Just Do It: Deleting A Guy’s Number

by The Frisky

DeleteI’m a numbers girl.

I take pride in my cell’s large phone book as much as I take pride in amassing new Facebook friends, Tumblr followers, and page views. I’m sorry, but in this day and age, the higher the numbers get, the cooler one looks.

This creates a problem, however, when there are just certain people to whom one shouldn’t be linked—past lovers. Naturally, the Internet makes it hard to completely escape from the counterpart of your failed relationship. But, in some sort of sick backwards logic, I tend to increase this hardship by keeping them around in the digital arena for longer than necessary.It’s clearly an unhealthy habit, seeing as in the past three months, I have:

  • Drunkenly called an ex (my first, and most serious love), and told him, “I still love you.” Umm…so not true, and so, so wrong to say.
  • Texted a boy I always tell myself I won’t get emotionally attached to after sex…and then do. And yes, that text resulted in just that.
  • Initiated contact with a hookup after two months of radio silence. He maintained radio silence. That was just downright embarrassing.

Today, I finally managed to chuck out the trash after seeing a past date’s AIM Away Message as simply, “YouPorn.com.” Dear lord, I did not need to see that. Delete.

I found with the first one gone, it became easier, and before I knew it, my cell phone had lost some serious weight. (Yet, I do secretly admit that I can’t wait until one does text and I get to respond, “Um, who is this?” as if I ever gave a damn).

More level-headed women, like my roommate, concede that there’s a three to four week grace period before the last interaction and final deletion. At that point, erasure is the best way to move on and face the music: Dude just isn’t going to call.

 

The Frisky

This post originally appeared on The Frisky. Republished with permission.

  • Sasha

    I regularly delete numbers along with “friends” on Facebook. I can’t stand clutter, especially in the form of people spam.

  • EST. 1986

    I’m the same way.

  • Natalie

    Lol! I always do this! And to make things even easier, I will not save a guy’s number until we have a real relationship, platonic or romantic. I can’t be wasting the unlimited spots on my Contact List pssh lol

  • RenJennM

    I’m the opposite. I can’t seem to make myself finally delete the number. Facebook? I can do. Delete, delete, delete. Twitter? No problem. Unfollow, unfollow, unfolllow. Instagram? Peace out! UNFOLLOW!

    But it’s something about phone numbers. I just could never bring myself to do it. Even guys I haven’t talked to in YEARS… I still have their numbers in my phone. And some that once meant a lot to me, like my ex, are under titles like “Do Not Answer!” and “IGNORE!” lol Sad, I know. But it’s something about a number to me. It’s like, I know I’ll never call it, but if I ever need to, it’s right there.

  • Yr

    There was this one guy, I would delete his cell, but keep his work number…lol! I tried my best to keep in touch with him. I was in my early 20’s then. I’ve learned not to hold onto something that isn’t there. Delete all numbers as well as other contacts. This way when a new prospect or the right one comes along, that old guy won’t take up space in your heart or mind.

  • MK

    I never delete anyone, bad habit.

  • http://www.lifestylebyky.com Ky

    I absolutely do the same thing

  • Do better

    Love it, I deleted a guy’s # last night plus our past text convos lol. It’s refreshing and it’s tossing the dead weight to make room for a guy who’s serious and bf material.

  • Mademoiselle

    I have no problems deleting phone numbers, texts, emails, email addresses, home addresses, pictures, etc after about a month. Gotta get them all lest you accidentally include them in one of your mass messages — that’s happened to me when I was trying to let everyone know I changed my email address, and then I get a reply from a guy I never wanted to here from again (I feel like I know the guy the author just deleted). What I wish was possible is that my deleting them also simultaneously deleted me from their contacts. Asking them to do it (no matter how nice or mean) hasn’t been working for me.

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