I had similar mixed feelings when my grandfather passed. his relationship with my mother crashed when she became the teenaged mother of me. He resented her for making the mistake and they barely communicated all my life. When he became fatally ill from HIV 2years ago I noticed my mother frantically trying to make amends and repair their broken relationship before he passed. After he passed, I felt a sort of resentment towards him AND my mom. I grew up without a father and this man was my grandfather. I felt like I was robbed of a relationship with him because of the sheer stubborness of him to forgive my mom and resume being her dad despite her being a teen mom. It was really wierd at the funeral. I felt disconnected almost. I must admit it hurt.
This is a deeply moving story. Thank you for sharing.
I had similar mixed feelings when my grandfather passed. his relationship with my mother crashed when she became the teenaged mother of me. He resented her for making the mistake and they barely communicated all my life. When he became fatally ill from HIV 2years ago I noticed my mother frantically trying to make amends and repair their broken relationship before he passed. After he passed, I felt a sort of resentment towards him AND my mom. I grew up without a father and this man was my grandfather. I felt like I was robbed of a relationship with him because of the sheer stubborness of him to forgive my mom and resume being her dad despite her being a teen mom. It was really wierd at the funeral. I felt disconnected almost. I must admit it hurt.