Sheri Meyers, author of Chatting or Cheating: How to Detect Infidelity, Rebuild Love and Affair-Proof Your Relationship, has adapted some of her content in an article at Huff Post Women. She’s got seven ways to tell if your man is stepping out on you, and if you’ve ever dated a cheater, each of the signs will be familiar to you. Check them out:
Red Flag #1 They’re suddenly more aloof, withdrawn or want more “space.”
Red Flag #2 They’ve lost interest in you, your problems and sex.
Red Flag #3 They get easily annoyed, defensive or argumentative.
Red Flag #4 They’re not immediately available when you call, text or email them.
Red Flag #5 They’re spending more time online or on their cell phone than with you.
Red Flag #6 They’re acting secretive all of a sudden, especially around the computer or cell phone.
Red Flag #7 They look, smell, and dress better, but not necessarily around you.
What do you think? Are all of these valid reasons to suspect your partner of cheating? Red flags three, four, and five may point to other relationship challenges, like increased stress or obligations at work. If you’re feeling particularly charitable, you could give him a pass or benefit of the doubt on those. But considering that Meyers’ focus in her book is on online infidelity and guarding against affairs that begin right inside your home, right at your partner’s fingertips, maybe red flags three through five shouldn’t be given too much of a pass, after all. The others, however, are almost always signs that something bigger and more personal is amiss. Even if he’s not cheating, if he’s responding in any of those ways, he’s definitely Not That Into You.
Would you add any other red flags to Meyers’ list?