There was this one time I dated a Republican. I actually didn’t realize he was a Republican until after I did some research and found his writings on a right wing website. During the span of about 5 months, we never discussed politics. Although we discussed religion, I never assumed just because he was Catholic, that Catholicism and his political views aligned. I took my best friend as an example. Raised Catholic, but clearly a Democrat. There were times when subjects such as abortion and women’s rights came up, and he had strong views against it, but that still doesn’t make a person a Republican. After I discovered his political writings online, I sent him an email and said, “Oh…interesting views.” His reply was a simple, “Yes, I think they are as well.” That night we planned a dinner as usual and never approached the subject again. Eventually he relocated, but we still keep in constant contact with each other.
There are several notable people that don’t share the same politics as their significant other. For example, former California governor, Arnold Schwarzenegger is Republican, but his estranged wife, Maria Shriver, is a Democrat. Not only is Mariaa Democrat, but I tend to refer to her as a“super” Democrat, because of her Kennedy bloodline. Then there’s political strategists Mary Matalin and James Carville. Carville is a staunch democrat, and ran Bill Clinton’s 1992 Presidential election. His wife, Mary, a Republican, ran the first Bush’s failed reelection. Both are seen occasionally debating each other on CNN and other news outlets. In an interview with CNN’s John King, the question was raised, how do they live in a household with such opposing views:
King: Our viewers have watched throughout the year. And so you come in here exclusively with us. And they often ask, “How can these two disagree so much and get along?”
And so we asked people to text in a question for James and Mary. And here’s what we got from Indiana:
“Love you both. Can you show both houses of Congress your secret for compromise?”
Matalin: Well, we’re not a democracy. We’re an enlightened MOM-archy. That’s what we are. [Cross talk.]
Carville: I don’t — it’s nothing if — as long as one person is not arguing, there’s nothing to argue about. I don’t have a — [Laughter.]
Carville: I don’t have a position on anything domestically. So I just say yes, and then go on and do it. I mean it. I would say the three ingredients to successful marriage is surrender, capitulation and retreat. If you’ve got those three things — [Laughter.]
Matalin: Spoken like a true liberal. What a martyr. Faith, family and good wine. That’s how we do it.
The fact that two political heavy hitters like Matalin and Carville are living harmoniously with different political affiliations shows me that, it not so much your political affiliation that matters, but if you’re able to disagree amicably about issues, and not bring them to the bedroom.
Does political affiliations play a role in your dating or marriage?