No, actually they turned me off on marriage and committed relationships early on despite them working through most of their problems (and they were a LOT) and still continue to go strong today they are not a “relationship” example for me. But I did learn what I will and won’t allow in a relationship, what kind of man I don’t want, and what would be my personal breaking point…let’s just say my mom is a better woman than me on that front…
Same here never knew they ever had any issues until my nosy brother broke the news to me at 17yrs that the wind in the house was a clear indicator we will be children of divorce soon, we made plans if our parents split up, i would go with my dad him my mother the older two boys whatever they were in college, he had evidence something was going down and my mom seemed a little off but a week later my dad brought flowers they went for dinner and on vacation the next day without prior notice just two of them for 3 weeks, i said that is not a divorce kind of vacation, years later i asked my mom about that season as we call it she told me she was contemplating leaving my dad but he promised to do better & they compromised never told me what the issue was but said it weighed heavily on her heart enough that to this day my dad worships the ground she walks on and will shout it to anyone how much he adores her, she does love him but is a very reserved person. So Yes they modeled a good relationship but sadly I have followed my own sometimes rocky path:)
Oh God. I never saw my mom and dad together at all. My mom and dad split when I was too young to know. When I finally talked to him I was seventeen and then he died when I was nineteen. I had no relationship with my father so I learned about relationships from my mother and her boyfriends and how she treated us. Even though my mom didn’t know how to really deal with having young kids and being a single mom and my pops not really ever stepping up to care for us, she became frustrated and mean as we got older and just angry. I stayed away from home as much as I could to stay out of the line of fire. In hind sight, I know my mom was just dealing with her problems based on how she learned. For me those things between my dad not physically being there and my mom not being there…mentally and emotionally…I had to learn a lot on my own. I was married for fifteen years and we r now divorced. He has moved on and is remarrying and I am still single. I know tht my broken marriage opened those wounds for me and forced me to deal with feeling rejected and loveless. It was painful for me because I did not know how to love a man at all. I had no father. And I blamed myself. I am no longer in tht place and am glad tht I am still single after a year of being divorced because I could not imagine sharing my emotional baggage with another man. I had to fix me so tht I would not blame myself for everything and accepted responsibility for what I wanted in a relationship and what I could also bring to one. It was a tough road. But definitely worth it for own growth.
No, actually they turned me off on marriage and committed relationships early on despite them working through most of their problems (and they were a LOT) and still continue to go strong today they are not a “relationship” example for me. But I did learn what I will and won’t allow in a relationship, what kind of man I don’t want, and what would be my personal breaking point…let’s just say my mom is a better woman than me on that front…
Same here never knew they ever had any issues until my nosy brother broke the news to me at 17yrs that the wind in the house was a clear indicator we will be children of divorce soon, we made plans if our parents split up, i would go with my dad him my mother the older two boys whatever they were in college, he had evidence something was going down and my mom seemed a little off but a week later my dad brought flowers they went for dinner and on vacation the next day without prior notice just two of them for 3 weeks, i said that is not a divorce kind of vacation, years later i asked my mom about that season as we call it she told me she was contemplating leaving my dad but he promised to do better & they compromised never told me what the issue was but said it weighed heavily on her heart enough that to this day my dad worships the ground she walks on and will shout it to anyone how much he adores her, she does love him but is a very reserved person. So Yes they modeled a good relationship but sadly I have followed my own sometimes rocky path:)
Oh God. I never saw my mom and dad together at all. My mom and dad split when I was too young to know. When I finally talked to him I was seventeen and then he died when I was nineteen. I had no relationship with my father so I learned about relationships from my mother and her boyfriends and how she treated us. Even though my mom didn’t know how to really deal with having young kids and being a single mom and my pops not really ever stepping up to care for us, she became frustrated and mean as we got older and just angry. I stayed away from home as much as I could to stay out of the line of fire. In hind sight, I know my mom was just dealing with her problems based on how she learned. For me those things between my dad not physically being there and my mom not being there…mentally and emotionally…I had to learn a lot on my own. I was married for fifteen years and we r now divorced. He has moved on and is remarrying and I am still single. I know tht my broken marriage opened those wounds for me and forced me to deal with feeling rejected and loveless. It was painful for me because I did not know how to love a man at all. I had no father. And I blamed myself. I am no longer in tht place and am glad tht I am still single after a year of being divorced because I could not imagine sharing my emotional baggage with another man. I had to fix me so tht I would not blame myself for everything and accepted responsibility for what I wanted in a relationship and what I could also bring to one. It was a tough road. But definitely worth it for own growth.