Have you ever been going through something difficult and your homegirl/man/sister/mother/tweep came through with the absolute best advice, ever? Happens to me all the time. Sometimes we don’t have all the answers (surprising, I know), but one thing we should have is a team of people who’ve got our backs and want the best for us.
Even though I wish I had Oprah’s number on speed dial whenever I need a verbal pick-me-up, there are a few pearls of wisdom that I’ve tucked away over the years that I know I can count on.
Because I love you, Clutchettes, I’m going to share my collage of sayings with you. Put them in your pocket and save them for a rainy day.
Fat meat is greasy: For years my mother’s been telling me this, and I never quite understood what she meant until I was 10-years-old and had an unfortunate run in with a bottle of red nail polish and my beautiful, new lilac Easter dress. I’ll spare you the gory details, but let’s just say that broken glass and beautiful dresses don’t mix. However, this clever little throwback boils down to this: those that love you and have your back will never lead you wrong. Listen to them, they just might spare you some pain.
Forward ever, backward never: Sometimes we need a reminder to always keep our eyes forward. Whenever I feel like I might be knocked off course, or am feeling weak and like I want to go back to what’s comfortable, instead of going toward my goals, I remember these words. “Forward ever, backward never” is also a reminder to never repeat bad habits and never let those who don’t have your best interest at heart back in your life.
When someone shows you who they are, believe them: Dr. Maya Angelou stays dropping jewels. This particular gem serves women well, especially when it comes to relationships. We’ve all been there. We saw the best in someone, be it a lover or friend, and were crushed when they didn’t live up to our expectations. But if we were truly honest with ourselves, we would have seen the let down coming. People always show you who they are, we just need to pay attention.
Fuck fear. Love anyway: This powerful tidbit is courtesy of poet Bassey Ikpi. Fear can be debilitating. It can keep us stuck in a rut and stop us from following our passions. Fear can also stop us from having fulfilling relationships with our friends, partners, family, whomever. It causes us to throw up fences and can make sharing ourselves harder than breaking into Fort Knox. People are social creatures. We crave love, deep and sustaining relationships, and being able to be our true selves. I get it. Being vulnerable and letting your guard down isn’t easy, but it’s absolutely necessary if you want to be truly be happy.