Traditionally, a woman takes on her husband’s surname after marriage to represent her new identity but in recent years, there’s been a shift in the practice. More women are hyphenating their maiden and married surnames, and meshing has emerged as a viable option for newly-married couples.

Meshing, which originally became popular in the U.S. six years ago and is becoming increasingly prevalent in the UK, entails that husband and wife fuse their last names together to create a surname that represents both parties.

For instance, a man and woman with the last names Moore and Harrington might become Moorington, Grimes and Andrews might become Grandrews, and so on and so forth.

The practice allows for a sense of equality, which the antiquated tradition of adopting the husband’s surname seems to lack. Meshing also eschews the need for a hyphen, which some people find inconvenient.

What’s your take on meshing, Clutchettes and Gents? Would you be open to embracing this trend?

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  • Perspective

    Thumbs down all you want. This is a REALITY that eventually black women are going to have to face.

    At this point I’m just thinking the community is too far gone. There is too much internal resistance to patriarchy, too much internal resistance to “structure” and “respecting positions” because people always find some way of DISMISSING it because its associated with the overall white power structure.

    I don’t know how black people expect other black people to want to fulfill positions that NO ONE RESPECTS – that are needed positions in the community.

    “YOU AIN’T NO BETTER THAN ME! DAMN THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE MONEY!”

    Even though MONEY is precisely what is being used AGAINST the black community, precisely what we lack and don’t have, also it is only those individuals WITH RESOURCES – damn where they got it from that SHOULD be used to repair the community.

    With the community the way it is – and the complete LACK of structure that exist because everyone wants to be so much of a “GDI”

    Put all that in a box – OH YEA! Black women will never be VALUED in the ways that you see women valued in other communities.

    With the way things are – it will NEVER HAPPEN.

  • YoungBlackCollegeStudent

    In response to your question about who hyphenates the name, it is traditionally just the woman. My mother has a hyphenated last name but my father just kept his name.

    If I chose to hyphenate my name I would not ask my husband to do the same. If he chooses to great, but I do not feel strongly about having the man change his name as well.

  • YoungBlackCollegeStudent

    I HATE this idea that you can’t be a feminist and love men.
    I consider myself a feminist, but not in the sense that everyone thinks. I do not hate men. I do not bash men. I have no problem with women staying at home. I do not have a problem with women taking the last names of their husbands. IF THEY WANT TO. I think people should educate themselves on feminism before they go and criticize it. Every feminist is different and personally speaking I believe what makes me a feminist is the fact that I want equal opportunities. I want women to be free to make decisions for themselves and not just be forced to abide.

    Now getting back on topic….I am very attached to my surname. It is rather uncommon—in fact every person I’ve ever met with my last name has ended up being related to me. I have always taken great pride in my name because of this uniqueness.

    Also my father and I were always extremely close and when he passed almost two years ago more than ever I wanted to keep my last name. I am definitely not opposed to taking my husbands last name though.

    I am still very young, 18 to be exact, and there’s still enough time for me to make up my mind.

  • liwymi

    I love the idea, I even have a facebook page created for the practice :) http://www.facebook.com/pages/Blended-Surnames-FamilyLast-Name/206118099517780

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