Motherhood ain’t for everybody. But there are those of us who have always desired to one day answer to the call of “Mommy” and raise a child or two. And you never think that time could get in the way of those dreams but sometimes, it does. At least it has for me.

I looked up after I had lived fully through my 20s, travelled, studied at the top universities, made strides in my career, and realized my formidable “child-bearing years” were slowly escaping me. I hadn’t felt pressured to get married and have children while I was out enjoying the single life, not from my parents, family or even society.

But once 30 came and went, the ticking of my biological clock was ever-present. I had no husband, not even a prospect, and didn’t know one man who I’d felt would make a good father figure if I did the no-relationship, co-parenting thing, which my parents would completely disapprove of.

It was time to take matters in my own hands so I considered freezing my eggs.

If by the time I get married my natural eggs are too old, I can take my frozen eggs, have them fertilized with my partner’s sperm and then put in my uterus. At first, I was turned off (it sounds like a science experiment), so I spoke about it with one of my older friends who also wants children one day.

Her mother forbid her from fertilizing her eggs. It’s just too unnatural, she thought. If it hasn’t happened by a certain time, her mother said, it’s not meant to be.

I’m of the thinking that I can be proactive about my future, rather than letting the chance to be a mother slip through my fingers. I’m not alone. It’s estimated that 5,000 women nationwide are freezing their eggs.

As “unnatural,” as it may seem, freezing eggs might be the difference between me succeeding at having a child or not. And that makes it worth considering to me.

What are your thoughts, Clutchettes? Would you freeze your eggs?

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  1. As a thirty something who has had problems with secondary infertility, I would advise any woman over 30 to consider freezing their eggs. I had my daughters at the ages of 25 and 29 yrs respectively. I was trying to have a third child when I discovered that I had problems; now I’m 37yrs old and lucky to be pregnant thru the grace of God and IVF. I had to go through IVF twice because of the quality of my eggs.

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  2. This post was right on time. I turn 32 in a few wks and have my first consult with an MD next week. I’m in a committed relationship however my s/o knows I’m not ready for kids and may not be for several yrs.

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