As a mother, there are two things you don’t do. You don’t talk about my child, and you don’t hit my child. I am the quintessential “momma bear” and proud of it. When my son was in 5th grade, for the better part of his school year, he experienced bullying from a classmate. This classmate was 2 years older than him, but was held back previous years. One day after school was dismissed, the boy once again picked a fight with my son, but this time my son fought back. The principal called me the next day and informed me about the incident and told me my son wasn’t in trouble, but he did schedule a meeting with the other boy’s parent.

Even though my son stood up to his bully, he feared retaliation. The next day I made it a point to show up for dismissal. Sure enough I noticed the boy approaching my son. I immediately ran up to the boy and grabbed him by his backpack. All of the kids looked shocked, and I heard a few, “Ohhh, that’s Jaden’s mom.” I asked the kid to tell me where he lived, because I planned on showing up to his house. He refused. So I followed him home in my car. I confronted his mother about the incident, told her what was happening for weeks, and she took matters into her own hands. As she closed the door after our conversation, I heard her tell the kid to grab her belt. Did I feel bad he was about to get whooped? Maybe a little, but better her doing it than me. After that incident, he’s been a welcome visitor in my home and has been friends with my son ever since. But he’s still deathly afraid of me.

Unfortunately confronting a child’s bully doesn’t always go so smoothly. Take Felecia Phillips, 35, of Bunnell, Florida, as an example. Felecia is currently facing child abuse charges after a school bus brawl was caught on camera and says she has no regrets about going after a teenager she says was bullying her son. Felecia’s 15-year-old son, Terez, was being tormented by his 17-year-old bully, Justin. Because she was worried about her son’s safety she escorted him onto his bus, even before they could board the bus, Justin allegedly started arguing with Terez. Things got heated and Felecia smooshed the teen in the face. “Words kept going back and forth or whatever, and he called me out,” Felecia said. “And I smooshed him in his face or whatever,” is what Felicia told NBC Orlando affiliate WESH.com. The teen then slammed Felecia onto the ground. Felecia then allegedly followed him onto the bus, grabbing his hair as the bus driver yelled that she needed to get off the bus and other students tried to stop the brawl.

Felecia was arrested and charged with child abuse and trespassing on school property. Her bond was set at $2,500. After paying bond, she told Florida’s News4Jax.com she felt Mickens got what he deserved. “That’s what they need; a good old-fashioned whooping,” she said. “We’re not able to do that because we end up in jail — child abuse charges.

Although Justin was also involved in the altercation, he was not charged, because according to the deputies, he was fighting in self-defense. Terez feels proud of his mother, and is glad she stepped in. “I feel great about it because I know a lot of people wish they had a mom that had their back,” he told News4Jax.com. “Some parents, when you tell them, they just ignore it.”

Let’s repeat that again: Some parents, when you tell them, they just ignore it. I can definitely see that as a huge issue when it comes to bullying. I’ve heard other parents tell their kids to handle it on their own, or let the school handle. Although there are anti-bullying policies in schools, what do they really accomplish? Most will hand down a suspension or detention, and only severe bullying will get the authorities involved.

Hopefully this incident will teach this bully a lesson, and also others that may have been on that bus. Lesson #1: Stop bullying Lesson #2. If you bully Felecia’s son, you’ll have to answer to her.

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  • Fireant

    So what now, If your child gets in a fight at the school bus stop or in school, if your baby loses the fight the child that wins the fight is a bully and the parents of the child that lost the fight gets to beat up that child. Hard to believe what comments from so many think that this is ok with them. This 35 year old mother should have been kept in jail until she cleared a physiological examination by state doctors. No parent has the right to beat up someone else’s child. Reading many articles about this and this women Phillips is changing her story trying to justify how she is right. The Video is the proof and the school bus driver will testify when this goes to court.

    • Leonard Smalls

      It is a quite unfortunate fact that a sizable number of low-income Colored people resort to violence rather quickly in situations that call for rational analysis and action.

      Alternatively, this parent could have sued the school district for failure to provide a safe environment for the child while the child was in their custody as required by law. However, low-income Colored people arguably too often resort to self-help, which leads them to temporary incarceration or worse.

      Carry on.

    • Ellen

      Being terrorized by a bully is completely different form a fight! Only a bully would think the two were the same.

    • Patience

      Do you mean psychological exam? Physiology is something different.

  • MimiLuvs

    Just by reading Yesha’s memory about her son’s bully problem brings back memories. When I was a girl, I was too bullied by a boy that shared a bus ride. I was too afraid and surprisingly embarrassed to say anything at first. My mom, uncles and father had done the same thing, after an incident where the boy split my bottom lip from punching me. They all made a visit to my bully’s house. They spoken to his mom, who in my opinion feigned ignorance about her son’s behavior. It was scary for me to see, at the age of five. But the bullying did stop.

  • luvlife289

    Wow, those kids will remember that day…

  • LaNubiana

    When I have children, I sure as hell protect them including from bloody bullies. You go momma!

  • Blaque217

    Sadly, my son will never be able to come home and tell me if other kids are mean to him or if he is being bullied. He is 12 years old, has Cerebral Palsy and is unable to talk. I get riled up when we are out in public and people are staring at him, pointing, or acting like they’ve never seen a disabled child before, so if I thought he was being bullied in some way there would be hell to pay. HOWEVER, they same way I wouldn’t want someone to put their hands on my child, I wouldn’t put my hands on someone else’s child. I would like to think I would exhaust all options…talk with teachers, principals, bus drivers, other parents, etc. Anything but lose control and potentially hurt another child. We don’t live in the wild, wild west. We aren’t supposed to take matters into our own hands. What kind of message is that sending? There are other ways to protect our children other than acting like one ourselves.

    • Jess

      I understand your sentiment, but unfortunately we do live in the equivalent of the wild, wild west now – and worse! I went to a high school where a student physically beat one teacher with a baseball bat,leaving him hospitalized with numerous injuries. In fact, it was so bad that it made the newspaper. The teacher never returned, and the student never even felt the need to apologize. It was absolutely ridiculous. Maybe if more adults felt comfortable jumping in to stop violent kids in the act, we’d see less bullying.

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