It’s not so much that I get sad over the fact that I don’t have children b/c even if I do eventually marry, I plan on remaining childless. It’s just that the conversations at the family gatherings are so baby/child centric. I’d like to have the topics of politics, community issues, music, travel interjected into the conversation every once and a while, but these folks won’t budge from the talks about diapers, formulas and choosing the right instrument for upcoming music lessons. I just have to accept that this is their focus for the time being. After a few hours with the fam, I bounce and meet up for drinks with my single and childless friends
oh my goshhh. this is how i feel about my family reunions except for it being nothing but either people 60 and older or under 10.it would be so awkward especially since i didn’t know anyone’s name and didn’t really talk to anyone because of the age differences. all the older people would ask me EVERY YEAR if i was gonna be in the 10th 11th grade this year -_-
I can relate but then again I can’t because though I’ am the odd one out of being single with zero prospectives right now and no kiddies too my cousins and aunts still make me feel included, they ask me about my life, school and stuff and I get to hear all the gossip about home life and be around the kiddies (since we rarely do family gatherings/parties in my family) so it kind of balance out. As long as we respect each other we are GOOD!
I can totally relate to this article and situation — but so can lots of women. And, if it is any consolation to you, having once been married for ten years (no kids, yet) and then having been single now for ten years (working on the kids part): very few married people with children are truly happy. It is important not to romanticize marriage and children, although it is easy to do. Most married folks I know, those who have teenagers and have been married for at least 15 to 20 years, are not as happy as I am. However, few of them will admit this to each other. They only admit it to the single friend. Why? I am not completely sure. However, I think this admission to a single woman versus their married friends with kids comes from a feeling of competitiveness. Married families with children are supposed to be happy. Admitting that you aren’t, is threatening to the bs we are taught as women. Enjoy your life. As far as I know, you don’t get another one.
Some single people are happy, some aren’t…some married parents are happy…others aren’t. Bottom line is to live your life and try and love and appreciate where you are. Who knows what is going on with others.
Hit the report instead of reply button….again. Sorry.
When I was single I had my share of married friends ask to borrow money, act as an alibi for their indiscretions, or completely throw me under the bus when they got caught with a number. There are more than unhappily married women then most will admit. Imagine the bridal and toy industry collapse if people were more objective and honest.
Girl, this is the story of ny life right now!
It’s not so much that I get sad over the fact that I don’t have children b/c even if I do eventually marry, I plan on remaining childless. It’s just that the conversations at the family gatherings are so baby/child centric. I’d like to have the topics of politics, community issues, music, travel interjected into the conversation every once and a while, but these folks won’t budge from the talks about diapers, formulas and choosing the right instrument for upcoming music lessons. I just have to accept that this is their focus for the time being. After a few hours with the fam, I bounce and meet up for drinks with my single and childless friends
oh my goshhh. this is how i feel about my family reunions except for it being nothing but either people 60 and older or under 10.it would be so awkward especially since i didn’t know anyone’s name and didn’t really talk to anyone because of the age differences. all the older people would ask me EVERY YEAR if i was gonna be in the 10th 11th grade this year -_-
I can relate but then again I can’t because though I’ am the odd one out of being single with zero prospectives right now and no kiddies too my cousins and aunts still make me feel included, they ask me about my life, school and stuff and I get to hear all the gossip about home life and be around the kiddies (since we rarely do family gatherings/parties in my family) so it kind of balance out. As long as we respect each other we are GOOD!
I can totally relate to this article and situation — but so can lots of women. And, if it is any consolation to you, having once been married for ten years (no kids, yet) and then having been single now for ten years (working on the kids part): very few married people with children are truly happy. It is important not to romanticize marriage and children, although it is easy to do. Most married folks I know, those who have teenagers and have been married for at least 15 to 20 years, are not as happy as I am. However, few of them will admit this to each other. They only admit it to the single friend. Why? I am not completely sure. However, I think this admission to a single woman versus their married friends with kids comes from a feeling of competitiveness. Married families with children are supposed to be happy. Admitting that you aren’t, is threatening to the bs we are taught as women. Enjoy your life. As far as I know, you don’t get another one.
Some single people are happy, some aren’t…some married parents are happy…others aren’t. Bottom line is to live your life and try and love and appreciate where you are. Who knows what is going on with others.
Hit the report instead of reply button….again. Sorry.
When I was single I had my share of married friends ask to borrow money, act as an alibi for their indiscretions, or completely throw me under the bus when they got caught with a number. There are more than unhappily married women then most will admit. Imagine the bridal and toy industry collapse if people were more objective and honest.