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First there was a war on Christmas, then religion, and now this. According to Fox News, there is new war on the horizon, the war on men.

Over the weekend, Fox published an essay from Suzanne Venker–a Conservative social critic loved by the likes of Rush Limbaugh and Dr. James Dobson—which argued that men are being crushed by women who are taking up all of spots in college and the good jobs.

Venker cites a Pew Research study which states that 37 of women ages of 18 to 34 say that having a successful marriage is one of the most important things in life, while only 29 percent of men feel the same way. For Venker, this proves men are uninterested in getting married, and there’s one reason why: “Women aren’t women anymore.”

Venker explains:

To say gender relations have changed dramatically is an understatement. Ever since the sexual revolution, there has been a profound overhaul in the way men and women interact. Men haven’t changed much – they had no revolution that demanded it – but women have changed dramatically. 

In a nutshell, women are angry. They’re also defensive, though often unknowingly. That’s because they’ve been raised to think of men as the enemy. Armed with this new attitude, women pushed men off their pedestal (women had their own pedestal, but feminists convinced them otherwise) and climbed up to take what they were taught to believe was rightfully theirs.

Now the men have nowhere to go.

Venker goes on to blame feminism, and namely women’s trek from the kitchen to college campuses and the workforce for the decline in “good men.” She argues that men these days feel less manly and are less likely to marry because the influx of women into the workplace has “undermined [men’s] ability to become self-sufficient.” How? Competition.

Venker sums up her argument:  “Men want to love women, not compete with them. They want to provide for and protect their families – it’s in their DNA. But modern women won’t let them.”

Despite the dismal prospects Venker paints for men if women continue to make educational and career advances, she says that we women have the power to change things and help men feel like men again.

She explains: “Fortunately, there is good news: women have the power to turn everything around. All they have to do is surrender to their nature – their femininity – and let men surrender to theirs.”

What’s interesting about this article is not its ridiculousness, although it’s quite laughable indeed. But I found Venker’s perspective intriguing because her gripes about the feminism movement and women in the workplace completely overlook the fact that women of color have been working along side men for generations.

While white feminists were fighting for the option to go to work, women of color have been working for centuries. So the argument that the influx of women in the workplace is, alone, at fault for the declining marriage rates is problematic.

These days both men and women are waiting longer to get married. Unlike our foremothers, our economic stability as women is no longer tied to our marital status, so it makes sense that women would pursue other avenues before settling down.

But does our access to opportunities equal a war on men? Or is Venker infantilizing men by assuming they are so distraught by women in the workplace they now feel inadequate?

What do you think?

  • davemm

    Who do you think signs those artist, there not black men and haven’t you noticed the record companies won’t sign any black men with any bachelors degrees or higher. Record labels will sign white male musicians that graduate from some of the top universities but when it comes to black men they’ll sign anybody. Most hip hop artist are scum they found in the ghettos of the inner-city these men will do anything for money. Black men have done nowhere near the horrible crimes that whites and arabs have done to your people, so don’t point the finger at us.

  • d63morrison

    Black men in the inner-city ghettos are a product of there environment, what do expect from those low lives. They are under educated and have no respect for anyone but what annoys is the fact that every black women on here thinks all black men live in the inner-city. I don’t live in the inner-city ghetto, first of all so I’m not defending those pathetic excuses for men. Don’t you know that upper middle class and middle class black men don’t share the same issues that black people in the inner-cities have. Your making tremendous assumptions and generalizations.

  • Kam

    To davemm and d63morrison: Bullshit and Bullshit. I’ve been hearing the same tired excuses for YEARS now. You’re wasting your breath, those lines don’t work on me anymore, and I suspect they aren’t working on a number of other Black women. The actions towards Black women don’t match up with the words. And it’s not just the inner city “scum” as you put it, though Good Black Men™ would have us believe so. The silence from Good Black Men™ is deafening and in my view makes it much worse. If what you say is true, then organize yourselves and SPEAK UP.

  • davemm

    I’m not using the good black man line, right now I’m working towards my degree so I can have a voice. I’m not a good black man, I haven’t earned that title yet because I’m still a college student and haven’t started my career. Right now, black men are already doing something about the situation, have you ever heard of Dr. Steve Perry from the television show “Save my Son”. You need to stop watching the idiot box, they have been showing negative images of black men and women since the beginning of television, have you heard of “blackface”. Honestly the fact that you can’t defend your stance in this argument without using vulgar language, proves your not worth my time. How about you do something to help your fellow black women and try to repair the image of black women in the media by becoming a activist. Action speaks louder than words and black men have always been standing up for the black community but right we’re going through some tough times. If you can’t handle being black, just claim a another race, get a degree and marry a white man so you can move out to a white neighborhood, so you won’t have to deal with it anymore.

  • d63morrison

    Can you formulate a valid argument without using vulgar language.

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