that make it hard to walk away from hair extensions.
For one, there’s the versatility weave provides. Studies have proved that women love switching up their hair and weave offers a viable way to try a haircut, a color, and even a new texture without committing long term.
There’s also the convenience of doing minimal upkeep, when compared to the time and effort it takes to maintain actual hair. And for the record, I am well aware that not all weaves are created equal and many women have yet to perfect the art of blending. But for those that do, weave is a favorable alternative to hours spent styling hair in the bathroom or sitting in a salon.
Furthermore, when my hair’s not at its healthiest, I can slap in a weave and in less than two hours, my “hair” is more shiny, luscious, and full than it’s ever been. In fact, the more damaged my hair becomes, the more I rely on weave. Extensions are an easy way out of a hair emergency. Instead of struggling to tame strands compromised by heat or chemicals, I can braid my hair up and sew in a beautiful weave. Crisis averted.
For 11 years, I relished all the benefits of wearing weave. And then I got tired of it. I wanted to be able to feel the wind blow through my own hair. I wanted to massage my scalp with my fingertips and not feel tracks. I wanted to say proudly, “it’s all mine” when someone inquired if my gorgeous head of hair actually grew from my scalp. And most importantly, I wanted to keep in my (dwindling) bank account the $400 it costs for a sew-in every three months.
Thus, I swore off fake hair. A year and six months have passed and I’m itching to give up and sew in some tracks. I’ve struggled over why I feel this way. Yes, weave is easier to maintain. And yes, it has a way of appearing perfect. (Anyone who does their hair daily knows, there’s always a strand or a curl that just doesn’t want to behave while weave pretty much bends, curls, and twists at your command.)
But is it deeper than that? Do I not feel beautiful without 16 to 18 inches of Brazilian wavy or kinky curly flowing from my head?
The truth is, like any addiction, the battle is mostly psychological. Weaves and wigs have become a security blanket for many women, some of whom haven’t seen their real hair in years. We become addicted to the fantasy and convenience of it all, which our real hair will never live up to.
As I reach my personal two-year mark, I am renewing my commitment to deal with my real hair, on its good and bad days, no matter how strenuous the upkeep or how unpolished it looks. I want to feel comfortable in my own skin, and that includes the hair that grows out of my head. And I will make it past the beauty supply store without running into buy a relaxer, two packs of human hair, a needle, and thread … I hope.
Clutchettes, what has your experience been with weave or wigs? Have you ever been addicted? Why do you think so many women choose weaves instead of learning to style their real hair? Discuss.