Motherhood ain’t for everybody. But there are those of us who have always desired to one day answer to the call of “Mommy” and raise a child or two. And you never think that time could get in the way of those dreams but sometimes, it does. At least it has for me.
I looked up after I had lived fully through my 20s, travelled, studied at the top universities, made strides in my career, and realized my formidable “child-bearing years” were slowly escaping me. I hadn’t felt pressured to get married and have children while I was out enjoying the single life, not from my parents, family or even society.
But once 30 came and went, the ticking of my biological clock was ever-present. I had no husband, not even a prospect, and didn’t know one man who I’d felt would make a good father figure if I did the no-relationship, co-parenting thing, which my parents would completely disapprove of.
It was time to take matters in my own hands so I considered freezing my eggs.
If by the time I get married my natural eggs are too old, I can take my frozen eggs, have them fertilized with my partner’s sperm and then put in my uterus. At first, I was turned off (it sounds like a science experiment), so I spoke about it with one of my older friends who also wants children one day.
Her mother forbid her from fertilizing her eggs. It’s just too unnatural, she thought. If it hasn’t happened by a certain time, her mother said, it’s not meant to be.
I’m of the thinking that I can be proactive about my future, rather than letting the chance to be a mother slip through my fingers. I’m not alone. It’s estimated that 5,000 women nationwide are freezing their eggs.
As “unnatural,” as it may seem, freezing eggs might be the difference between me succeeding at having a child or not. And that makes it worth considering to me.