Mostly a.’s: You’re a Toni! You’re used to being in the spotlight and are more often the recipient of attention and support than the giver. But that doesn’t mean you’re heartless or insensitive. You do care about those closest to you, but you’re more comfortable with a hands-off approach. If you don’t get into their business, hopefully, they’ll stay out of yours. You take a once bitten, twice shy approach to relationships, believing it’s better to marry for money than love. Most of your efforts are focused on gaining or reclaiming success in your chosen field, and most of what interfere with that isn’t worthy of your time. Though you insist to others that you don’t like attention, it’s pretty obvious that you thrive on it. Remember that maintaining close personal relationships with people who have your best interests at heart–personal interests, not business–is more important than any worldly gain.
Mostly b.’s: You’re a Towanda! You’re giving to a fault–except to the people who matter most: your lover (and/or kids). You’ll drop everything for friends/family–including your own dreams–because you’re driven by a need to be needed and appreciated. This means that you are a prime target for users and manipulators. It also means that your generosity is masking an intense need for validation. You owe to yourself to find out what’s motivating that need and resolve it. Put yourself and your family first for a change, and see what good could come of it.
Mostly c.’s: You’re a Trina! You’re probably the sweetest person in your family, but you’re also one of the most troubled. You have a penchant for picking bad romantic partners, and staying with them far beyond a healthy number of years. Your deep fear of infidelity stems from bad examples of marriage and commitment you witnessed growing up. You’re prone to mask your pain with a smile or with partying. Really take time to tend to your emotional wounds. Make sure that they fully heal before you embark on new pursuits or else you’ll find yourself dealing with the same issues for years to come.
Mostly d.’s: You’re a Tamar! Quiet as it’s kept, you’re far more emotionally sensitive than people realize. Maybe that’s because you’re so committed to the role of the loud and larger-than-life center of attention. You’ve made sure that everything, from your hair and fashion to your speaking voice and attitude, will call attention to you. This is, in part, because you fear that you’ll be remembered for having lived in someone else’s shadow: a more popular friend or sibling, a more financially successful and socially respected husband. Ultimately, your performance had led you to a life others only dream of, but be careful that your public face doesn’t overwhelm who you really are. Don’t be afraid to let others see what lies beneath.
Mostly e.’s: You’re a Traci! You are constantly underestimated, and as a result, you rarely believe you can stand on your own two feet. You think you need the constant, vocal support of friends and family before you can try and succeed at new endeavors. But no one will be as invested in your dreams as you–so it’s time for you to start believing in yourself and not caring so much what other people believe about you. Try something new once a week. Start small. Don’t tell anyone what you’re planning until after you’ve already done it. Build confidence as an individual. You can do it! You have a better life and a better shot at success than you think. Appreciate the good.