“Everyone has hiccups in their families,” Gabby Douglas said in an interview with People Magazine, when asked about her absent father. The 16 year-old gymnast, who made history at the 2012 Olympics by winning the Team and All-Around gold medal, is opening up about those hiccups in a new book, “Grace, Gold and Glory: My Leap of Faith.”

The memoir will include her thoughts on her broken relationship with dad, Timothy Douglas, an Air National guardsman. Gabby has always credited her mom with raising her as a single mother and nurturing her dreams of one day becoming an Olympian. Though her Dad wasn’t always present, he showed his support during the Olympic games, cheering Gabby on from the stands.

But after the games were over, he disappointed Gabby once again. She received a text from him, asking for her “to autograph some things for me.” It brought her to tears.

Gabby told People she wants an apology from her father, and I truly do hope she gets it. But it’s more important that she forgive him to find her own inner peace and that she doesn’t let a “hiccup” take away from this incredible time in her life.

What are your thoughts on Gabby Douglas’s book and revelation about her relationship with her father, Clutchettes?

  • Mademoiselle

    I bet it really hurts to be such an overachiever and still somehow not be enough for her father to choose to do the right thing. That autographs text just hurt my soul for her. I hope her mother and everyone that has a piece of her ear is constantly reminding her to never let hoping that he’ll be there to share her glory stop her from getting there on her own if she has to. He’s an adult. He’s had his time and many chances to shape the world around him. Now’s her time to shape her own world.

  • GeekMommaRants

    Your comment is just perfect! Thank you so much.

  • Rosey

    My heart goes out for Gabby. I’m in a similar situation at the age of 25. I pray that her father and her make peace while she’s still young and build that relationship. My father reached out in my adult life but its really hard to forge an emotional relationship with someone who has grown to be a stranger. I think she’s handling this with a great deal of maturity. Even adults cannot handle this strain.

  • alldawg

    Her father was there to see her perform, but she refused to see him. Goes on tv and airs that she dosent want to see him, now she gets on her high horse and demands an apology.
    Thats something that needs to be addressed in private, between the two of them, without the mothers bias input.

  • dee

    That text was just, wow.

  • dee

    and a memoir at 16? I always feel like young people writing out their life story is so strange.

  • Pseudonym

    She’s definitely young, but the years of work she had to put in to win the all-around medal in the Olympics should be enough to make a book about an athletic journey. I doubt it’ll be much about personal life experience and wisdom on personal family, romance, etc. as much as it will be about hard work and perseverance to pursue your career or athletic goals. She’s achieved the highest honor, so there’s not much left for her to do in the world of sports that would add to her book. I think it would be a great read for adolescents and teenage girls.

  • Ummmmm

    Her “high horse”, really, lady?? I don’t know what to say if you have so little compassion for a young girl expressing her emotions over being abandoned.

  • Echi

    Perhaps she knew beforehand that her dad was a famewhore and decided not to “play family” in front of a television audience.
    I have no idea what goes on in her home and I have no idea what it’s like to crave love and attention from your birth parents. Therefore, I cannot judge her on how she deals with the betrayal (perceived or not) she received from her father. I see nothing wrong in her desiring an apology from her father. The text messages were HIGHLY insensitive.
    Personally, I think Will Smith stated it best when he said, “If you are absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success.”

  • AM

    I’m not feeling this memoir, one bit. I don’t care how many downvotes I get, but something ain’t right, about it……….shoot me. It has Hollyweired written all over it.

  • AM

    I agree with you on the private blah blah blah!!

  • heide

    Gabby D you just keep on flipping and if Dad figures it out and decides to show up and get in the game, great. If not you just keep on flipping and keep it movin. Don’t take credit for things that aren’t yours to take credit for. It’s his job to be the parent not the child’s job to parent. If he’s a deadbeat dad leave that box of goods at his doorstep & you keep on movin. There are plenty of people in her life who genuinely loves and supports her. No need in wasting time on the ones that don’t.

  • http://valsotherblog.wordpress.com Val

    @Dee

    I agree, 16 is way to young to write a memoir. She’ll look back at this when she’s 20 and shake her head.

  • Justsaying

    Some perhaps even most but not all.

  • Señorita

    That 3rd section in this article just broke my heart:( I remember seeing him in the stands with her mom and hearing that he hadn’t had much involvement in her life. It’s so sad that he would disappear AGAIN!!! Could someone explain that type of behavior to me because I don’t understand!!! I wish Gabby the best and her accomplishments show that she didn’t need him to get to this point in her life……although that part of her probably still feels empty. Now that he’s put on blast he should feel like pure s***!!!!

  • Pseudonym

    “shawty the sweetie”

    Can you please stop trolling this site to speak nasty, hateful things against black men? Seek counseling.

  • victoria

    My father was a deadbeat, as well. He was absent and not financially responsible. Trust me, children dont need the mother’s bias input when a father is not around. Financially and emotionally it is very evident. And you know this, so why are you condoning his actions?

  • Kristen

    Call me a conspiracy theorist but a huge part of me is wondering who’s asking her to publish this memoir and what are their real intentions. She’s 16! Her strained relationship with her father has sooooo much time to heal & she’s about to turn all of America against this man who serves our country.

    I have a very hard time believing that he’s absent and a “deadbeat”.

  • Kristen

    Call me a conspiracy theorist but a huge part of me is wondering who’s asking her to publish this memoir and what are their real intentions. She’s 16! Her strained relationship with her father has sooooo much time to heal & she’s about to turn all of America against this man who serves our country.

    I have a very hard time believing that he’s absent and a “deadbeat

  • EST. 1986

    Children (adult, teenage, adolescent and so forth) never forget what their parents have done and how they made them feel.

    This seems to happen a lot with men; They never make it right with their kids. They just keep messing up.

  • Ask_ME

    What did she (?) say that isn’t the truth in this situation???

    Shaq, Lebron and Gabby are just a few on a LONG list of black athletes whose black fathers hit it and quit it only to pop up once their kids hit it big.

  • Ask_ME

    It’s not unusual for suddenly famous people to write their memoirs.

  • isolde3

    Yeah, exactly. All of these conspiracy theorists need to get a clue. There’s nothing unusual about Olympic champions of Gabby’s profile publishing memoirs or having biographies written about them soon after their victories. The only reason why some people are mad is because she’s putting Daddy on blast.

    Usually, when it’s a figure skater or gymnast, the book is a cutesy memoir/biography where the celebrity in question has input, but the manuscript is usually ghostwritten by whomever. So for example, when the Magnificent 7 won the gold in the Olympic gym team competition in Atlanta, a biography of all of the girls was rushed to print, highlighting positive things about their lives and how they achieved greatness. There was no mention of how abusive Dominique Moceanu’s father or her coach Bela Karolyi were, in the first biography (I have a copy)when Domi was 16. Fast forward 16 years, and Domi publishes a memoir going into greater detail about her situation. I would’ve thought that Gabby would have done the same, in terms of only highlighting the positive aspects of her life with this first project, but if she wants to talk about the negative, then that’s her prerogative. There are a lot of girls from broken homes who can relate to her situation when having to deal with absentee parents (often fathers in the black community), so if she wants to discuss that, then more power to her.

  • isolde3

    @Echi

    What gets me is how brand nu some people are acting, as if we haven’t heard this narrative from various black celebs before. I wonder how many were second guessing Shaquille O’neal when he was talking about how “his biological (father) didn’t bother” or when Will Smith spoke publicly about his absentee father? But when Gabby’s doing it, it’s “oh the mother is shady and is poisoning the daughter’s mind” or “She’s only 16. She would’ve never figured out that her father wasn’t around or that money was tighter in his absence unless the mother told her (LMFAO)” this, that, and the other.

  • Rochelle

    He could be absent, but he can’t be a deadbeat. The military takes money out of your pay for child support so I highly doubt he is behind on any payments. I think her heavy set mama is in her ear. Her mother even said on Oprah that she thinks it is best that Gabby doesn’t talk to her dad. Who is her mother to say that and tell her daughter that? The girl is 16 and can make that decision on her own. But as all things, there is more to this story than meets the eye.

  • Rochelle

    He may be absent but he is not a deadbeat. The military takes money out of your checks to go towards child support. So I doubt he is behind on payments. I think her fat mama is in her ear. On Oprah, Gabby said that her mother thinks it is best for her to not talk to her father. Who is her mother to tell her that? That father daughter relationship is just that THEIR relationship. It has nothing to do with the mama. When children hit their teen years, all the mama has to do is sit back and collect checks and make sure the money is going toward what the child needs. Beyond that, the mama input is need as far as the relationship that the child(teen – almost adult) shares with the dad. But like most stories,I think there is more to why this girl is so intent on bashing her dad in the press.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Wow, it sad that you can be a gold medal champion, a doctor, lawyer, writer etc. and getting these praises from everyone around you but still have a void from one of the few people that should matter…your father (or in some cases mother). This guy was wrong for the text, people forget that children grow up and have their own thoughts and opinions they aren’t the little baby/todder that they were when you decide to pop back into their lives…smh

  • KayKay

    What was your conspiracy theory when Miley Cyrus wrote her memoirs at 16?.. Did you wonder about her motives?

    Black people are worse than Whites about silencing Black girls and women and not airing “dirty laundry”. Why is it not okay to talk about how a lot of Black men are deadbeat dads? The discrediting and silencing at the expense of Black women and girls just to protect Black men has to stop. It’s ridiculous the amount of coddling Black men receive like they’re the women and we’re the men.

  • KayKay

    What was your conspiracy theory when Miley Cyrus wrote her memoirs at 16?.. Did you wonder about her motives?

    Black people are worse than Whites about silencing Black girls and women and not airing “dirty laundry”. Why is it not okay to talk about how a lot of Black men are deadbeat dads? The discrediting and silencing at the expense of Black women and girls just to protect Black men has to stop. It’s ridiculous the amount of coddling Black men receive like they’re the women and were the men.

  • Mademoiselle

    I hear what you’re saying about not standing in the way of a man being a father to his child, but at the same time, considering her mom is with her all the time and sees the impact that her father may be having on her when he does come in and out of her life, she may be in the best position to know whether it helps or hurts for Gabby to speak to her dad. Sometimes (in cases where one parent is doing more harm than good — if that’s the case with Gabby’s father), it’s better to limit a child’s exposure to the source of pain. Also, 16 year-olds are still very young/immature in many cases. Just because she’s successful in one part of her young life doesn’t mean she can judge the consequences of the decisions she makes in other parts of her life the way an adult can. I don’t know the ins and outs of this family, so I won’t speculate whether her mother is right or wrong in that statement.

  • Billy Paul

    Interesting comment; however allow me to add that this poor girl sounds like she needs therapy and a big hug (like most people with daddy issues).

    What role did the mother play in choosing this man or initiating the beginning of a family. Although I agree that his behavior appears somewhat odious, we need to understand the other side of the story to put Gaby’s statement in its proper context.

    Lastly, until she works these issues out, she will make a very poor mate for the unsuspecting man. It’s quite unfortunate, really.

    Carry on, family.

  • Billy Paul

    The women who chose these losers are just, if not more, to be blame as the men. Her mother (and all the women like her) needs to be beat for ruining our community.

    Many of ignorant women have had to learn the hard way that having a child with a man will not make that man stay with you (actually it does the opposite). This is the brick wall that many “sisters” keep beating their head up against. Unfortuntely, the results usually involve the public assistance and years (if not decades) of stress and grief.

    Simply put, ladies, the next time your “man” shows/tells you that he is not interested in starting a family be RESPONSIBLE and LISTEN to him/reality/the facts.

    As for the men who are reading this, if you do not desire to start a family with a woman, please use a condom (sexual prophylatic) and/or a coitus agreement (financial prophylatic). I will assume here that you are familiar with the former, so I will focus on the latter. In particular, in a coitus agreement you can legally make the other person agree and acknowledge to the following:
    - that they have no intention of getting pregnant;
    - that if pregnancy will ensue, they will not procure funding from you; and
    - that they are free from STDs.

    Gentlemen, which ever lady is unwilling to sign said agreement may have an alterior motive that she wishes to hide from you. As such, it may be proper to consider divesting yourself from that particular lady.

    Carry on, family.

  • Billy Paul

    Get a hug, get a life, and move on.

  • Mademoiselle

    BP: What does any of that have to do with my post about Gabby striving for success regardless of her father’s presence and my sympathy for her pain?

    Also how did her mother ruin our community when so far she’s raised an Olympian with a book deal? What did she ruin?

    Finally, why do you assume she was using Gabby’s birth to keep the father around? Maybe she had Gabby DESPITE not wanting to be with her father.

  • Rosey

    Thanks, I have….jerk.

  • KayKay

    What was your conspiracy theory when Miley Cyrus wrote her memoirs at 16?.. Did you wonder about her motives?

    Black people are worse than Whites about silencing Black girls and women and not airing “dirty laundry”.

  • KayKay

    Why is it not okay to talk about how a lot of Black men are deadbeat dads? The discrediting and silencing at the expense of Black women and girls just to protect Black men has to stop. It’s ridiculous the amount of coddling Black men receive like they’re the women and were the men.

  • Mademoiselle

    She’s 16. Why are you worrying about who she mates with?

  • Kam

    You are really awful. I hope you know that.

  • Chillyroad

    @kaykay

    My older sister wrote my father a private letter before he passed away. I have a suspicion as to its contents but it wasn’t my business. My mother doesn’t know what it said, not my brother or my two younger sisters. No one tried to silence my sister but her issues with her father were between her and him. It didn’t need to be public spectacle.

  • Rosey

    @Kam I agree with you. My point is that I’ve moved on with my life and now my father is the one that wants a relationship but I don’t have an emotional connection and its hard to forge one. But these trolls are quick to tell me to “get a life”. Wow, ok

  • Chillyroad

    I never understood the point of “airing dirty laundry” but never changing behaviours. The black community has been talking about dead beat dads for decades mow and even more of our children are raised in single parent homes. What’s the point?

  • Mademoiselle

    Your sister was allowed to handle it the way she chose, you and the rest of your siblings handled it the way you chose, and Gabby is handling it the way she chooses. Personally if it were me and my father wanted to all of a sudden become a part of my publicity, he’d have to be ready for his life to be put on blast too. Even Gabby’s mother has been called out about her finances. If he thought he could just swoop in for all the bliss and none of the sting, then he still has no clue what fatherhood means. I also believe she definitely doesn’t owe him any more decorum or respect than he’s shown her (but I’m the type that wouldn’t let any absentee parent off easily).

  • Rosey

    That Will Smith quote is right on and is how I feel about my dad. I’ll spare the long narrative but basically my father was absent most of my life but when he was present allowed my stepmom to mistreat me. My mother, aunt, and grandmother provided primary financial support for me my whole life.

    I graduated from a large undergrad and had a limited number of tickets. I invited the people who were there from the beginning (mother, aunt, and grandmother) which left my own father without a ticket. He was upset with me (which I understand) but c’mon…don’t show up for ceremonial stuff. Where were you when I needed financial and emotional support growing up?

  • Chillyroad

    The fact is we have been talking about dead beat dads in the black community for the past 30 years and absolutely nothing has changed. It has gotten worse with even more black children born to unwed mothers which contributes to father absenteeism. So other than talking endlessly about it what do we do next? Or will our grandchildren be saying the same things?

    I do notice a bias in whose stories of absent fathers we are willing to pay the most attention to. We will listen to Gabbt Douglas or Shaq or Will Smith but what about the stories of the unsuccessful blacks ie the ones in prison, the drop outs, the teen moms? Their stories are more important than Gabby’s because they are the norm.

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    the more i read bout this girl the less i like, something is not on the up and up with her. a whole lot of context is missing with her.

  • alldawg

    You do know that he is in the military OVERSEAS, people keep acting as if he lives 2 mins down the road. How myopic can a person be to suggest that he is living a rolling stone life. She owes he success to her coach just as much as her mother.
    Ill say it again, these man has a story, let him tell it, then ask for an apology. I still say her mother put her views into her daughters mind.

  • simplyme

    I’m sure Gabby will do just fine in life and love, and overcome this “hiccup” as she’s overcome a lot in her life to get to where she is already… no thanks to her father.

  • simplyme

    So you like her less because her dad is a loser? Makes sense….

  • Mademoiselle

    I tried looking up the book (it comes out on Dec. 4 at the $15-20 price point for anyone interested), and it looks like this part about her father is likely going to be very small. Every site I go to repeats the exact same quote, which was made to People Magazine, not pulled from her memoire. I think this whole topic has become another instance of turning a minor soundbite into a full-blown news story, while the actual news ends up overshadowed by the “controversy”.

    Meanwhile, here’s her YouTube plug of her book (no mention of dad in any context): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_Spdtilkkg

    It’s an inspirational memoire for young girls (not young girls without fathers, just young girls) about her faith, her perseverance, and road to gold.

  • Chillyroad

    @tonton

    She is only 16. My problem is that she is a child and at 16 everything she has had to talk about, discuss, etc. doesn’t seem right. I read about a Chinese Olympian who didn’t even know her mother was dying of cancer because her father didn’t want her to be distracted. It just seems like black kids have to be over exposed at young ages, put between grown folks and now have to do it in the public eye. I think blacks are totally unable to protect their children. We would never hear about a 16 white female Olympian talk about their family dysfunction. We would have to go to TMZ.

    But as per usual blacks are short term thinkers. If Gabby is replaced by a less talented but All-American white girl from a stable family EVERYONE in here will be calling foul.

  • K

    “What role did the mother play in choosing this man or initiating the beginning of a family. Although I agree that his behavior appears somewhat odious, we need to understand the other side of the story to put Gaby’s statement in its proper context.”

    I absolutely agree! People tend not to want to see everything in context, just support the sad story.

    Gaby is incredible and she deserves that praise. But man bashing her father is not the way to go. He may have been just as absent in the relationship with her mother just as much as he has been in her life.

    Women, as well as men, need to seriously consider who they choose to have children with. Because IT WILL impact their children’s life.

    As I tell the teens around my way, if you do not want to have a child with them for whatever reason, do not have sex with them. I do not care how (fill in an adjective/desire) that person is, think about your potential relationship with that person and your potential children.

  • K

    it doesn’t look as if he is bashing Gabby’s mother rather making a general statement about wisely choosing a partner to raise your children. Maybe Clutch should make a post specifically to parenting/partner choosing so that BP will get the chance to start a discussion without everyone automatically disagreeing or being combative for making an observation.

    We do not know Gaby’s parents history to determine who they are today. BUT that does not mean that her and countless other black athlete’s with magical pop-up parents cannot be used as a teaching tool to address partner choosing to build communities and family relationship.

    and when I say use these athlete’s, I am referring to their emotional distress/disappointment and ways to prevent it, not bash it.

  • Keepitreal

    The Chris Brown article spoke volumes on this very issue.

  • Perspective

    Its because they are exploiting the hell out of her situation in order to MAKE A POINT – about black men not raising their kids.

    Its not about her Gold Medals – its about the stereotypical broken black family that SHE has now become the poster child for and doesn’t even see it.

    Name some white women who do great things but have a rocky family past and history – as a rule they do not put that on front street.

    Example Charlie Theron – They don’t PROMOTE or jump on the fact that her mother shot her father dead in order to demonize the white man and highlight DOMESTIC VIOLENCE in the white community.

    but they are QUICK to grab GABBY’S story and blow that up to some sort of SOAP OPERA –

    Join us next week in the black community for our next episode of

    “WHEEEEEERE’S DADDDY?!”

    I peep the game for what it is. Most of these women just get sucked right into it.

  • Eureka

    @chillyroad This explains A LOT about some of your vitriolic posts. I see tons of misplaced anger towards black women from those with daddy issues.

  • leelah

    I kinda agree. I like her because she is cute and bubbly and she did an amazing job. But all this personal mess just takes away from that hero image. Like right away, during the games, she bad mouths the gymnasium that gave her thousands in scholarship money and exposed this drama with her father. I think she kinda hurt her public image by putting it all out there. If she’s angry at her father, tell him that over the phone, not on national tv

  • __A

    I still like her, but I agree that this takes attention away from her positive accomplishment to talk about tabloid worthy negativity.

  • Courtney**

    Right, Billy Paul. We always need to understand that whenever a man treats his daughter in a pretty overtly fucked up manner, we need to put things like that into context and see how the mother is really to blame. If the sperm donor happened to be an asshole, I too agree that we should continue blaming the mother for his continued asshole behavior and the ill-effects on the offspring, regardless of her efforts throughout those kids’ lifetimes to compensate for his lack of, what is the word… parenting. And of course, needless to say, being a suitable mate for a man should ultimately be Gabby’s goals and the rubric by which we evaluate all off her accomplishments, statements and decisions.

    I take this devil’s advocacy to other areas of my life as well, and don’t believe that there are things such as “right” and “wrong.” Anytime there are two human beings involved, they both must bear some fault for whatever situation has transpired. Take Benghazi, for example. What role did Christopher Stevens play in his own death? I think that although we can agree that his death appears somewhat tragic, we need to understand the other side of the story to put it in its proper context.

  • Courtney**

    Yeah!! How DARE she express humanity in public! We demand a smiling and cheery Gabby at all times, regardless of what she’s endured. As the public, we are ENTITLED to have her cheesing it up at all times and not dare display a full range of emotions. Black women aren’t allowed to do that yet! Tyler Perry hasn’t co-signed on that law. If she was treated like shit at her gym, she needs to suppress that all the way to her early grave due to the microaggressions of racism and stress of not being able to be anything other than a smiling mammy stereotype that we demand. I mean, when Lolo Jones talked about her sob story to everyone who would pay her – I mean, listen – that was fine, because, I mean, she’s just a hot light-skindededed sista and we’ll listen to her talk all day long. But Gabby? STFU and STFD. You heard it from these two first.

    It’s one thing to acknowledge that it may have hurt her image. It’s another thing entirely to agree with the idea that it should.

  • isolde3

    “Like right away, during the games, she bad mouths the gymnasium that gave her thousands in scholarship money and exposed this drama with her father. I think she kinda hurt her public image by putting it all out there. ”

    @leelah

    She did no such thing. Months before the games, after Gabby decamped to Iowa, her old gym went to the local newspaper and bad mouthed Gabby’s family. This was all before Gabby even made the Olympic team, and neither Gabby, nor her mother, said anything about the situation until a profile of her ran in Vanity Fair AFTER she had won the Olympic all-around. So please get your facts straight. Gabby shared an anecdote where she felt as if she experienced racism at that gym during her interview with Oprah. If you have a problem with a teenage black girl discussing racism, then that’s your problem, not hers.

    As for her Daddy woes hurting Gabby’s public image, her Q rating remains intact, as do her endorsement contracts with companies like Kellogg’s and Nintendo, just to name a few. Her promo schedule remains unbothered by her family drama as she just appeared on Dancing with Stars, Macy’s Thanksgiving Parade, was honored at Glamour Magazine’s women of the year awards, performed at MTV VMA’s with Alicia Keys and Nicki Minaj, oh and did I mention her upcoming tour, and this new book of hers?

    http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mdtmigFfdQ1rlo2pto1_500.gif

  • Ask_ME

    Funny I don’t recall anyone telling Shaq that he shouldn’t have made a song about his deadbeat daddy. I don’t recall anyone telling him to “keep it private.” I don’t recall anyone tell President O. to “keep it private” when he practically told the world his father was a deadbeat alcoholic.

    So why exactly do people think G. Douglass owes her deadbeat father that respect???

    Just be honest. You people find it appalling that a BLACK WOMAN would put a BLACK MAN on blast in the media. You don’t care about G.D. and her pain. You care about public perception of black men.

    I hate to tell you folks this but the image of the deadbeat black father is ALREADY a fixed in the minds of many.

  • Wong Chia Chi

    You need to move the fuck on with your projecting ass.

  • Wong Chia Chi

    Best of luck with your situation and thank you for your comment.

  • Wong Chia Chi

    I love how some people always blame the mother for a choice some other grown ass person decided to make. As if people don’t lie, or make promises that they don’t end up keeping.

  • pe.riche.

    It’s a memoir, not a biography. A memoir focuses on a very specific, concrete time in a person’s life (in Gabby’s case, it will be her preparation for and ultimate wins at the Olympics). A biography, is a more broad overview of a person’s entire life, which, given Gabby’s age, wouldn’t be very appropriate.

    However, given that she made world history at the 2012 Olympics, and her young age, I see no reason why she should not share the struggles she endured and the sacrifices she made for this specified point in her life via a memoir.

  • pe.riche.

    “But all this personal mess just takes away from that hero image.”

    Wow, so she can be an Olympian, but she can’t be a real person, dealing with real issues? Why should she have to lie an put up a fake facade about what she endured in order to earn such a remarkable achievement? Gabby shouldn’t deny the authenticity of her struggles just because it makes you uncomfortable. And if you are not comfortable hearing about her struggles, just image how difficult they were for her to survive.

  • edub

    I agree with you. She has bad handlers and their advice to broadcast her personal troubles has greatly hurt her. Besides the Kellog’s stuff, does she have any lucrative endorsements?

    While, on a personal level, I really feel her pain,I can’t help but shake my head. She’s made it. Enjoy that. Unfortunately, as a young black women, she is held to a different standard. Any negativity will define her far more than her actual historical accomplishments.

    Also, there are mixed images of the dad. First, he was in the military and was always there for support. Then, they were divorced, now he’s a deadbeat. The stories coming from her camp are not only negative but inconsistent.

  • Caramel

    What a scumbag her father is. How do you just walk away from your children and not support them and then show up later down the line when they are successful-as if you had something to do with their success? And to have the gall to ask her to autograph things for him so he can profit off of her success?!?!?!?! SCUM to the nth degree!!!!!! I would tell Gabby to realize what she has as a father and keep it moving. She will find love in her life, because God does not like ugly!!!!

  • The Other Jess

    she didn’t “put it all out there”. The media did, without her, or her mother’s, permission. And then the twitter mess had nothing to do with her – other people had the problem, not her, and the media brought all thismess to her right there on the gymnastics floor. Ridiculous. This little girl has done nothing wrong. If she wants to add her a letter from her dad in her memoir, so be it and leave it be.

  • Mademoiselle

    Um. His first paragraph says her mother needs to be beaten for ruining our community. How is that not bashing the girl’s mother. Either way, it’s still directed at the wrong person because my post was about sympathizing with Gabby, not her mother.

  • isolde3

    “We would never hear about a 16 white female Olympian talk about their family dysfunction.”

    @Chilly

    Ah, another brilliant remark from you . . .

    http://www.nytimes.com/1998/12/01/sports/gymnastics-gymnast-moceanu-gets-order-of-protection-against-father.html

    Of course, given your basic reasoning skills, I wouldn’t be surprised if you disqualified Dom-Mo because she was 17 at time and not 16 like Gabby. Cuz 17 aint 16, dang nammit! (LOL)
    ____________________________________________

    “I think blacks are totally unable to protect their children.”
    _____________________________________________

    Yes, one can only imagine how your children are faring under your watch.
    _______________________________________

    “But as per usual blacks are short term thinkers.”
    _______________________________________

    Oh the irony of you criticizing the thinking skills of others . . .

    Anywho . . . everyone, be sure to check for Gabby on the Barbara Walters “10 Most Fascinating People of the Year” special. Her Essence cover is still on newsstands.

  • Chillyroad

    I don’t remover saying I have issues with my father, the men in my family are married and raising children. Poverty porn is absent in my middle class immigrant family. The women are married the men are married and the kids are college bound. I just don’t put women or mother on a pedestal.

  • Chillyroad

    Just reading these comments reminds about how painfully dysfunctional blacks are. Gabby is free to go on her poverty porn tour. Just remind her Americans want Taylor Swift not Pecious-lite.

    A culture with no shame honor self respect or descrestion will continue down the path it has been consistently following for the past 40 years.

    Good luck. The Hispanics will make you obsolete.

  • Billy Paul

    Although I understand your concern, please note that a comment thread need not necessarily reflect the main topic of a post and may reflect a side topic alluded to in the comment thread itself.

    Lastly, the hostile tone of your questioning makes it rather difficult to assume that you are interested in an intellectual dialog. As such, I will simply wish you the best of luck in your current and future endeavors.

    Carry on, family.

  • Billy Paul

    Interesting comments; however, allow me to add that the inability for a person to “move on” after disappointment or properly deal with reality is classified as mental disorder according to the current version of the DSM-IV. Hence, if you do not “move on”, society may likely take a dispositive view of you (which will likely enhance your current emotional tailspin).

    Simply put, you are stronger than you think. You don’t need someone to sugar coat reality for you. You are a slave descendant, which means that you were built tough. Reclaim your emotional health and get back to the business of seeking success.

    Lastly, verbal tirades, such as “[y]ou need to move the fuck on with your projecting ass” arguably, may be reflective of one’s intellectual culture (or the lack thereof). Unfortunately, in 2012 and beyond such acts will likely not bear the particular fruit one may have intended.

    Carry on, family.

  • The Comment

    I know men get a bad rap but I’d really like to know what men are thinking when they walk away from a FAMILY??? This action is soooo common. It happens everyday. Everywhere. Policies; welfare, AFDC, healthcare…are created to protect women from men who walk away from families…married or not.

    I have never read any material related to this fact.

  • Billy Paul

    Interesting comment; however, allow me to add the following:
    - the issue of male reproductive rights is currently taking shape in this country;
    - women reproductive rights currently trump those of men (no equality?);
    - no child should be born unless BOTH parents agreed to do so (most situations its the man who does not want the child); and
    - a male contraceptive is currently undergoing clinical trials and should help me protect themselves against deadbeat women (those who use children for money) and the predatory family court system.

    Now I understand that the above topic may be uncomfortable for some to discuss, but it is partially at the core of the social ills alluded to above. On the other hand, male-female relationships are to a great degree influenced by the society within which they take place. As such, before one allocates blame, if may be prudent to explore the societal pressures that a Colored woman or man are experiencing. For example, sufficient employment is traditionally tied to marital rates.

    What is the black woman’s/man’s role in this society?
    What is the role of the black family in this society?
    How much of a person’s personal choices are dictated by their environment?
    Is the black family the originator of the single-parent family?
    These are just some of the issues that must be addressed prior to having a meaningful, sincere, and honest discussion about the current state of black male/female relationships. Be not mislead, black men and women have @$$ to kick concerning the the current state of their romantic relationships, but it may turn out that the brunt of the blame may not be laid at their feet.

    Carry on, family.

  • Billy Paul

    “I think blacks are totally unable to protect their children.”

    I agree and would even go so far as to posit that AAs have NEVER been able to protect their children in this country EVER (see slavery, 1st & 2nd Reconstruction, Jim Crow, War on Drugs, Welfare Reform, to name a few).

    Please, I beg you to prove this sad opinion wrong.

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    that’s what you read here?

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    i don’t think they re exploiting it i think her and her handlers are.

  • http://trueletterson.wordpress.com trueletterson

    Gabby is a sixteen year old child who only know what her mother told her when she grow older and more mature she will have a better understanding of male female relationship and realize their are three sides to every story mother side, father side and the truth, then when she fine out the truth she might owe her father an apology!

  • http://trueletterson.wordpress.com trueletterson

    Can someone tell me what’s wrong with a father asking his daughter to autograph some things for him? She don’t really know what went on between her mother and father all she know is what her mother tols her!

  • Joy

    Billy Boy from what I’ve seen of Gabbey she seems quite grounded. Especially for her age. It’s like everything else people get over. Some women/girls get over the missing father, and some don’t

  • Joy

    Ask: And the mothers allowed the men to hit it, and quit it. Women need to take more responsibility. Most women get mad at the man but afterall it’s our bodies, and ultimately we have control. Although not all of the time; men usually show their true character early on, and women choose to be with them anyway

  • Joy

    Billy your comment that “black are unable to protect their children” is so ridiculous (and actually sad that you don’t get it). It’s an individual thing. There are tons of successful black people that didn’t have a father in their lives

  • Joy

    Val: I disagree totally whith your take. Read what Pseudoymn had to say above. She’s spot on

  • http://[email protected] trueletterson

    Some me walk away because they are weak, fools, stupid, insecure because they can’t provide for their family or having problems thinking the grass is greener on the other side however a lot of men walk away because they have two choice stay and be disrespected, humiliated, and dishonor, provoke and they know if they stay they will get in trouble by killing someone so they walk away hoping one day the children will understand, and some good men get ran away from home by a women who think she don’t need no man because she can do it all by her self, she don’t want to compromise with her children father, she don’t want the children father to have say so on how the children are to be raised so she make it very difficult for her children father to stay in the household but latter when she realize or if she realize the mistake she have made she lie to her children as if their father walked away from them for no reason, and he did not love them. Remember Gabby is a young teenager and she only know what her mother told her!

  • http://trueletterson.wordpress.com truelettersonTrueletterson

    Bravo Billy Paul your comment is right on point however you will never get a thumbs up on any black blogs because black people especially black female have been mis educated by white feminist, liberals, and progressive and they will never stop and take a look around and see what have gotten us to this point because some of the very things that have contributed to the dysfunction of the black family is the very thing they view as empowering, and they think they are smart.

  • http://trueletterson.wordpress.com trueletterson

    True! again you understand speaking the truth to black people [and I love them] will get you thumbs down every time because they have not been train or condition to except truth, keep up the good work!

  • http://trueletterson.wordpress.com Trueletterson

    Joy any smart and educated person would look at the percentages and the fact is the most successful black people by far come from two parent household there are exception to every rule! Why is a “key” indicator that young black male and female will go to prison is that they come from a single parent household!

  • Karen Coleman

    I couldn’t believe that I was reading this article right. How sad and insensitive can one human being be? Gabby’s Dad is a loser and should be put in the same box with Shaquille O’Neals biological Dad. I hope that Gabby knows she is blessed and really doesn’t need negative people in her life. I know she probably loves her Dad, but just sometimes you have to put people in their place and leave them there. You don’t have to harbor animosity, but you don’t have to deal with them either.

  • Karen Coleman

    First of all he obviously only want the autograph for financial gain. He hasn’t done anything for her and is still looking out for self. What a pitiful excuse for a man….and Dad! Get a grip. If you are going to be a dirt bag, at least do it from a distance. AND stop being so obvious! If it’s money that means more to you than your daughter how about you get a job…..

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