Despite earlier reports that rapper The Game (Jayceon Taylor) and his fiance, Tiffney Cambridge, were shopping a reality show centerered around their impending nuptials, the couple announced yesterday that the wedding is off. They broke the news themselves via their public wedding website. The ceremony was to take place later this month on July 28. The couple have two children.
This is The Game’s second broken engagement. His first, to Valeisha Butterfield, was dissolved in 2006.
It’s always a bit jarring when a couple abruptly cancels a wedding, but it’s also a testament to the couple’s ability to trust their instincts. If it’s not right, it’s not right, and just because you’re in the public eye (so public, in fact, that you were planning to televise your vows) doesn’t mean you have to go through with something your conscious/instinct/gut tells you is all wrong.
Reports are conflicting about who broke off the engagement, but either way, perhaps it’s better they end it now than keep going and have a toxic marriage and an ugly, protracted divorce. The Game hinted at brewing trouble via his Twitter page in the days leading up to the announcement:
Following the news, he tweeted:
Whether because of the gut’s propensity to raise red flags, a series of uncomfortable situations and clues, or a case of “cold feet,” the cancellation of weddings — particularly by the bride-to-be — is a growing phenomenon:
A cancelled wedding is nothing new. Ten to 15 percent are called off annually. But Shannon Tilley, a 36-year-old marketing manager from Atlanta, is on the cusp of a growing trend: women doing the walking. While numbers are hard to come by, wedding planners such as Marley Majcher of The Party Goddess in L.A. and Erin Halley of Erin Halley Events & Productions in New York say 75 percent of back-outs now come from the bride, the same percentage, by Majcher’s count, that came from the groom only a few years ago.
Knowing when to walk away is a particular gift, one that eludes many a couple in love (or under the pressure and expense of an engagement).
Have you ever broken off an engagement or ended a relationship you thought might be headed toward ill-fated marriage? How did you know when to walk?