3 Things We Learned from Evelyn Lozada’s ‘Iyanla, Fix My Life’ Appearance
Over the weekend Iyanla Vanzant debuted her new show, Iyanla Fix My Life, on OWN, and boy was it a doozy.
Although Vanzant had been working with basketball star Evelyn Lozada before she filed charges against her husband, former NFL player Chad Johnson, for domestic violence, due to the questions surrounding the incident, the timing of the premiere couldn’t be more perfect.
During the two-part show, we watched as Lozada struggled work through some of her issues from childhood, her baggage from past relationships, her infamous spats with her Baskbetball Wives costars, and her troubled relationship with Johnson. At the end of the first episode, Lozada seemed to be having a breakthrough and even apologized to her children (which included Johnson’s children) for how she carried herself on TV. But it was the explosive second episode that had folks talking.
In the follow-up to Lozada’s initial appearance, Vanzant aimed to get to the crux of Evelyn’s relationship issues with men, and in one poignant scene, she admitted her deepest fears and exactly why her marriage to Johnson ended so quickly.
While I watched the show, I couldn’t help but walk away with a few key points:
Daddy issues can last a lifetime: Many of Evelyn’s issues with men, and her husband Chad, seemed to stem from her non-existent relationship with her father. While the phrase “Daddy Issues” has become a clichéd catch-all for women behaving badly, our relationship with our parents can seriously affect the rest of our lives in both positive and negative ways.
Listen to your instincts: During the interview, Evelyn mentioned that she knew her relationship with Chad wasn’t ideal, but she swallowed her doubts anyway because she wanted to be loved (and married). Too often women get caught up in negative situations because we don’t listen to our intuition, and Evelyn’s very public, very messy ordeal is yet another reminder to follow our first minds.
Iyanla Vanzant is an AMAZNG counselor: She’s not one of Oprah’s trusted spiritual guru’s for nothing. During the interview Ms. Vanzant READ Evelyn and helped her see how some of her patterns contributed to her current predicament. Through pointed questions, genuine concern, and insightful wisdom, Ms. Vanzant’s ability to help people see their pathologies and choose different paths for themselves is truly amazing.
I think she’s learned from this. There is a redeemable quality in every person….if God can forgive……..
This second episode was not as profound as people made it. Iyanla did allll the taking and Evelyn followed up with a few yes’es and umm hmms but I did not see any breakthrough or real deep AHA moments that she didn’t know about already. I’ll have to see the first one to see if it was any differnet. I like Iyanla but alot of times she just likes to hear herself talk and it takes away from the true healing and a person’s real breakthrough. It’s almost better to read her books.
First off if Iyanla can fix her life in 48 (2 days of filming) hours why are we still in Iraq and Afghanistan? Better yet why the hell is Mitt Romney running for President? If she has that power why isn’t she letting people just touch the hem of her garment? Man this frackle knackle bull is all so she can become relevant. I think Michael Jackson’s monkey, Bubbles has a better chance of saving her life than Iyanla Vanzant!!! I think both Evelyn and Iyanla should go to church and repent cause watching that made me feel like I committed a sin. If she’s sorry then the President should be Ricky Bobby!!!!
They need to call this show “get your life!!”
Sister: Wow!!! UR taking this whole thing much too seriously. After all Basketball Wives, and Iyanla’s show are both just entertainment. Nothing more….nothing less
1 Profound thing I learned from Iyanla, “Vote for You!”
It seems like a great show. I look forward to hearing the advice Iyanla shares.
I didn’t watch the premiere, because this woman was on it. I’ll begin watching when everyday people appear.