Aliyah Shell, 6; Heaven Sutton, 7

Aliyah Shell, 6; Heaven Sutton, 7, both victims of gun violence in Chicago.

Six-year-old Aliyah Shell was standing on the front porch with her mother and younger sister when she was gunned down in a drive-by shooting in Chicago.

Seven-year-old Heaven Sutton was standing next to her mother in front of her home selling candy when gunshots rang out on her Chicago block and she crumbled on the pavement, dead from a stray bullet.

Sandra Tyler held her 13-year-old son, Tyquan, in her arms as he bled out on a Chicago sidewalk, another random victim of a senseless, drive-by shooting.

“I held him in my arms on the sidewalk and talked to him while he was fighting for his life,” Tyler said in June. “I regret letting him go to the party. He was my baby — so loving and respectful.”

And the list of black and brown children goes on and on…

Without fanfare or pomp and circumstance, mothers and fathers in rural towns and urban cities mourn their children quietly, as their memories fade from America’s conscious like tiny footprints in the sand.

There will never be an appropriate time to say that this nation only stands at attention when the majority of victims are white Americans, as was the case at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown Connecticut, so I might as well say it today.

It is horrifying what happened to those babies. As my mentor, Rebecca Carroll, so unerringly stated, for a parent, the thought of what transpired within the confines of Sandy Hook conjures up not just “visceral” emotions, but “primal” urges. We know hallways smelling of chalk and sanitizer, with the faint sounds of math and science echoing down the halls, empty with the exception of the lone student on a bathroom break and the teacher’s aide dashing to make copies.

We hear the laughter and screams on the playgrounds; we can imagine the whispers and the memories being made — check yes or no — when a crazed madman burst into their 6- and 7-year-old worlds with a big scary gun that mommy and daddy couldn’t save them from. The terror seizes our hearts as if those were our children — because they could have been. And the deepest fear most parents have is not being there to protect them when they need us most.

But therein lies the fundamental difference.

The nation doesn’t stop when the Heavens and Aliyahs of the world are snatched from us too soon. How many outside of our own communities demand gun control legislation when the victim is brown-eyed and kinky-haired, and not blue-eyed and blond?

White American children in this country who become victims of gun violence are a sign of shattered innocence, an anomaly that must be analyzed and dissected to ensure that it doesn’t happen again. Black and Brown American children who become victims serve as an indictment of our communities, our homes and our parenting.

Even white perpetrators are assessed delicately. Adam Lanza was a good kid, let media and friends tell the tale — a genius even, who simply exhibited maladaptive social tendencies. His loving mother Nancy, who taught him how to shoot her cache of high powered rifles before he shot her in the head multiple times, was an exceptional parent. This tableau leaves many white Americans in paralyzing fear, because, gotdamnit, if being white, rich and Christian doesn’t afford you some protection in this crazy, mixed up world, then we’re all doomed.

President Barack Obama, a Commander-in-Chief for whom murdered black children has never made the itinerary beyond a Rose Garden soundbite and MTV during the election cycle, rushed to Newtown, Connecticut — as he did Aurora, Colorado – to comfort and console the community:

I can only hope it helps for you to know that you’re not alone in your grief, that our world, too, has been torn apart, that all across this land of ours, we have wept with you. We’ve pulled our children tight.
And you must know that whatever measure of comfort we can provide, we will provide. Whatever portion of sadness that we can share with you to ease this heavy load, we will gladly bear it. Newtown, you are not alone.
You know, someone once described the joy and anxiety of parenthood as the equivalent of having your heart outside of your body all the time, walking around.

With their very first cry, this most precious, vital part of ourselves, our child, is suddenly exposed to the world, to possible mishap or malice, and every parent knows there’s nothing we will not do to shield our children from harm. And yet we also know that with that child’s very first step and each step after that, they are separating from us, that we won’t — that we can’t always be there for them.

They will suffer sickness and setbacks and broken hearts and disappointments, and we learn that our most important job is to give them what they need to become self-reliant and capable and resilient, ready to face the world without fear. And we know we can’t do this by ourselves. It comes as a shock at a certain point where you realize no matter how much you love these kids, you can’t do it by yourself, that this job of keeping our children safe and teaching them well is something we can only do together, with the help of friends and neighbors, the help of a community and the help of a nation. And in that way we come to realize that we bear responsibility for every child, because we’re counting on everybody else to help look after ours, that we’re all parents, that they are all our children.

This is our first task, caring for our children. It’s our first job. If we don’t get that right, we don’t get anything right. That’s how, as a society, we will be judged.

And we will be found lacking.

Though President Obama briefly touched on toxic gun violence across the country, the close to 300 Chicago Public Schools students killed by violence over a 3 year period still deserve a vigil; the 27 Palestinian children killed by U.S. and Israeli funded weaponry in this latest conflict deserve a vigil; the 178 children killed by U.S. drone strikes in Pakistan and Yemen also deserve a vigil.

More urgently, as a nation we must move beyond the shallow rhetoric of  “we can do better” to actually implementing targeted, effective policies across the spectrum, from gun control to mental health, that will dismantle the blood-thirsty war machine, domestic castes systems and the entrenched systemic and systematic racism that leaves white America stunned when incomprehensible violence kicks in their front doors and the rest of America resigned when it tears down theirs.

Contrary to popular belief, it doesn’t make it more heinous because there were 20 children murdered at one time in a quiet, well-to-do enclave; there is no package deal on grief. The unconscionable act of the killer may take brutal to new heights, but it does not tilt the scales on the collective value of the lives lost. Peel apart the tear-stained layers, and there are individual families who will grieve in their homes alone years after the candles have been blown out and the flowers have withered and died. And they are no different from families suffering in silence around the world.

Red and yellow, black and white, they are all precious. And until we, as human beings, begin to treat them as such, until we purposefully live the creed that “an injustice anywhere, is a threat to justice everywhere,” our chickens will continue to come home to roost.

And innocent children will continue to fall victims to a world not of their own making.

***In honor of the 27 innocent victims of violence in Newtown, Connecticut, and all over the world. May they rest in peace and love.***

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  • apple

    i keep finding myself with the same reoccurring thought “if this were black/brown/maybe yellow kids no one would care” i mean they would care, but it wouldn’t be that much of an out pour, at least not for a long time like this will be…i try to be sympathetic because i am an empath and tragedy usually eats me up inside —feeling bad for those in pain…but its indifference i feel because i know that this thing mainly matters because these were white kids , in the right town, in the right tax bracket..its a weird feeling, to feel this way about death of children..i feel like i’m becoming a bad person or something :-/

    • You aren’t a bad person…I just think that so many blacks are feeling like “what about us?”…the black kid that got shot because his music was loud, I haven’t heard anything else about him…as a matter of fact a white male commented on the ajc site that he hopes that more black males get shot….I think that many of us are feeling this way…I just don’t think had this happened at a black school to black babies that the reactions would be the same…who knows? I hope we never find out.

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  • I know race is the prism through which we view everything in this country but it should not have to be like that. Everytime someone loses their life in this country due to violence is a tragedy and I therefore reject the thought of measuring one tragedy against the another. What ties Newtown and all the other incidents of children being shot down in our streets is America’s insane culture of violence where guns are the Holy Grail.

    “This morning, a madman attacked more than 20 children at an elementary school in China. As of this writing, there are no reported fatalities.
    A few hours later, a madman attacked an elementary school in Connecticut. As of this writing, 20 of those kids are dead.”
    That is a quote from a new story on December 14, 2012.

    “America eats the young, that’s the title” this piece should have had and we need to understand that a society that preys on its children with violence and neglect will not be long for this earth. Newtown hurts my soul because it was 20 children murdered in a place where we do not expect our children to be so wantonly victimized. I do not care what race they were because when it comes to killing children I do not care why, there is no explanation anyone can offer that will suffice. You are killing our future, whether you do it in the streets of Chicago or small town America. We make it easy for people to kill because it is so easy to access guns, rapid fire deliverers of death and destruction.

    People may kill people but people with guns kill a lot more people!

    • Gell0h0h

      This!!!! ^^^^ “… society that preys on its children with violence and neglect will not be long for this earth.”

  • Ladybadurae

    It’s easy to empathize with people we see as similar to us or for whom the situation could have gone down similarly. Therefore, can we blame white people, who own the media, for popularizing white victims? The President should get a side-eye but granted he’s forced to comment because of the media uproar that made it a national news story.
    We(Read: the black community) need to gain control of the media or force the media to acknowledge us.

    • Chillyroad

      But the President has made many comments about violence in Chicago. Rahm Emmanuel has also. We have been talking about violence in Chicago since the 1930s.

    • Making comments and DOING something are two different things.

    • victoria

      @Ms Info

      I would like do know what do you think Pres Obama should do. Are you talking about gun control? Im not sure, but I can assume that the guns that the Chicago gang members use are illegal. As compared to the guns used in these mass killings which are legal. Im for gun control, but I wonder how authorities can control illegal guns.

    • @ Victoria, the same things that he will do because of this tragedy….possibly changing laws….policies, that is a start. Joining with local law enforcement to get criminals off the street and keep them off of the street. Programs and jobs to give youth an option to gangs…there are things that can be done.

    • swissblackberries

      Ms Info

      Im not sure what laws need to be changed or set in place to curb violence? Harsher laws haven’t done a thing. These laws sure have kept black boys behind bars for too long.

      Regarding work programs, Im very realistic and dont think that will happen for several reasons. 1) It hasnt happened, yet. 2) This cost money. 3) Work ethic is vital. When you have children who arent encouraged to make school a priority it’s going to be difficult for them to make work a priority. As a former 7th grade teacher on Chicago’s Westside, I witnessed a lack of family stability and parental involvement. I honestly believe without stabilitty and parental guidance, your tax dollars, new laws and programs will not make a difference.

      Also, I do believe that apprenticeships from the age of 15 should be introduced to America’s school systems. Especially in areas where high drop out rates exist, and for those who will not attend university. This may keep some off the streets and provide them with skills.

  • MimiLuvs

    I’m curious. In regards to Chicago, any suggestions?