Awkward and weird…no thanks! Has the sea of fish gotten that small that you have to take your bff’s leftovers? If we are talking about a situation in which the friend only went on one or two dates then maybe, but I would still be hesitant even then! (especially if she slept with him). No, I’d rather go out and find my own, there are plenty of eligible men. Anyone who thinks that there isn’t, either needs to go out more or take a good long look at their list of standards.
I was in a situation two years ago where I moved to a new city and met a guy through a new friendInstead of telling me she and the guy used to “talk” (they hadn’t slept together at that point) she kept it a secret. After we broke up, she told me that she had feelings for him and she had started seeing him after we ended our relationship. WTF? I didn’t really trip because our friendship was new and she knew the guy longer. But it was kind of shady. Now I prefer to date men that NOBODY in my current circles know on any type of personal level.
I once had a situation that applies to Article #8. I used to hang with a group that would meet up socially on occasion for dinner, happy hour, etc. I approached one of the single women in the group about a future exclusive date and she supplied her contact info. Upon that initial one-on-one contact she revealed that she couldn’t go out with me. There was a female in the group (let’s call her ”Girl X”) that apparently had gotten upset with the person of interest because Girl X had expressed interest in me to the females of the social clique. But I was not aware of this interest in me from Girl X, she had never made it known to me and I had no interest in her.
So out of loyalty to her friend, the person of interest rescinded her decision about going out with me. I was momentarily upset with someone who had interest in me but was too afraid to express it to me yet seemingly had called “dibs” on me. While I don’t know what would’ve happened with the person of interest but I regarded what Girl X had done as straight sabotage.
Just found out a family member was scheming and throwing herself at a dude I dated for few years (recent as of late 2010)! Played herself and sent him all sorts of inappropriate things, was chatting with him for months BEHIND my back ; and was indignant when confronted with the evidence. Needless to say, I was less than kind when giving her a public flogging of sorts.
There are more than enough men out here that women who are close friends don’t need to dip in each other’s pool of ex’s. Loyalty is certainly a thing of the past with some people.
Awkward and weird…no thanks! Has the sea of fish gotten that small that you have to take your bff’s leftovers? If we are talking about a situation in which the friend only went on one or two dates then maybe, but I would still be hesitant even then! (especially if she slept with him). No, I’d rather go out and find my own, there are plenty of eligible men. Anyone who thinks that there isn’t, either needs to go out more or take a good long look at their list of standards.
I was in a situation two years ago where I moved to a new city and met a guy through a new friendInstead of telling me she and the guy used to “talk” (they hadn’t slept together at that point) she kept it a secret. After we broke up, she told me that she had feelings for him and she had started seeing him after we ended our relationship. WTF? I didn’t really trip because our friendship was new and she knew the guy longer. But it was kind of shady. Now I prefer to date men that NOBODY in my current circles know on any type of personal level.
How about this-if you want to keep that woman as your friend, just don’t date her ex. That’s a recipe for disaster.
I once had a situation that applies to Article #8. I used to hang with a group that would meet up socially on occasion for dinner, happy hour, etc. I approached one of the single women in the group about a future exclusive date and she supplied her contact info. Upon that initial one-on-one contact she revealed that she couldn’t go out with me. There was a female in the group (let’s call her ”Girl X”) that apparently had gotten upset with the person of interest because Girl X had expressed interest in me to the females of the social clique. But I was not aware of this interest in me from Girl X, she had never made it known to me and I had no interest in her.
So out of loyalty to her friend, the person of interest rescinded her decision about going out with me. I was momentarily upset with someone who had interest in me but was too afraid to express it to me yet seemingly had called “dibs” on me. While I don’t know what would’ve happened with the person of interest but I regarded what Girl X had done as straight sabotage.
Just found out a family member was scheming and throwing herself at a dude I dated for few years (recent as of late 2010)! Played herself and sent him all sorts of inappropriate things, was chatting with him for months BEHIND my back ; and was indignant when confronted with the evidence. Needless to say, I was less than kind when giving her a public flogging of sorts.
There are more than enough men out here that women who are close friends don’t need to dip in each other’s pool of ex’s. Loyalty is certainly a thing of the past with some people.