My mother n law has 6 kids, I married her oldest. She only discuss her final arraignments with me her daughter n law. I knew where all her paper work was, she even told me make sure she “looked nice, in her casket” i can laugh now remembering those conversations with her. But she knew I would honor her wishes. She made sure she had insurance bc she didn’t want to family to worry about the cost. When day came i was able to honor her every wish, bc I knew what she wanted. I still had to fight w some n laws who thought I should of done things different. Now if I can only get my own parents to openly discuss final arraignments with my siblings and I.
My dad has started to have this conversation with me. He beat bladder cancer and was doing well then he fell off of a ladder last Thanksgiving which send him to the hospital for several days. He still hasn’t fully recuperated from that fall but he is still trying to do all the things he did before. There have been several times where he has pulled me aside and gave me the low down on his will and how he has or is finishing his arrangements. Every conversation leads me to tears but I understand…..
Your dad is a very smart man. My husband works for a group of funeral homes and funeral expenses are SO expensive. I know we don’t think to pre-pay funeral expenses, especially being so young, but it’s really like any other high cost expense. You save up and invest in it long term so you aren’t hit with a huge bill at one time.
My mother n law has 6 kids, I married her oldest. She only discuss her final arraignments with me her daughter n law. I knew where all her paper work was, she even told me make sure she “looked nice, in her casket” i can laugh now remembering those conversations with her. But she knew I would honor her wishes. She made sure she had insurance bc she didn’t want to family to worry about the cost. When day came i was able to honor her every wish, bc I knew what she wanted. I still had to fight w some n laws who thought I should of done things different. Now if I can only get my own parents to openly discuss final arraignments with my siblings and I.
My dad has started to have this conversation with me. He beat bladder cancer and was doing well then he fell off of a ladder last Thanksgiving which send him to the hospital for several days. He still hasn’t fully recuperated from that fall but he is still trying to do all the things he did before. There have been several times where he has pulled me aside and gave me the low down on his will and how he has or is finishing his arrangements. Every conversation leads me to tears but I understand…..
Your dad is a very smart man. My husband works for a group of funeral homes and funeral expenses are SO expensive. I know we don’t think to pre-pay funeral expenses, especially being so young, but it’s really like any other high cost expense. You save up and invest in it long term so you aren’t hit with a huge bill at one time.