“Self-esteem creates natural highs. Knowing that you’re lovable helps you to love more. Knowing that you’re important helps you to make a difference to others. Knowing that you are capable empowers you to create more. Knowing that you’re valuable and that you have a special place in the universe is a serene spiritual joy in itself.” – Louise Hart
An interesting thing happened this weekend: I was reminded of the fact that I have a hard time accepting compliments.
While hanging out with a “friend” who said I was sexy, I couldn’t just let his compliment ride. I dismissed it and told myself he couldn’t possibly be serious. Why? Although I think I’m attractive, I’d never describe myself as sexy (until I lose 30 pounds).
After he left I realized what I was doing: selling myself short.
Too often we struggle to accept the kind words and compliments of others because we think we’re not worthy. Sure, we describe it as being humble, but underneath it all, often times we don’t think we deserve the praise.
From our relationships to our jobs, many of us frequently shirk off the kind words of others because we don’t think we’re living up to their words.
But here’s what I know. Once we believe in our worth, we will not only be better people, but we’ll also attract those (romantically, professionally, etc.) who are drawn to our light and confidence.
So the next time someone says something nice about you, accept it. Don’t make a joke, don’t rush to discount their kind words, and don’t reject the idea that you’re great.
Tell yourself you are worthy, even if you don’t believe it. Because once you practice accepting the good from others, you’ll begin to accept yourself.