Too Pretty to be Approached

We’ve all seen that woman. She walks in the club and jaws drop. She struts down the street like it’s a catwalk. She turns the heads of men and women. They’re not just staring at her bangin’ body—it’s her face. She’s gorgeous. Not just pretty or cute, but Drop. Dead. Gorgeous. The type of woman you could stare at forever.

But is she approachable?

Some women argue they’re not. Their “problem” is that they’re too beautiful. Too stunning. The men are too intimidated or afraid of being shot down. Or they’re fearful that a woman that hot has to have an ice-cold attitude.

If you think that’s the reason he’s not approaching you, there’s a good chance you’re wrong.

One of the greatest indicators that men aren’t afraid to approach gorgeous women is seen everyday. We’ve all noticed the couples who don’t seem equally yoked on the attractive meter. You see them walking down the street and just scratch your head. Or maybe it’s your BFF who you think is a certified stunner— and is dating a man who’s, well, uh, not too handsome. Since some women still have hang-ups about approaching men, I’m assuming that, in the majority of these cases, the men stepped to these women.

Measuring someone’s attractive quotient is completely arbitrary. Even the most beautiful girl in the world is someone’s “average.” Maybe you think you’re an absolute 10 and others tend to agree, but there’s someone who inevitably thinks you’re nice to look at, but not damn-she’s-fine material. And there’s nothing wrong with that. I’m sure there’s a man out there (somewhere?) who thinks Halle Berry is just OK. One man’s 10 is another’s 6 or 7.

“But men are afraid I’ll reject them.”

Rejection is never easy to handle it, but men have been dealing with it since adolescence. They face it on a daily basis, but that’s never stopped them from trying to holler. Is the rejection pill harder to swallow if it comes at the hands of a gorgeous woman? I’m going with no. I would think a man would be more offended or ego-crushed if a less than attractive woman spurned his advances. Some men even specifically aim for nothing but dimes. They know these women are out of their league, but keep swinging away with the hope that one will bite.

And if a man tells you he was afraid to talk to you because you’re so beautiful, that probably falls into the category of #liesmentell. Well, it’s not a complete lie. Just something he probably said to flatter you. Maybe he was initially in awe, but he got over it and got up the nerve to open his mouth. He may have been nervous. Maybe he even second guessed himself. But the “I’m too beautiful” reasoning is just as ridiculous as when a woman says that men don’t approach her because they’re “intimidated by my success.”

A confident, mature man will approach a woman, or at least give a smile of interest. If you’re convinced someone’s not going to approach you (for whatever reason) they’re probably going to live up to your expectations.

Weigh in Clutchettes, do you think men are intimidated by gorgeous women? Would you be afraid to approach a Boris Kodjoe type handsome man?

- Patrice J. Williams