Tyrese & His So-Called Relationship Advice
Some people need to stick with the gifts they were given. By some, I mean Tyrese Gibson. Most people know him as a singer and actor, I’ll call those his gifts. But he has this gift that keeps on giving, sort of like herpes, that no one wants. Over the past couple of years, Tyrese’s Twitter account has become a cesspool of horrible grammar and interesting relationship advice.
Case in point. This morning I logged into my account, and I noticed people retweeting Tyreseisms:
Ladies…Don’t independence your way into loneliness
— Tyrese Gibson (@Tyrese) October 23, 2012
Ladies have confused this whole concept of ‘Independence’..And I’m tired of it .. Nobody wants to be alone.. I repeat NOBODY!!!
— Tyrese Gibson (@Tyrese) October 23, 2012
So according to Tyrese, fuck your independence. All of you independent women are just lonely. He also used Beyonce as an example. You know that song where she spoke about being independent? Well, in Tyrese’s world, she threw all that away, and found her “king.” So now she’s much happier.
Oh, but it gets better:
The devil wants us to be independent of each other …The devil wants to see us apart.. Fight to STAY in your marriages and relationships!
— Tyrese Gibson (@Tyrese) October 23, 2012
You ladies out there, that aren’t lonely, but in crappy relationships. Don’t end them, but fight till the death to keep them intact, no matter how bad they are, because it’s better to be in a crappy relationship, instead of being lonely. But of course there were the usual Tyrese cheerleaders, cheering on his Tyreseisms:
@tyrese u are on point this morning! I completely agree, i hate that a females first solution is, “Girl you should leave him”
— Shenika Black (@kjdblack) October 23, 2012
Oh Shenika, Shenika … you’ve drunk the Tyrese-Aid. And apparently you like it. Tell me how does that bullshit flavor Kool-Aid taste?
When will people stop taking relationship advice from Tyrese and other clowns like him? Unfortunately, his advice isn’t something you can easily turn a blind eye to, because most of his retweets come from people asking, “What the fuck?”. I just wish he’d stick to using the gifts he’s good at, singing and acting. I’m just going to go and blame Coca-Cola, he should have stayed on the back of that bus singing.
I think that men gave taken the whole “i don’t need a man” statement way too far in terms of meaning. The word “need” indicates that I can’t go on without a man. My life will substantially be worse if I don’t have a man. “I’ll die without you” type stuff. Yes, many women have risen above this type of thinking, as well they should. But that doesn’t mean we don’t want or love men. That doesn’t mean we don’t want husbands and families. A woman who is financially independent and has career goals Does not equal cold, heartless bitch. Besides, where are men getting these caracatures of Black women from? Who are these women of which you speak Tyrese (steve Harvey, or any other black male relationship “expert”)? I have some career goals of my own and consider myself financially independent, but I also have been described as a very nice, thoughtful person. So are my friends and just about most Black women I’ve met. Don’t let movies and garbage television pull the wool over your eyes about what black women really are….
say it again girl!
A lot of this hatred of the independent woman has to do with independent women being picky. Many women are hypergamous and picky. I think men think we have no right to be picky or have standards. You will see the most hatred for the independent woman from bitter men who can’t attract the women that they want.
Lol. Is this really an issue? When it comes to relationships and life decisions, everyone is entitled to an opinion, however misguided or erroneous. The issue is not really what Tyrese is tweeting, but the public’s choice to engage with his tweets.
I’m also going to play devil’s advocate here and point out that there is more than one perspective of every issue. So it would be dishonest to state that “Independence,” can only have one meaning. Independence (financial/ emotional) is certainly necessary to leave an abusive relationship. But it is also true that some people claim “Independence” when they don’t want to be held accountable for their relationship missteps.
Why would that happen? Black men are not the ones saying to anyone who will listen “I dont need a woman” and than being mad that they dont have one.
My ex use to say that all the time.
”Black men are not the ones saying to anyone who will listen ‘I dont need a woman’ and than being mad that they dont have one.”
I find this funny…I understand that no body can truly exist alone…you need fellow people. And wanting a Man and needing a Man are two different things, but mix in desperation and both can be an unhealthy venture. That said, I would love for Tyrese to address his fellow artist who do songs that seem to support this notion of independent woman. Lil Boosie and Lil Phat’s I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T track & of course Neyo’s Miss Independent. I know those are only two songs but they were both in the last 10 years and there are countless others that speak to this newer ideal woman? I don’t know…or maybe those songs are in line with the thinking on this comment page about not Needing a Man but simply Wanting one?
I find it funny too, that they support artists who encourage the very behavior they want to denounce, like supporting a rapper who raps about being desirable to women because he has expensive cars, alcohol and wads of money then complains that women are goldiggers.
He never said he was a relationship expert… what was the point of this “article” outside of letting the world know that you hate Tyrese?
Please point out the instance where I said “I hate Tyrese”…
I’ll wait.
uhm..did you read what you wrote? There was all types of shade in that article.
You don’t have to say you hate him, we can tell from your article