Are yall buying this “in love with two people at the same time” rhetoric? Wyclef made the claim a week ago when he revealed he had an extramarital affair with Lauryn Hill and now, Chris Brown is opening up on his simultaneous love for ex-girlfriends Rihanna and Karrueche in a documentary style video.

To me, it’s reminiscent of the “Don’t hate the player, hate the game” mentality of yore in that it allows said player to shirk responsibility for their actions. Back then, it was “the game” we should be mad at. Now, it’s the player’s heart that’s to blame, not them.

They can’t help it if they’re attached to more than one mate, and it just eats them alive and tears at their heartstrings while they juggle both relationships at the same damn time. *Insert sarcastic snarl.*

That’s not to say it’s impossible to love more than one person. I have love for all three of my exes, but when in a committed relationship with a partner, I focus my attention squarely on that person. My friend recently suggested that cheating is a character issue and I agree. Even when you feel love for an ex, cheating on your current beau is dishonest, selfish and immoral. That’s why I won’t engage in it.

Furthermore, if you’re in love with everybody and their Mom, why are you in a relationship in the first place? Maybe being single, as Chris currently is, and developing “friendships” with both parties would make more sense. At least it removes the element of betrayal and deceit.

Having feelings for two people doesn’t give you a pass to cheat on one while in a relationship with another.

What’s your opinion, Clutchettes? Is the concept of “loving two people at once” just an excuse? Does it give people a pass for cheating?

  • African Mami

    Bullshiggidy. We all know he is in love with Rihanna. He is just saying that for Ka-something’s sake.

  • cocochanel31

    Well to his credit he did break up with the girlfriend KArreuche for that exact reason, he said he didn’t want to hurt her so he felt it best they just be friends. As far as loving two people, maybe in this case he was never really out of love with Rihanna, but due to circumstances had to stay away and met someone else who he also felt deeply for , but perhaps in a different way and for different reasons.

    It’s obvious “single” is the only way he needs to be right now since he is so confused. All I can say is THANK GOD they are not married or have children.

  • Cocochanel31

    For all we know the Karrueche girl was the “rebound chick” , she appeared easy going and low key, all the things Rihanna was NOT at the time, thus the appeal and attraction. Little did he know Rihanna would forgive him 100% and come back into his life years later, thus creating a rebirth of emotions that maybe never died!

    Who knows!!

  • http://fancyfacekreations.blogspot.com/ Kween

    I wholeheartedly agree that having feelings for two people is NOT consent to act like a whore. lol

    He’s better off single for now until he can figure out who he wants to be with. Thing is, he probably knows and is afraid to say because of repercussions (more so social and career-oriented ones) Cheating is definitely a character issue. It has to do with a selfish inclination to sate their own needs instead of being ready to give to a partner 100% with that other person’s heart being their #1 priority. Not a good look.

  • http://daphnedebauchee.com daphne debauchee

    Of course, you can love two people at the same time. However, that is not the real issue. What’s more pressing is that this is one of the most self indulgent, train wreck in the making pieces of shyt I’ve ever seen outside of BBWives and Love and Hip Hop. Bless his heart.

  • Avril

    Of course you can love two people at the same time. Happens all the time but it’s not or should not be confused with being a playa. If you cheat and sneak all around the hood because you have to share “the love” and balance your game=playa. If you are really confused about two people who you generally love and respect and not cheating (not sleeping with both of them), well I consider that a love dilemma. Chris….ugh, still don’t feel like touching that today.

  • Houston

    I agree with you regarding CB. But I also believe that love is a choice, and that it’s possible to love two people at the same time.

  • Houston

    If she chooses, O-girl will not be single for long…

  • heide

    Gosh the drama but isn’t that the case with most relationships. Never easy. I do think it’s possible to be in love w/two people. For one it happens rather often so obviously he isn’t the only one dealing w/this. It’s just so odd to actually hear him talk because he never does.

    And no it isn’t a pass to cheat and everyone involved has a responsibility in it not just one party. But I agree that he did the right thing in ending his relationship and being single. Hopefully he can stay single for a bit. I know it’s hard sometimes but a lot of times it’s just what the doctor ordered. In his case I don’t think Ri is going to go for that for too long but we’ll see.

    But yeah it’s possible to be in love w/two people at once. Lordy the drama.

  • cupcakes and shiraz

    Please. That boy don’t even love him damn self.

  • Fuchsia

    You can love two people but it would be wise to exert some self control and not act on that love with more than one person. Not a license to cheat but it is a reason to break-up, which he did.

    I can definitely understand that it is very very hard to stay faithful when you truly love someone else.

  • Mina

    I have been in love with more than two men at the same time and i will be honest and say that yes, it was just a pass to cheat. I couldn’t dump one for the other bc they both had faults and both had benefits. I was treated like sh*t by one guy but stayed bc I got free food, clothes, gifts, etc. But i was held hostage in that relationship. I didn’t want to lose him as he was my friend first before we dated. I loved him bc he was my friend. He proved he loved me with his actions but he was verbally and sexually abusive. The other guy wasn’t. He was intelligent, kind, and we had a lot in common. But he would neglect me for his friends, spent more time with his girl best friend and he was picky. So I was in a lose-lose situation either way. So the only way I saw happiness was to cheat and get the benefits. Not proud of it at all. The guilt ate at me and it still does until I can confess what I’ve done to the guy who treated me badly.

    But anyway, remaining friends with your ex when you still love them never works out that way. You usually end up becoming fwbs and in another off on relationship again. Which isn’t helpful either. It just leads to more cheating, non commitment, and not growing in love. You just stick around for the benefits until something bad happens and then you bounce again.
    I don’t see this working out for Chris Brown and Rihanna. The reason why the broke up was because he could never commit and because both women let him cheat and then got mad about it later. He’s still cheating and still hasn’t learnt any self control.

  • http://gravatar.com/wikkedhuccle Alex

    This young man needs some help! I’m sure he knew long ago that he still desired to be with Rhianna, instead of letting those feelings completely fade or figure them out and get some serious counseling he includes the new chick into his chaotic world wind. Pure Selfishness!!! Too much fire someone(REAL friends & family) needs to be the ice in this situation and sit him down; advise him to dismiss the club scene, drugs, drinks, women and put his life in better perspective before its all over.

  • Genie

    I do believe a person can love two people at once. Usually you love each person for very different reasons. That being said, I feel a person knows which of the two people they prefer and why.

    As far as CB & Riri . . . both of them are very troubled young people in a world of celebrity that is cattering to their every whem. This can and has lead to a series of poor choices, that will follow them for the rest of their lives.

  • http://theprbrownreport.blogspot.com/?m=1 The PRBrown Report

    I think that being in love with two people is either an excuse for adults who are not mature enough to make a choice, or spoiled people who want to have their cake and eat it too. Or…….people who really have no idea what love is.

  • justanotheropinion

    Yes, you can love 2 ppl at once. HOWEVER, the odds of those 2 ppl being willing to be part of a “three-some” with you is slim to none and slim just left down. At some point, you have to ‘man-up’ and pick one. I’m no Chris Brown fan – at all, ever – but at least he finally made a choice. Karate Kid (as someone else on here nick named her) will shed a few tears and get on with her life. At least she got out. Rhi-Rhi & Chris only separated due to public pressure. Hopefully they can finish their business and one of them will grow up and finally move on. I hope for Rhi there is no more bloodshed. Call me a doubter…..

  • jourdan

    It’s definitely possible. Unfortunate, but possible.But it does NOT give you a pass to cheat. In that situation, you have to be very open and honest if you truly “love” those two people. You have to give people the option whether they want to be with YOU or not after learning that info. You can’t take advantage of their feelings

  • http://www.blackwiththeblues.com Michele Gilliam

    Even though I disagreed w/ Rihanna’s actions, I defended her right to make them. All women-including victims, have the freedom to make their own choices. But the whole thing just seems so publicist driven, that I can’t defend her anymore.

    http://blackwiththeblues.com/rihanna-has-it-right/

  • Patience

    Chris Brown broke up with Misses Tran so that he could finally be with Rihanna. Don’t congratulate him for this when he was already creeping around with Rihanna.

  • justanotheropinion

    Yes, we all have the right to make our own decisions – good or bad. Just don’t cry foul when you get in hot water ‘again’ because of another bad decision. you may get sympathy the first time, but after that, it’s on you.

  • Tiff

    Hollywood celebrity status confuses these kids. Rihanna done went and cried on Oprah, made a music video w/ a Chris Brown look alike, Cake collabo and took some subliminal shots at the other girl via twitter and now Chris is “in love”. I’m sure if I went on OWN and professed love of an ex with tears he would “fall in love” too. #Publicity stunt, #a mess, #human emotion trips me out. It’s all emotion, not love. Their emotion takes them up and down, in and out of love, but love just is and that’s it. Love is a decision. He’s too emotional, they’re too much. #next

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