Are yall buying this “in love with two people at the same time” rhetoric? Wyclef made the claim a week ago when he revealed he had an extramarital affair with Lauryn Hill and now, Chris Brown is opening up on his simultaneous love for ex-girlfriends Rihanna and Karrueche in a documentary style video.

To me, it’s reminiscent of the “Don’t hate the player, hate the game” mentality of yore in that it allows said player to shirk responsibility for their actions. Back then, it was “the game” we should be mad at. Now, it’s the player’s heart that’s to blame, not them.

They can’t help it if they’re attached to more than one mate, and it just eats them alive and tears at their heartstrings while they juggle both relationships at the same damn time. *Insert sarcastic snarl.*

That’s not to say it’s impossible to love more than one person. I have love for all three of my exes, but when in a committed relationship with a partner, I focus my attention squarely on that person. My friend recently suggested that cheating is a character issue and I agree. Even when you feel love for an ex, cheating on your current beau is dishonest, selfish and immoral. That’s why I won’t engage in it.

Furthermore, if you’re in love with everybody and their Mom, why are you in a relationship in the first place? Maybe being single, as Chris currently is, and developing “friendships” with both parties would make more sense. At least it removes the element of betrayal and deceit.

Having feelings for two people doesn’t give you a pass to cheat on one while in a relationship with another.

What’s your opinion, Clutchettes? Is the concept of “loving two people at once” just an excuse? Does it give people a pass for cheating?

21 Comments

  1. jourdan

    It’s definitely possible. Unfortunate, but possible.But it does NOT give you a pass to cheat. In that situation, you have to be very open and honest if you truly “love” those two people. You have to give people the option whether they want to be with YOU or not after learning that info. You can’t take advantage of their feelings

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  2. Even though I disagreed w/ Rihanna’s actions, I defended her right to make them. All women-including victims, have the freedom to make their own choices. But the whole thing just seems so publicist driven, that I can’t defend her anymore.

    http://blackwiththeblues.com/rihanna-has-it-right/

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    • justanotheropinion

      Yes, we all have the right to make our own decisions – good or bad. Just don’t cry foul when you get in hot water ‘again’ because of another bad decision. you may get sympathy the first time, but after that, it’s on you.

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  3. Patience

    Chris Brown broke up with Misses Tran so that he could finally be with Rihanna. Don’t congratulate him for this when he was already creeping around with Rihanna.

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  4. Hollywood celebrity status confuses these kids. Rihanna done went and cried on Oprah, made a music video w/ a Chris Brown look alike, Cake collabo and took some subliminal shots at the other girl via twitter and now Chris is “in love”. I’m sure if I went on OWN and professed love of an ex with tears he would “fall in love” too. #Publicity stunt, #a mess, #human emotion trips me out. It’s all emotion, not love. Their emotion takes them up and down, in and out of love, but love just is and that’s it. Love is a decision. He’s too emotional, they’re too much. #next

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