Haters has to be one of the most overused words ever. Every time I see someone use the word hater, I cringe. I cringe because I’m probably sure they don’t have haters in the literal sense. They have delusions of having haters. Jesus had haters. Martin Luther King, Jr. had haters. You probably have people who genuinely don’t like you.

Everyone has people who dislike them for some reason or another. Sometimes those reasons are valid, sometimes they’re not. Maybe they don’t like you because of a sour attitude. Or, maybe you’re a little too boastful. No one likes a bragger. Maybe you’re the type of person that doesn’t listen to another person’s opinion. No one likes a close minded person. There’s tons of reason why a person may not like you. So what do you do about it? What do you do about these haters?

Some people choose to bask in their ‘haters’. They wear them like a badge of honor. Having ‘haters’ for some reason makes them feel more important. You’ve seen these people. Every other tweet or Facebook status is, “F* all my haters”, or “Haters don’t want to see me shine”, or “Haters only make me stronger”. I laugh at these people. Only because they’re reinforcing why people genuinely dislike them.

I’m pretty sure I have a few people who genuinely don’t like me. But instead of yelling about all of my “haters”, I try to get to the core of the matter. What I like to do is approach these people who don’t like me and ask a simple question. Why? Usually, when you approach someone who dislikes you, and ask them why, they’ll give you a befuddled look. Then they’ll take a second to think of the reason why. After they come up with an answer, and decide to share it, I politely tell them thank-you and walk away.

Knowing the reason why people genuinely dislike you is helpful. If it’s a concrete reason, say they think you have a nasty attitude, you may have to do some introspection to see if they could be onto something. Sometimes people can see things you can’t see about yourself. Those “haters” may be the most beneficial people in your life. A “hater” can be a catalyst for change, if only you choose to change of course, but then again, no one likes a stubborn person.

How would you feel if someone gave an honest reason(s) why they didn’t like you?

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  • Holly M Colino

    It’s projected by icons – pop stars and pop rappers.

    What many of their followers have admitted to – lust obsession jealousy and envy

    But..it’s the one that dislike an aspect of them or an aspect of their brand, that gets called ‘hater’.

    How many times have I witnessed this –

    Girl looks at another female image – embellished in the media and on a role (female) model pedestal.

    Girl, while looking exclaims, “ugghh, I hate her!”

    Girls on yahoo, (gist), “I am obsessed with so and so, she has everything, perfect nose and so on. I like her, want to be her so much, that I am starting to hate her”.

    In other words – Envy

    Domestic violence incident 2015 Rochester NY.

    Male often entices or welcomes girlfriend to drink.

    Male in the knowing she is more physical and vocal when under the influence of alcohol.

    Male provokes girlfriend.

    Male often uses other girls in attempt to make girlfriend jealous.

    Girlfriend witnesses boyfriend making close physical contact with another girl.

    Girlfriend exclaims, “I ‘hate’ you! I ‘hate’ you!”

    Why, what was her reasoning?

    ..Betrayal.

    (Note: she is yet to know that the BF uses other girls in attempt to make her jealous)

    ‘Hate’ is ambiguous.