For the past few months, I’ve been in a bit of a funk. While my professional life has been clicking on all cylinders and I’ve been blessed with more opportunities to grow as a writer, my personal life—namely my finances—have yet to catch up.
While I wait for my money to get off of its stand up comedy tour, I’ve noticed my self-confidence and mood has taken a hit. Though I counsel others on pursuing their passions, achieving their goals and believing in themselves, my own journey to accepting all of the wonderful things that make me the person I am has been a rocky one.
No matter how many great things happen to me and how many people tell me I’ve inspired or helped them, I have a hard time believing it and tooting my own horn. And I’m not alone.
According to a study by Catalyst, women have a more difficult time discussing our own achievements. It’s one thing that keeps some of us from advancing in our careers.
Connie Glaser, a best-selling author and women’s leadership expert, notes: “One of the best ways to get ahead in the workplace is letting people know you’re doing good work, and many women feel very uncomfortable with that.”
So how can you embrace your inner awesome and build your self-confidence?
Follow these 3 steps:
Change your mind: It sounds simple, but changing how you think about yourself can literally change the way you feel. When we ditch the negative self-talk and self-doubt we free up our energy to focus on our positive aspects. There’s a wonderful quote attributed to Neil Patrick Harris that says, “When I get sad, I stop being sand and be awesome instead.” It’s really that simple.
Surround yourself with a supportive circle: It’s hard to let your light shine when you’re surrounded by people who are threatened or jealous of your success. If your friends or family always take a jab at your accomplishments (or your sunny disposition), you might want to consider limiting your time with them. Instead, cultivate a positive group of go-getters who want to see you be the best person you can be and don’t mind helping you get there.
Do awesome things: Embracing your inner-awesome is easier when you’re doing things that you love. If you’re simply going with the flow and engaging in activities or tasks that do little to ignite your passions, then you’ll have a hard time feeling good about yourself. You can easily change this by taking a little time every day to do something you truly enjoy.
And if all that fails, take the advice of Kid President: