The Chris Brown/Rihanna saga is unique in many ways. There’s the 2009 domestic violence incident that irreparably marred their relationship. And they have to play out their on-again, off-again love affair under the glare of media scrunity and in the court of public opinion. But they aren’t the first man and woman to be swept up in a love triangle.

While Chris Brown was in a committed relationship to Karrueche Tran, his budding friendship with Rihanna began to get public attention. First, news broke that the former lovers were appearing on two songs together. Then, they were tweeting pleasantries at each other while subliminal shots were reportedly being thrown between Rihanna and Brown’s current girlfriend.

Fast-forward to August 19th’s episode of “Oprah’s Next Chapter,” and Rihanna’s openly confessing that she’s still in love with Chris Brown and revealing that seeing him is “awkward” because he’s in a relationship. Next, they’re hugging and kissing in public at the 2012 MTV VMAs.

As recently as last night, they were photographed sitting next to each other at Jay-Z’s Barclays Center concert. Today, Chris Brown has released this statement to select media outlets, announcing that he’s ended his relationship with Karrueche Tran and that his friendship with Rihanna was a factor:

“I have decided to be single to focus on my career. I love Karrueche very much but I don’t want to see her hurt over my friendship with Rihanna. I’d rather be single allowing us to both be happy in our lives.”

It’s always tricky managing a friendship with your ex while you’re in a new relationship, especially when your new partner isn’t comfortable with you staying in touch with your old flame. There’s the option of cutting your ex off completely, or staying in communication with your ex even though it’s a point of contention for your current relationship.

Chris Brown chose to end his new relationship altogether as it seems distancing himself from Rihanna was not an option.

What would you do in that scenario, Clutchettes? Would you dump your mate because of your relationship with your ex?

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  • Pseudonym

    Can they just get married and divorced and get it over with?

  • Blaque217

    Rihanna sweetie, be careful what you wish for!

  • Gigi Young

    The trouble with Chris and Rihanna is that they never got any closure. I’ve always felt that if their altercation hadn’t reached the police and media, they would have continued to have a secretly physically violent, cantankerous, and OTT relationship until it fizzled out. As a result, I’ve never had any opinion one way or the other about them hooking up again. If Diane Lane can live with Josh Brolin, or Kendu with Mary J., then it’s none of my business.

  • Trisha

    I have decided to be single to focus on my career. I love Karrueche very much but I don’t want to see her hurt over my friendship with Rihanna. I’d rather be single allowing us to both be happy in our lives.” ~ Boy Bye!

    [This is going to be my guilty pleasure for today] It should read like this: I have decided to rekindle my relationship with Rihanna. I care for Karrueche, but I can no longer continue to hurt her. I’d rather pursue my relationship with Rihanna allowing us to live in honesty so that we both can be happy with our lives.

    To answer the question, I actually think it is natural to keep in touch with an ex. If you really cared for one another and if it wasn’t a bad breakup, you will want to know how that person is doing. If you find yourself catering more to or desiring the company of the ex more, then that relationship isn’t over. It just needs to go through a reconciliation process. I think with Chris and Rihanna it was never over. They were just separated physically. After cake, cake, cake…it was signed, sealed, and delivered. ;)

  • Avril

    I think it’s fine to keep in touch with an ex…as long as it is actually over and everyone is friends. If you’re “friends” and you have relationships that’s when things can go terribly wrong.

    Rihanna and Chris though :sigh:..no comment. Just can’t do it today.

  • Lady P

    Exactly!

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    If I was face with the option of dumping my mate because of a relationship with the ex, then that says more about my feelings then my mate’s feelings. Because if it was a truly platonic relationship with no residual feelings of “he was the one that got away” or “I still feel something romantic for him” then I don’t see why this friendship with the ex would be a problem unless there are feelings involved (seemingly in the Rihanna/Chris case) then I could see how that could be a conflict issue for all parties involved.

  • GlowBelle

    Rihanna and Chris Brown deserve each other.

    To answer the real question, like someone said above, Rihanna and Chris didn’t get closure so they are probably (and as mind numbing as it is to me) are making up for ‘lost time’ or ‘getting it out of their system’ so to speak. I think it’s fine to have a relationship/friendship with your ex, BUT it should be an cordial one, one that shouldn’t override your current relationship because you need to move forward, not back. In the case of Rihanna and Chris Brown they ended on a BAD note, and I would NEVER keep any sort of ties with someone who treated me like Chris treated Rihanna…but that is me, not her, so who am I to say?

  • Marseeuh

    Let’s be real Kaerruche didn’t stand a chance against the volatile, passionate all consuming chris and rihanna relationship.

  • LeLe

    Of course I’d dump him especially they’re sleeping together

  • Overseas_Honeybee

    I don’t see this ending well. Karate Kid should count her blessings and move on. Enough is enough.

  • Chika

    “Would you dump your mate because of your relationship with your ex?”

    I don’t know what I’d do but I know if Chris Brown was my boyfriend, I would sure as hell dump him.

  • http://gravatar.com/sholla21 sholla21

    He wanted that cake in the worst way ;)

  • jourdan

    I think Karrueche did good in not addressing the situation while it was actually brewing. She’s taken so much backlash from the media and Rihanna’s fans. However, we all know there’s a thin line between sticking by your man and being naive. I think she may have crossed it and now it’s kinda sad to see the media basically laughing at her.

    As far as Rih & Chris, I don’t believe they’re going to stay away from each other. Rih was never done with him in the first place, she just left him to save her “reputation”. It’ll take hell and high waters to get this girl to be done I see. I don’t see this ending well either.

  • http://cupofjo-jo.blogspot.com bk chick

    It’s find to keep in touch with an ex…except when he beats me to near unconsciousness…Trust, from personal experience..I def have that on/off switch. Even if you threw something at me in anger and I feared for my safety, that’s beyond red flag mode and I just eliminate you from my life. I can def forgive it, but I would never be dumb enough to even risk putting myself in that situation again. Unless kids are involved, completely move on. Karruche (sp?) dodged a bullet, she should be rejoicing.

  • Margaret Cooley

    Karrueche is well rid of the whole mess. Friends is a very vague term. There is way too much history/drama with Rhianna and Chris Brown for a normal woman to put up with.

    I’m sure Karrueche will be fine. As for Chris and Rhianna – I know a 12 step meeting they should attend – separately.

  • heide

    Sholla21 I think SHE wanted that cake in the worst way.

  • heide

    Gosh are relationships of any kind ever black and white or easy. As the saying goes – It’s Complicated. Let’s be honest your present or new boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t going to be cool w/you being friends w/your ex. The same way you wouldn’t be cool w/it if the situation is reversed. It just doesn’t work because someone always has some feelings for the other party at some point. I mean it’s the whole can men and women be friends thing. I use to say yes if both are in relationships but now w/age and wisdom I don’t even say that anymore because at some point it always comes out that one if not both parties be catching feelings at some point. It just doesn’t work.

    In this really complex situation it’s even worse because they have major history. So if I was his girl I wouldn’t be cool with it. Especially when homechick ain’t even hiding the fact that she still has feelings for the girl’s man. I mean come on Ri out there pantin after the boy w/like no shame. Ain’t no way I’d be cool w/you being friends w/her.

    Ya’ll could be cool you know that’s different then friends. You know if you run into each other while out and about you cool to say what’s up and keep it movin. But friends, sike hell no!

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    Wow… This article was published around the most saddest-angriest time of my life.
    An ex of mine had passed on recently. He died almost two months ago and I learned about his passing two weeks ago.
    He was my best friend (since we were kids) prior to our relationship, our relationship ended on mutual terms and we amazingly had gone back to being best friends again. Then he met another woman who was uncomfortable with our friendship and she gave him an ultimatum. He chose her. I accepted his decision and I stayed away, I even cut contact ties from his family members. I learned about his death from a Facebook ‘friend’ of mine.
    So, to answer the post’s question: if I was going through a situation similar to Chris’ situation, I would try to maintain my friendship with ex-turned-friend and make sure my relationship is secure. But, if push comes to shove, I would try to make my relationship work.

  • MommieDearest

    LOL @ Karate Kid!!!!!

    Yeah, she needs to be happy that she left that situation relatively unscathed. As someone mentioned upthread, Lite Ike and Rhi Rhi deserve each other She needs to leave them to their own devices and move on with her life.

  • http://theblackgirloncampus.blogspot.com Peace

    They are both idiots. No pity for either of them.

  • http://theblackgirloncampus.blogspot.com Peace

    I mean Chris Brown & Rihanna. I do feel bad for Karrueche. She didn’t deserve any of Chris’ BS.

  • apple

    chris must got that fire for him to be as lame as he is, beating her without giving a f*k,throwing chairs out windows for these two beautiful women to be fighting over him

  • cocopuffs

    k tran was a rebound to a girl that got her butt beat by the guy who was her bf now idk about you but thats embarrassing and kind of weird. First off let me say i hope we all recognize that rihanna and chris brown have been messing around for a bit like i hope there is no one on here that is going to say they were just cool this is a couple that were steamy and passionate and had all this love for each other and supposedly still do and they were just hanging out and having a drink or two? No. What i dont like is rihanna on her twitter acting like she struck gold when chris said he was leaving his gf and working things out with her, you may still have feelings for your ex but really maybe you should calm down and find a good therapist for the both of you because you dont get the crap beat out of you then jump for joy sometime down the road for the person that beat u up.
    dont get me wrong im sure they love each other but at the same time this girl was royally humiliated …no doubt she was naive but non the less alot of people dont want to see whats there

  • Pretty1908

    both women are silly and deserve better

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