I don’t know about you, but calling me a b*tch will do little but get me upset.

Much like the n-word, I never understood how some women “reclaimed” this word and now use it as a term of endearment for their closest friends. Or worse, how a man could fix his lips to call his significant other his b*tch (*cue Jay-Z*). Parsing out the inflection in someone’s voice when they use the b-word takes too much effort, so I don’t use it as anything but a dagger, and even then, I reserve it for only the vilest folks—both male and female alike.

You see, I come from the Latifah School of Queendom, and back in ’94 when I was coming into my own her in-your-face song, U.N.I.T.Y., which challenged any man (or woman) who dared to step to her wrong, became my anthem. Years later it inspired my first foray onto the web. And even today, now that I’m on the other side of 30, it is still is my go-to joint when I need a bit of a pick-me-up.

As an avid hip-hop head it sometimes feels like we’re in an abuse relationship. I love the music that doesn’t quite love me the way I want it to, and too often seems like it is on a mission to break me down. But sometimes artists shine through and remind me why I fell in love with hip-hop in the first place.

This time Lupe Fiasco takes the reins and explains why being the baddest b*tch on the block is a hollow victory.

Check it.

*Via WhoUCallinABitch

  • http://gravatar.com/chanela17 chanela17

    wow i thought i was the only one! i’m 21 and i feel the exact same way! a lot of hip hop is ridiculously disrespectful and i can’t believe women are singing along to it. it makes me sad to say this but, i don’t see non black artists treating their women this way. in spanish music they talk about love and wanting to marry a woman,in j pop and k pop they talk about the same things. it seems like black male artists are the only ones making nothing but songs about bitches and hoes and slap a bitch and i just wanna fuck and toot it and boot it. it’s SAD and it’s embarrassing!

  • E.M.S.

    “B*tch bad, Woman good, Lady Better, they misunderstood.” They most certainly did!

    I agree with msmicia, Lupe Fiasco is the BEST. His music is constructive and provokes both the world of hip hop and the black community to reflect on their behaviors. Can’t wait to see more reactions to this song.

    It’s frightening how so many young people truly believe life is about being a “bad b*tch” or a “real n*gga.” How about being an educated, intelligent, and successful person who’s making a positive impact on the world? You know something’s wrong with society when I’m disgusted with my own generation at the ripe old age of 21.

  • MsDiannaT

    I don’t like this video or song for many reasons:

    1. Why is it only addressing the woman and how she needs to respect herself?
    2. Why does it not address all the male rappers that started this whole “b*tch” craze?
    3. Just because a woman want’s to call herself or be called a “b*tch” and dress provocatively doesn’t make her any less than. She could be just as smart or smarter than someone wearing a skirt suit.

    I don’t call myself or my friends bitches because I think it’s disrespectful, but who am I to say it’s wrong for someone else to do that. I see this video as another way for the world to tell women to stop being hoochies and policing our lives so we can raise better children when in reality, irresponsible women are not the biggest issue.

    Btw, I used to love Lupe. Now, not so much. After his comments about the President, I was done.

  • ChillyRoad

    Well lets put our money where our mouth is and support artist like this.

  • ChillyRoad

    Japanese, Korean, and Hispanics comes from some of the most racist, tribal, sexist, and colorist societies on the planet. Their pop music may not reflect the gutter but their culture certainly does.

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