I am a former text addict.

There was one time in my life when I would rather text someone, instead of picking up the phone to call. I found actual conversations draining, especially if the conversation involved conflict. I’d rather curse you out over text, than actually have to scream it into a phone. Back when I was Team Blackberry, there was no way to hide the tapping sound that came from the rapid-firing of text messages. If I had something to say, my thumbs were my guide.

Nowadays, I’ve changed my texting ways, and actually prefer an actual phone call. It’s gotten to the point that I’m now annoyed by people who want to carry on a whole conversation via text messaging. Usually I just let them know that if they want to have an actual conversation, it’s better to just call me. I don’t have the time or desire to sit around texting, and having one word back and forth conversations.

Making people reachable is what technology has been thought to do, but some think that it has done the complete opposite. In a society that relies heavily on an array of devices used to communicate, has the art of conversation been lost? According to Pew Charitable Trusts, 83% of American adults have cell phones and out of that 83%, 45% of those are smart-phones. Nearly 90% own some kind of computerized device. Three in four Americans between the ages of 18 and 29 use social media.

Unfortunately, there are people who feel more comfortable with texting than actually talking, and that makes for awkward in-person interaction. Imagine being on a date, and the only conversation going on is at the other tables. At that point, do you pull out your phone and send a text to the person sitting across from you, and converse that way? Of course I’m being facetious, but there have been many occasions when I’ve felt like doing just that. I refuse to believe that conversation is a lost art that is taking a backseat to texting. I blame these unlimited text message plans, if people still had to pay 50 cent per text, I’m sure there would still be great conversations going on.

Do you think technology has made people more impersonal? Texting vs Calling – which do you prefer?

  • Patience

    I prefer texting because I hate talking on the phone.

  • Toni Childs

    It depends on the person. Some people, I just can’t with talking to them, and I prefer to text, but others – I live to hear their voice!!!

  • Lady P

    Overall, I prefer texting. Texting; imo, is one of the best inventions. In regards to my closest family and friends, to hear their voice can change my entire mood for the better. So I will have phone conversations with them.

  • LeLe

    Calling. So sad how people are unable to communicate face to face but if you text, tweet, or facebook they can talk for days.

  • C

    I prefer texting for yes/no questions and short exchanges. I cannot stand when people want to hold long conversations by texting. If we are trying to make detailed plans to go out, call me. If we are discussing your issues w/ your boyfriend, call me. I hate receiving more than 5 texts for one conversation.

  • MommieDearest


    I think texting is wonderful and it is very convenient if you have to relay the same message to a number of people at the same time (“Let’s all meet at the restaurant at 6:00 today”). It’s also great for quick and yes/no exchanges that don’t require much thought (“Are you running late?” “yes, I’ll be there about 6:45″) And I don’t know how I used to find someone at a crowded, noisy venue before texitng (“Where are you?” “I’m at the entrance to Gate C, on the south side of the building. I’ll wait here for you.”)

    But I REFUSE to have a conversation via texting. It’s so impersonal, clinical, and annoying. After the 3rd text I text the person to just call me. Or I will call them. Are we becoming that socially inept that we can’t communicate face to face (or voice to voice) anymore? .

  • cosmicsistren

    I prefer talking because sometimes things get lost in translation via text. I have had a few misunderstandings because I thought the tone of a text was one way and the person sending meant another.

  • MommieDearest

    Wow, great point! That’s happened to me before and it can be very awkward to say the least.

  • Cocochanel31

    I’m so over long drawn out converstations over nonesense on the phone during the week. The only people I will talk to are my parents and my bf. My friends and I instant message and email each other throughout the day so I don’t have a need to talk to them in the eveings unless the story is just too long via text. By the end of the day I’m drained and prefer the solitude of my own home or in person conversations when I see the person.

    I do agree that when first getting to know someone in a dating situation texting is just rude and won’t work. If all I want to do is text a guy I just meet them I’m definetly NOT interested.

  • Joy

    This is a no-brainer. Of course most people have become impersonal in this tech driven world. People walk around constantly with their heads down glued to a device. And some people hold on to their phone like it’s an appendage. Conversation is at an all time low. Sad state of affairs

  • Always Blessed

    Texting is for the birds. Good for something really quick and/or if it’s infrequent. But, texting someone back and forth, all day. Heck no… I would much prefer to pick up the phone and talk. It is very sad that people don’t know how to communicate anymore without the use of texts. Any yes, I still have a limited text plan….

  • http://www.elanvitals.wordpress.com Susan

    My kids texted me yesterday, 3 of them, with a generic “Happy Mothers Day”, nothing more. I considered it to be more of an “oh by the way”, is that weird?

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