How to Date a ‘Blerd’

by Stacia L. Brown

blerd2012 saw the rise of the black nerd in mainstream media. Don’t believe us? Check with CNN. Or The Washington Post. Or NPR.

Though the concept of segregating nerddom along racial lines is a bit suspect and certainly has its detractors, the newfound attention black nerds are attracting doesn’t seem to be abating.

If you’ve ever dated a brother whose a Trekkie, a Civil War buff, a Nate Silveresque statistician, a robotics crafter, a fantasy enthusiast, or a comic book/gaming hobbyist, you already know that black nerds — also known by their corny portmanteau, ‘blerds’ — very rarely resemble Steve Urkel in fashion sense or in carriage. And the most interesting ones don’t often refer to themselves as “nerds” unironically. You may also know that what mainstream media identifies as nerddom may also be geekdom. (Apparently the two are distinguishable, but for the purposes of this piece, we’re going to use ‘blerd’ to refer to both).

In any event, there’s a bit of an art form to making a relationship thrive with a nerdy guy.

If you’re new to the game, here are a few tips to ease your tension:

1. Embrace, don’t efface.

Listen, if a dude’s a Trekkie or Star Wars buff when you meet him, and he has an annual date with a Con that involves cosplay, accept that. In fact, affirm that. If he’s not embarrassed that he dresses up like a Stormtrooper or Vulcan once or twice a year, you probably shouldn’t be either.

2. Allow for idiosyncratic conversation.

If you’re out to dinner and the conversation veers off into obscure territory, go with it. We’re not saying you should have to learn Klingon or bone up on quantum-controlled mobile robots to talk to your date. He should be able to balance discussion of his interests with discussion of yours. But understand that dating a blerd sometimes means listening to the various plot progressions of Golden, Silver, Bronze, and Modern Age Batmans. If you like him enough, this might be a turn-on.

3. Don’t feign great interest.

It’s best to be upfront about just how little you know (or care) about your date’s nerdy niches. He’ll respect you for that. And you don’t have to pretend to be into touring civil war battlegrounds in your free time (which is a win).

4. Develop *some* interest.

You’d be surprised at how much insight you can gain about a significant other by making just a small amount of effort to infiltrate a very specific culture/field in which he’s deeply interested. Even if you never become a lover of small-scale model-building, trying to build a replica just once could help you appreciate how much patience and serenity that exercise can cultivate.

5. There’s no formula.

Take all these tips with a grain of salt. This advice applies to most personality types, not just nerds, geeks, and gamers. In any new relationship, don’t go in looking to change your partner or yourself. Honor who you both are, as you both are. Figure out how much idiosyncrasy you can tolerate, and above all, enjoy the process of learning how someone else thinks. That’s almost always worth the ride.

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    Nerds tend to date other nerds. You know that whole, “birds of a feather flock together” thing.

  • beautiful mic

    I’ve dated a blerd, a thug-pimp wannabe womanizing blerd, the worst kind – hunty. High IQ, summa cum laude graduate and all. The conversations were interesting, though. But I felt like an idiot, in the end, in more ways than one.

  • http://gravatar.com/heavenleiblu heavenleiblu

    I wish my blerd boo would hurry up and find me, then!

  • African Mami

    Not in the least interested.

  • Sweetles

    I was about to say the same thing!

  • A.

    I despise the term “blerd”. Are black nerds really such a rare breed that they need to differentiate us from “regular” (white) nerds with a stupid name? -_-

  • binks

    This! I don’t get the needing to differentiate as well. A nerd is a nerd is a nerd wheather you are black, white, Asian, etc. let’s stop splitting hairs. But these are some good tips in any dating situation.

  • Anthony

    As a nerdy guy myself, I will confirm that the author gave some great advice. If you like the guy, don’t spend your time wishing he were “regular.” He is what he is, you can like that or learn to like that, but he will probably make a pitiful regular gut.

    By all means learn about stuff he likes, and if you can get into to it, do that too, but don’t fake it because inevitably, once you think you’ve “got him,” you will stop faking, and then the s**t will hit the fan!

    Of course, he should be into you and learn about what you like and appreciate where you are coming from too if you are going to have a prayer.

  • http://gravatar.com/retatas retatasJ

    ita a boy blerd would be best with a girl nerd- they would get along together fine with out someone faking they like what they like

  • Mademoiselle

    I’ll add that I also hate that “dating a nerd” (of any persuasion) is now the thing to do. Smart people/sci-fi enthusiasts/novelty collectors/etc aren’t (and never were) novelty items. If you’re into them, dating one is no different than dating a “non-nerd”. If you’re not, don’t expect these lessons to make dating one a cake walk because THEY ARE NOT NOVELTY ITEMS.

    I might be alone on this next thought, but that said: down with the words “nerd,” “geek,” and all those other terms that were once used to bully people based on their intelligence and niche hobbies. They still hurt even if the “cool kids” decided to start giving them some fake avante-garde hipster appeal.

  • Mademoiselle

    @lola I don’t know what Weezer is, but I know I still have even family members that call me a nerd, and I know it stems from a time when being a nerd was not considered a good thing because they recently started tempering it with “oh, but we still love you” when nerd became a trend.

  • ChillyRoad

    Im not interested in nerds. They’re a tiny minority of odd balls of varying IQ points. Personally I like blue collar men. They make the world go round. They are the every day guys that people take for granted. I also love the tradition within the black community of auto didacticism. I love self taught men. Accredited or not, I love a man who takes a personal interest in anything i.e. sports, politics, history, religion, geography. \

    I have more use for a mechanic or a plumber than a nerd but then again a nerd can be a mechanic or a plumber.

    Still, give me a blue collar man any day of the week. An honest days work and a thirst for personal interest.

  • Anthony

    here are lots of blue collar nerds. Nerds are by definition autodidacts. Afterall, you are not going to get a degree in Star Trek or Civil War re-enacting.

  • Kay

    I’ve always loved so-called “Blerds,” and never needed instruction on how to deal with them. Usually a blerd is just a Black man who is extremely intelligent who has eclectic interests. If you’re a person that is on that level you will easily get along. I don’t see what the problem is. If you can’t accept someone wholeheartedly, then maybe one should rethink the relationship. Just sayin’…..

  • Kay

    Yes! I wholeheartedly agree. I hate how now all of a sudden “nerds,” are in. *rolls eyes* As a former “nerd,” myself, I always took offense to the idea that men and women can’t be intelligent without some term being thrown at them. Now all of a sudden there are guides on getting and dating a “geek.” If you’re going to be with someone, date them because you like them, not because it’s an “in” thing.

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    There’s a word for us now!? Beside it being ridiculous and there most likely being a lot better options I say just eschew the list if you fancy yourself not a geek. Like someone said before it is a lot less troublesome for nerds/geeks to just date one another. If you have no interest what so ever in any of their interests then even trying to get interested is not going to help and like anyone else the person can tell. Eventually it will get old to you and the nerd will begin to feel bad or awkward for getting excited about a new game release, the next Con, or in finding out about a new star wars character in the extended universe they never knew about before. Because it will be followed by an eye roll, fake smile/excitement, no expression.

    I don’t wanna be one of those people that tries to put us in some special category, but due to societal norms or whatever you want to call it, finding someone who can at best tolerate your wacky interest or hoping they can understand it never works out. Gotta find someone who is just as crazy about their “weird” hobby as they are about yours, or even better has the same ones! I had to learn this a little later and was talked down into giving dating another chance and had to really think back. Cause nothing is better than saying you’re both tired cause you had an original trilogy marathon and then played online for another long while.

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    How many nerdy things of your interest do you go to? For instance I meet just tons of people buying games. Not every time I walk in there, but a lot. Especially on new release days. Of course there’s cons and this may be odd, but being vocal about your interest. Me and a friend a few yrs. ago said warcraft a little loud once and two geeky women walked up and we all started talking about it. Don’t….don’t go around screaming Warcraft though lol

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    I went on a couple dates with women who called themselves geeks to show interest because they saw and liked a couple super hero movies. Yet they didn’t wanna take their interest in any form beyond that for fear of being classified as one of us. It’s kinda sad that these things are still all lumped into intelligence and people wanna be cool without being labeled. One always wanted to go to a Con but I could never tell cause she was always bad mouthing people who went. People.

  • http://Deckedingreen.blogspot.com Miss-shell

    When I saw the title of this article I kinda got annoyed… The thing is nowadays most guys claiming to be nerds really aren’t; they just have the look.

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    Anthony-

    If you’re single, you might wanna holla at heavenleiblu or sweetles–they are looking for their blerd in shining armor!

    (:

  • Anthony

    Thanks, but I’m married with two daughters!

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    You try looking for places where geeks who share your interest congregate? I know on new release days I strike up conversation with a lot of people at Gamestop, at Cons when gathered around an artist, and even speaking too loudly lol. One time I mentioned something about Warcraft with a friend a few years ago in college and a couple girls heard and we all ended up talking about it for awhile outside class. Though in none of these situations have I met somebody black, but I guess it can always depend on your area

  • Mademoiselle

    Yep! Some people act like “nerds” are incapable of doing wrong because they’ve been the underdog for so long. It just means they’re smart enough to run the slickest game in a lot of cases. Nerd is not synonymous with good guy. That should’ve been tip #5.

  • Billy Paul

    Interesting comment; however, allow me to add the following:

    - we “blerds” are arguably different than nerds of alien groups;
    - the fact that we are nerds and Colored expands our romantic options beyond just nerds to allow us to date 9′s and 10′s;
    - we absolutely adore Colored women;
    - most (i.e. at least 51%) Colored women in their early years prefer the petty “street pharmacist” as opposed the blerd;
    - we have a lot to offer in a romantic relationship;
    - romantically, we desire a woman to meet us half way and are not into over extending ourselves (i.e. reciprocity);
    - we don’t give a damn about “swag” or being “hard”;
    - we really care about where and what a person studied; and
    - we are not a lottery ticket, although we have a knack for changing a lady’s standard of living; and
    - we are WAY cockier than most people know.

    Hence, give a blerd a try and remember to bring your smile.

    Carry on, Family.

  • Billy Paul

    You do understand what a nerd is? If so, how can you account for the poor Colored male turnout in AP classes in high school, tech classes in college, and law/med/hard science PhD programs in graduate school? Your implied endorcement of the opposite arguably reflects your endorcement of erroneous logic and is a reflection of the intellectual culture (or lack thereof) that you subscribe to.

    Lastly, is “A.” a stand-in for assimilationist?

  • Billy Paul

    hahahahahahaaaaa

    I can’t wait until for these people to die from their self inflicted wounds.

    I love underachievers because that’s just one less person for me and my heirs to compete against.

    The term “self taught” these days may arguably be equated to “jail house scholastics.”

    Carry on, dumd @$$.

  • Billy Paul

    Forgive my ignorance, but I thought being a nerd was about IQ as opposed to trendy attire.

    I hate being the bearer of bad news, I really do.

  • Billy Paul

    hahahahaaaaaaa…haha

    Indeed, to date, you have yet to articulate an intelligent comment on this particular site. Unfortunately, I fear that you may be somewhat ignorant of your odious behavior.

  • African Mami

    @ BP,

    Me no care!! :) Carry on.

  • Mademoiselle

    Being a “nerd” was never about anyone’s IQ since rarely does anyone ever know anyone else’s IQ. Let us know when your ego will be fully inflated, ok? We’re running out of space for all your hot air.

  • dirtychai

    The guy in the photo looks more like a new money NBA rookie than a “blerd”.
    I feel that the sci-fi fanatic, book smart, scientist is a piss-poor definition and played out stereotype of what a nerd is.
    Being a nerd just means that you gravitate toward something arbitrary. I love design, sci-fi, and politics. I get called a black nerd. My civil engineer, summa cum laude graduate stepbrother who rolls around with his frat brothers on big rims, flaunting their fat engineer salaries has never been called a nerd a day in his life. However when he’s talking about his work, he’s really passionate about it.
    I feel that “blerd” is isolating and implies that you have to be a certain way to be considered smart. The last thing we as a people need is another label to tell us who we are.

    BTW, the appropriate term is “Trekker”.

  • The Comment

    I miss the days when we didn’t have to label everything and everyone.

  • Rosey

    I’ve also dated a “blerd” who was a jerk. A Magic the Gathering playing douchebag who pretended to be all nice. SMH

  • Sweetles

    Actually, I am married… :)

  • Change

    can’t wait for girl blerds to come into style.

  • ag

    Why wait? Be the change!
    ;)

  • Shirl

    This Right Here!!!!! While I don’t agree with your whole post I agree with a lot of it and I must say that it was beautifully written!!!

  • Shirl

    My comment was for ChillyRoad!!

  • http://gravatar.com/chanela17 chanela17

    yes honey~ i stay with my video games.been a gamer my whole life!

  • http://www.facebook.com/felicityrankinsrhode Felicity Rhode

    Very true! Many ‘blerds’ tend to be ridiculous in that way…

  • Stanley

    When was those days?
    I don’t remember.

  • Ask_ME

    And this right here is why a lot of “Blerds” (of the male gender) are NOT likeable.

    Your personalities are off-putting and annoying. If more of you could see it perhaps you wouldn’t go around spewing the lie of “black women only like bad boys.”

    UGH!

  • E.M.S.

    I have to agree with some of the other comments, both about labeling someone a nerd for having great passion & extensive knowledge of something and acting as if black guys like this are rare.

    This advice extends to any guy with these types of interests, but it is spot-on. My boyfriend is a huge gamer and has an incredible knack for all things tech (he built his own fancy pants gaming pc by hand) and I’d say this described him pretty accurately.

    I advise my fellow ladies not to close their mind off to participating in things he loves so immediately. You may find you love it too. I wasn’t much into gaming but now I’ll play Arkham Asylum, Diablo & Ultimate Marvel vs. Capcom any day with my guy :) I can even beat him!

    One of the most important things in a relationship is supporting each other’s interests and making the effort to share what somebody loves with them. It brings you closer.

  • EST. 1986

    I suck at Arkham Asylum and Arkham City.

    I’ve been playing video games all my life.

  • mr.vicious

    “black women only like bad boys.

    But bad boys never have shortage of women, and it gives that impression. The only thing that nerds need to work on is “social skills”, one thing nerds dont do is pander to a womans will. Nerds are not sex-beggers or put much value in how much sex he can or cannot get.

  • Ask_ME

    @mr.vicious

    The reality is those “bad boys” are with THEIR female counterparts….not all black women…not those of us with good sense.

    Men like you love to ignore the reality that the “pretty hoodrat” with the big behind with the bad boy is STILL a HOODRAT!!!!

    Nerds like this Billy Paul individual are neither appealing nor attractive. Yet you cannot tell him that. His narcissism is unfounded because he is one of the MAIN individuals that come to this blog itching and complaining about being ignored by black women. So, where the hell did he get it in his head that he is some type of lady killer with the ability to attract top notch women??? LMAO

    Personality wise MOST of the black MALE nerds I have run across are bitter, angry, anti-social, and awkward as hell.

    “The only thing that nerds need to work on is “social skills”, one thing nerds dont do is pander to a womans will. Nerds are not sex-beggers or put much value in how much sex he can or cannot get.”

    This is because WOMEN don’t give them the time of day…it’s not because of lack of trying on their part.

    Again, their personalities are off-putting. I highly doubt the masses of BLACK FEMALE NERDS find people like Billy Paul attractive.

    Mind you this is the group this blog attracts more so than not. These men think it’s there place to tell women what we SHOULD find attractive. Then when they realize it’s NOT them they go to the other end of the spectrum and say we all like THUGS. Forget the massive number of men (who I personally believe are the MAJORITY) who don’t fit into either of these stereotypes!

    They don’t take a look in the mirror to see what it is about them that women of all races (not just black women) find unattractive. Truth be told, everything that is WRONG with SOME black male nerds can be found right there in Billy Paul’s comment.

    Again, off-putting, annoying, unattractive, and overall unappealing.

  • http://gravatar.com/pinklipstick227 pinklipstick227

    @ Mr.Vicious Why are you blaming black women for some black men’s social awkwardness. Most people of all races prefer to interact with people who are sociable and charismatic. Most women would prefer a man who is confident enough to approach her. If men lack this confidence, they will have less women around them.

  • Pseudonym

    Seems that if you’re truly compatible with a black man who happens to be a “nerd,” you won’t need a guide or list of tips as to how to date him.

  • Anthony

    That’s true, but never hurts to expand one’s horizons.

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    Asylum and Arkham City are like a Batman wet dream. It’s like YES I AM THE BAT AND I AM B.A. hahaha

  • Anthony

    I have to agree with the person who wrote that nerd does not equal good guy. The fact is that man who has had little success with women may have some pent-up resentment. I also agree that men are always complaining about women only wanting bad boys probably do not have realistic self images and are certainly looking at the wrong women!

    I am not trying scare women away from nerds, I am just saying that all people have their issues.

    Whoever said experience is like getting a comb after you have gone bald was not lying!

  • Anthony

    Arkham City sounds like an H.P. Lovecraft reference.

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    Just googled it and it probably is

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    @Ask_Me

    in all honesty, he didn’t see all of you are any way in particular. He said at least 51%. He wasn’t talking about currently; he said early in their lives. That’s likely based on what he has come across. Considering you are making similar generalizations based on what you have observed (” Forget the massive number of men (who I personally believe are the MAJORITY) who don’t fit into either of these stereotypes!”), it’s seems a bit wrong for you to criticize when he does it.

    While I’m not willing to claim it is the majority of all women, the majority of educated women (of all races) that I know have or have had a thing for bad boys. The allure of the bad boy isn’t some strange counter-intuitive concept that he made up. Even if it doesn’t apply to you or the people you hang out with, doesn’t mean that doesn’t describe a great many women out there. I know a a lot of educated women that at some point in their lives were with some sort of bad boy — girls in college or high school that were with drop outs, drug dealers, outlaw bikers, players, etc.

    Maybe it is just my personal experience and it’s not like that in the rest of the world, but I know many guys that have experienced the same thing. The irony is, the same girl that would reject me in high school or college, because of lack of swag or general badassedness, is the same girl that is very receptive to me now that we are in our 30s. These women are not hoodrats; they are educated, successful, attractive, professional women.

  • Crystal

    I am currently dating a man who I guess you could consider a Blerd. I just think he’s smart, funny and a little shy. He is refreshing and It’s nice to be someone who is not so experienced.

  • http://twitter.com/TheLarryWilson The Larry Wilson (@TheLarryWilson)

    I’m not a nerd, I’m a geek there’s a difference!! lol

  • Mr. Man

    I really like number 4. It really goes along way in any relationship.

    I personally have a huge passion for both yesteryear and todays modern residential architecture. My wife is only able to meet me 1/3rd of the way on this topic as it tends to bore her once I get into the design theroy of the topic. Once I realized that I’ve gone pass her level of interest I quickly wrap it up. Me having to do this isn’t done in frustration its simply out of consideration, I’m just happy she has even put forth the effort to show what little intrest she has.

    What I have learned is that those of us who have nich interests need to be considerate of others who may not share our interest to the extent we do. At least this way your geek-out moments wont be completely responsible for the death of your (possible) relationship.

  • Kristi

    Considering I’m a bit of a “blerd” myself, I don’t think I need pointers on how to date one. Not that there should be a distinction between “nerds” of any race….frankly, “blerds” have always existed. Just because White America at large has just begun to notice that Black people have interests in things that aren’t sports or music, and not all of us have great rhythmic timing or “swagger” doesn’t mean that “blerds” haven’t always been around.

  • AM

    @ Ravi,

    Listen, and listen good. I am here for YOUR blerdassness. YAZZ.

  • Anthony

    That is true, we do not all totally focus on music and sports.

  • Change

    i don’t think anyone heard you.
    could you repeat this for the people in the back please!

  • kaybee

    Well I just met one..I’ll take this advice thx

  • kaybee

    True..not much experience can also mean being less guarded..not all of this ‘Ive been hurt before’ crap lol

  • Jaslene

    51% of colored women like the street pharmacist where the heck do you live in Detroit? Also how old are you because you keeping using the word colored?

  • Jaslene

    Do you mean endorsement?

  • Anthony

    It’s sweet that you appreciate him. So often being a little inexperienced is seen as a weakness.

  • Anthony

    That comment was for Crystal.

  • Jaslene

    Are you trying to convince us that you are smart? The reason why I don’t believe you are that smart is because a “nerd” at least the one you are trying to be would invest in Spell Check and not misspell words like “dumb” and “endorsement”. You could say they were typos but you misspelled endorsement twice in an earlier post and that doesn’t happen by coincidence.

  • Jaslene

    Please tell me when there were times like these because in the history of everything there has always been a label.

  • Jaslene

    In a way my dad is a Blerd and I love him for it. He leans more toward nature when it comes to his blerdiness and majored in biology. People use to give him a hard time about it. The interesting thing about him is that he is the least socially awkward person I have ever known.

  • http://gravatar.com/apurplefist DanaT

    Yes, I was thinking the same sentiment. Like, who coined the termed “blerd”? It’s as if…being black and a nerd CANNOT be mutually exclusive so our community (or other powers that be) created a specific term for these so-called black anomalies.

  • Pseudonym

    “thug-pimp wannabe womanizing blerd”

    …Girl, yes! I keep running into these black smart dudes who are in the midst of some spiteful twisted “Revenge of the Nerds.” I’m not the girl who turned them down in high school, but I keep running into all these guys who want me to suffer their wrath b/c of the girl who passed them up for a more popular boy in 9th grade. I’ll pass. (And the kicker is that they get mad at women who turn down their whole “arrogant nerdy asshole” act.) Le sigh.

  • Pseudonym

    As someone who tends to date so-called “nerds,” I have to admit there is a difference. Black nerds seem to still feel that pressure to be “cool” and a lot spend their 20s and 30s trying to be players and being (as one commenter put it) ” thug-pimp wannabe womanizing blerds” whereas in other cultures (esp among South Asians and East Asians), nerdism is valued, so the guys stay chill. and I don’t blame them. I’ve had black female friends turn down black nerdy dudes b/c they didn’t have “game,” “swag,” or seemed “lame.” (Until they hit there mid-30s…)

  • RenJennM

    My love now and my love before him are both nerds. More so, what you’d call “cool nerds”: men with high IQs, video-game addictions, and a love of math and trivia, but with immaculate fashion sense, an extensive taste in music, and masculine sex appeal. Just my type of guys. :-)

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  • Big_Luv

    All nerds come “in-style” during/after college and on into late Twenties- early thirties. Because most of the time these are the cats with the real good job and ones who end up running companies later in life….ie Doctors, Lawyers, Accountants, etc….Once you reach that stage in life women are looking for some one who can provide a good life to them vs someone who can provide a temporary good time. I bet President Obama was considered a nerd/geek in his teen/ early college years but look at him now.

  • http://www.facebook.com/besqrdx B. Laurence

    The only thing missing was a picture of the missing African-American cast member from “Big Bang Theory.” (FYI, there should be one on the show). However, in interacting with the so-called “blerd” it just requires compromise and the realization that we probably find our strengths in other areas than certain interpersonal relationships.

    Overall… this isn’t a bad article. Be prepared to discuss the correlation between urban renewal projects and educational outcomes.

  • joejoe

    Well I have noticed that for a black man who finished school, speaks correctly/no ebonics, no baby mamas, no thuggin or jail time or basically being a regular man will tag you as a nerd.

  • Anthony

    Not quite so, I think the thing tht gets men labeled nerds is the lack of “swag” or what folks my age called “cool.” As a guy who has always lacked cool,I learned that it is better to hold up your head and be a proud nerd that to look goofy trying to be cool.

  • http://twitter.com/Serenesin Serene Sin (@Serenesin)

    Blerds will love http://www.campwakanda.com, Burning Man 2013.

  • http://twitter.com/Neuronerd17 Drogen (@Neuronerd17)

    Plug!
    Awesome

  • http://fromthoughtsintowords.blogspot.com/ rkahendi

    Well, we could say the same thing about the term “nerd”. Any which way you look at it, we’re putting people in boxes and labeling them. Frankly, it’s annoying, but what can you do?

  • http://fromthoughtsintowords.blogspot.com/ rkahendi

    You are so right, Mademoiselle.

  • flower

    Yall Defitnitely left out MSNBC Melissa Harris Perry always has a freaken shirt in her office that says black nerds unite!

  • http://fromthoughtsintowords.blogspot.com/ rkahendi

    You’re right, Anthony.

    It’s been my observation that, at some point in life, everybody gets rejected, and everybody rejects somebody. Even the men who claim that women only want bad boys are guilty of breaking the hearts of women who have crushes on them. In other words, they are also selective about who they show an interest in.

    That’s why it doesn’t make sense to be obsessing about the girls/ boys who didn’t want to date you in high school some 20 odd years ago. Garden variety rejection is part of everybody’s life. Yes, it is traumatic when you first experience it. But the world is bigger than that one person or one group of people.

  • YeahRight2011

    Never been into Blerds.

  • http://gravatar.com/mordernchristianfeminist Sharon Smith-Hardy

    I am lifelong “Blerd” and my husband has long since come to terms with that. At first it seems like a mismatch; I am into all things Sci-Fi and he is a jock who is into all things football and Nascar. Somehow we have made it work. He travels with me when I go to Cons through out the year. He will attend the important social events in costume (he is a very sexy Klingon), and when he gets bored he leaves me to enjoy the long queues while he explores the local area and meets up with college friends who live in the area. We live in Daytona so I attend all the races, and Bethune-Cookman games with him and when I get bored, or it gets too loud I put on my headphones and pull out my kindle.

    We have struck a balance and my hubby agrees that the tips in this article are the sme ones he uses to stop the eye rolling when I tell him that I have headed to the comic book shop to purchase the newest Magic The Gathering expansion pack.

  • LBiggie

    Finally, a female voice! I could not believe that article presumed all blerds were men. Someone needs to check their sources and open their eyes.

  • http://gravatar.com/pinklipstick227 pinklipstick227

    Preach!

  • Humanista

    Nerds are cool, but not with out the same issues other types have, I can say from experience. And you don’t have to be a nerd to enjoy one.

    Also, this definition of “blerd”/nerd seems kind of caricaturish to me. How is talking ad nauseam about wormholes any different from going on and on about basketball stats or fashion or whatever if you’re not interested in those things either? Is spending all day on Madden better than spending all day playing WoW? I would say that obsession or excessive time-spending on a single thing is negative,nerd or not.

    In any case, all nerds aren’t obsessive about their interests. And clearly, all people who aren’t obsessive about a thing are considered nerds. I know plenty of quirky engineer super-brain types who have a variety of interests.

  • Humanista

    Looooove this comment!

  • http://gravatar.com/zenslens Zenzi

    ..and if I, as a Black WOMAN, fit this description, then this whole article is a big yawn.

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