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After calculating the results of a completely random, unscientific, social media poll, I have come to the conclusion that 76.21 percent of black men do not like Scandal.

To the 23.79 percent of black men imbued with discernment and the ability to parse creative, political and societal nuance, “Thank you.” And I’m counting down the days with you until next Thursday, which is hereby renamed Scandal.

That’s right: Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Scandal, Friday and Saturday.

In all seriousness, I brushed aside the occasional acerbic comments that would come across my Facebook timeline and Twitter feed. The Sally Hemings and Thomas Jefferson jokes that black female Scandal watchers would nervously bat away, secretly wondering if their black, male friends were laughing with them or at them didn’t even give me pause because I’ve long come to the conclusion that when it comes to inter-racial relationships, there are some black men who hold themselves to a different, hypocritical standard.

While their brethren, and themselves, are free to pursue and fetishize about any Sue, Becky and Kimmy that crosses their path — because black women are so demanding, fat, lazy, unsupportive [insert derogatory label here] — any sister who isn’t beating a drum in Leimert Park with dreads down her back or a TWA (Teeny-weeny afro),  is a race traitor waiting to spread her legs for the massa.

Let them tell it.

I swiftly discard that exaggerated criticism because it is so obviously steeped in feelings of emasculation and instinctive powerlessness that it would take much longer than a sweep of social media to peel back all of the layers and address its core.

But these anti-Scandal black men are a wily bunch. Oh yes, they are. They realized that they couldn’t continue to post pictures of Kim Kardashian on Monday, quote little Wayne talking about “bet that bitch look better red” on Tuesday, break down all the reasons why white women stay “#winning” on Wednesday, then complain about a black woman being in love with a white man on Thursday.

So, what’s the new tactic? Slut-shaming.

Forget that President Fitzgerald Grant III is white, they proclaim all aflutter with their hands clasped to their heaving bosoms. It’s that he’s MARRIED!

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After decades of black women living in a culture of infidelity that is reflected on screen without fail, now all of a sudden –when it is a powerful, black woman involved in an affair that viewers experience from her perspective — we want to talk about marriage.

After years of Blaxploitation films that depicted women as nothing more than breasts and asses, we want to talk about marriage.

After countless music videos shot in strip clubs with rappers collecting  “hoes” like parking tickets, now we want to talk about marriage.

Black women who root for Fitz and Olivia, in all of their complicated, “If Loving You Is Wrong, I Don’t Want To Be Right” fierceness, should put ourselves in the place of the poor wife who is being disrespected in all of this and be ashamed for watching.

Spare me.

As my father used to say, “I might have been born at night, but it wasn’t last night,” so there is no way in hell that I’ll believe that concern for the institution of marriage and the negative portrayals of black women in the media is the reason why Scandal is such a sensitive subject for those black men for whom the show presents an issue.

It’s okay for “bandz to make her dance,” but sleep with a married man? Now, that’s just uncivilized.

^ See how silly that sounds?

Don’t get me wrong, if President Grant were black and Liv were white, black women would not flock to Scandal. I freely admit to that. It wouldn’t matter how empathetically and  compassionately their love was depicted. It. would. not. fly. Not in this life or the next. Those same deep, racial fissures that would turn some women away from that inverted plot are clearly causing resentment in some black men and that’s understandable. I get it.

I get that no one is allowed to objectify black women but them.

We could get into the details of the show and discuss just why exactly Olivia Pope is not being objectified. We could talk about the nucleus of power  — of which Olivia is at the forefront — and how the marriage in question is one of convenience and not truth. We could even discuss monogamy and why, if and should it be the standard of all relationships. But to delve into any of these things would be to fall for the distraction that Olivia’s affair with a married man is the real issue why some of these men are one step away from creating a petition on Change.org to boycott Shonda Rhimes — and we all know that it’s not.

This is about hyper-masculinity, patriarchy and possession. For once, a black woman is depicted on screen who is one self-reliant, skilled, bad-ass business-woman capable of making her own decisions based on choices independent of black male control — and she chose a white man.

More importantly, she chose love with all its drama attached — no racial qualifier needed. And attempting to slut-shame black, female viewers into turning the channel just proves that a lot of egos need to be adjusted for deflation.

For once, it’s not about you, sirs. And that’s okay, you’ll live. We’ve being doing it for years.

  • Pretty_BlackIce

    After reading these comments and dissecting the different exchanges, I have t o say that I am very disappointed in the responses from the male commentators, and even more disappointed in the women who continued to argue with these poor deluded children. Young boys I don’t blame you for your disdain of this show, it is beyond your understanding and you can not relate to the true theme of the story. It took a while for me to understand your point of view, but now I get it. You all are not angry with this show, you are angry because for the first time, you are being rejected, degraded, dehumanized, desexualized, belittled, and made an after – thought by a black woman, one of your own…now you know how it truly feels to be a black woman in America. Unfortunately, your feelings are unwarranted, because Scandal is not about you it is about us for once. It is about feminine liberation that’s why all women can relate to all of the story’s powerful characters, from the president’s wife to Olivia pope’s mother. These women fight, love, and sacrifice for the betterment of their livelihoods and Olivia has the most power because her life does not stop or start because of Fitz nor does it exist because of Edison. I know that’s what really has you all upset, isn’t she’s not a thirsty, desperate “ho” begging for your attention on Instagram, she’s not a “video ho” spreading her butt cheeks for you to slide a credit card down the crack of her ass. She is more powerful than all of you, she makes the choices, she does the choosing, and you all aren’t used to that. You are afraid and you should be because eventually more of our women are going to ask for more, they are going to want more, they are going to demand more from the men that we are taught to cherish, to love, to respect. I don’t know where you all are from, but here in Charleston, SC we love our smart, decent, pro-black, black men who love their black women. I love my husband and he loves his dark chocolate princess, and my beautiful black children. We are very Afro-centric, so I am very disturbed by your comments C2. You say the most horrible and belittling things about black women, like many little boys do, but you neglect the fact that when you categorize so many black women it speaks volumes of your hatred for them. What does your mother think about those comments you make about massa’s bed winches, is your mother a winch, grandmother, great grandmother, great great grandmother….I know what you are referring to those women were similar to “house niggas”…that was their defense mechanism their way of survival not something they naturally took pride in, and by giving some of the slave women those “alleged privileges” the slave master’s made sure the slaves would argue, fight, and maintain a strong discord and not rise together….much like you all are doing now. Moreover, the slave men were raped too by the master’s wife, so he was constantly emasculated in front of his family and he was absolutely helpless all he could do is empathize with the plight and burdens of his wife…read the William lynch papers. Instead of attacking these women continue to be the exception, comedian or not you have good sense use it. Prove that you are the better man and that you aren’t a typical stereotype, and that your argument is to preserve black love and restore the black man’s image despite what these women have experienced. Make these women see that they are beautiful as they are, that they are worth love, respect, and loyalty…be an outlier, a solution and not a driving force behind this dreadful cycle. The whole dissolution of the black family and black culture is TIRED, and that goes for everyone on this blog….very very very sad!

  • C2

    That was so comical. I guess I’ll be a little “boy” and make more comments. It’s funny how angry white men and Black women love to call Black men that. Two sides of the same coin… but that’s another topic.
    Dr. Mary McLeod Bethune, Rosa Parks, Coretta Scott King, Betty Shabazz, Tubman, etc. were powerful and strong women. Today’s so called “Skrong-Independent-Black Woman” are a joke.
    At the end of the day you can’t pour syrup on S*** and call it pancakes. Olivia Pope is still a whore and continues the Negro Bed Wench stereotype. The show is mediocre. It’s not about Pope kicking butt and taking names. It’s about her staying on her back, desk or up against a tree (with no privacy and two other men near by). At least the bedwench got it on the “bed.” LOL! Take away the sub plot of her “fixer” role, you have a good porno.
    If Pope was white, Black woman would not watch it. If the president was black, it would be off the air. Black women and white men lost their minds over that 30 second Cherrios commercial, so I know they’ll go crazy if the races were reversed.
    I love Black Women, that’s why I hate to see them degraded. I can’t stand Beyonce shaking her butt every 2 minutes. And have the nerve to be surprised when some white boy smacks it while she’s performing. Well…That’s what she promotes. BUT BLACK WOMEN LOVE HER and Nikki Minaj. They had no problem with this whore using the iconic Malcolm X to sell a song called “Looking ass N-words”
    The “Your Momma Black” response is so typical of black women. LoL! But since you brought it up – My mother and grandmother are not bed wenches. My mom watches the show for entertainment reasons. BUT she’s woman enough to say that the only reason it’s so popular with black women is because of Pope’s lust for a white man. It would not get all the hype if all the characters were black.
    Don’t try to change history. Although some Black woman were raped during slavery, a lot of them took PRIDE in being the master’s wench for a lot of reasons. Black women still talk that “good hair” crap today. It’s the reason why an Asian family can open up a weave store and send 10 kids to college. But Sharkesha-Alize has to get a student loan and use her refund check to buy more weave.
    Come on son (In my Ed Lover voice) we all know Black Men could get killed for even sniffing a white woman’s perfume. But to be fair, there were some cases where white women fell in love with black men and risked their lives to help them escape to freedom. They did not stay on the plantation like the bed wenches.
    But maybe what you said was true. Maybe the slavemaster did get off on watching his wife with over slaves. I had a deep conversation with a white male co-worker years ago and he admitted two things: White men are intimidated by Black men but admire them at the same time. He said that’s why Black man/white woman skin flick are mostly purchased by white men. He fixed computers as a side job and being nosey, he noticed that a lot of white men had these type of dirty films on their computers. In music, he also pointed out that when a white man sounds like a black man – he blows up and becomes popular.
    You have to ask yourself why the black man is always looking like the chump in Hollywood and if innerracial dating is promoted, it’s usually with a white man. First Black Disney Princess, but no Black Prince to save her?????? (Disney produces Scandal too). The Black man in the cartoon was the villian – go figure.
    The Lynch papers are made up documents. Black people have to stop making excuses for supporting coonery and white supremacy. When you watch Scandal, that’s exactly what you’re doing.
    “I’m not from Mars, I’m just reacting to this dumb s***!” – Paul Mooney on racism and white supremacy.

  • Pretty_BlackIce

    This may come to a surprise for you because you have selective understanding, but I am supporting your belief in preserving black families and black love. Also, I am not challenging your research just your interpretation of what you may have read or have been told. My main point that I am laboring for you to comprehend is that the character Olivia Pope personifies power, which is something I feel a lot of our beautiful black women are struggling to possess. If you were able to really break down our society’s social hierarchy, and see how we are ranked in society maybe you would be able to understand my point of view. What I am realizing, while I am reading these different exchanges is that we, as a community, have a big communication problem. Apparently the plight of the black woman in today’s society is totally imaginary to you, but the plight of the black male will always be our burden. Despite the horrible, degrading, hateful things you say about young black women today, I would never fix my mouth to downgrade all black men like you are doing black women. I just want you to hear the cries for help with some of these women who feel disenfranchised and neglected. Think outside the box, go against the grain take these sorry mother’s who use child support as a secondary income, women who objectify themselves to keep up with the kardashiahs, and females who blame their problems on missing fathers as a crutch. My father was not present in my life as much as I wish he was, and I know he did his best and I don’t hate him and I know a lot of great black men who love great black women. I understand your disappointment and your disdain for the image that the characters portray, but it is our privilege to promote one another, to empower one another, so “others” won’t have to. This is the broken ideology in our community that needs to be repaired. I know that you are being defensive and joking around because you feel like today’s black women are dismissing our black men by supporting this show, but the two do not correlate. It’s really sad that there is so much self – hatred in these arguments because we aren’t trying to understand where each person is coming from. I also want you to think of how that show makes you feel next time you read comments like “Black girls are ugly, played out, tired, these ignorant expletives that you see on twitter, facebook, tumblr, contribue to speak against it, and you will contribute to the solution not enhance the problem, and my beautiful black women please continue to do the same…encourage one another and discourage degrading one another….that’s the real issues that fuels this petty argument!

  • C2

    I understand you’re point a little. But I’m sorry, I can’t support the ratchetness. I can’t jump on the “Olivia Pope is role model” band wagon. I’ve been unplugged from the Matrix and I’m not going back. You talk about power, but why do Black women have to look up to a fictional character (whose claim to fame is being a side piece), a reality show star or some chick that can’t perform one show without twerking. It’s sad, but if Kerry Washington was playing a detective or mayor (power) happily married to a black man -black women would not watch it. It would be off the air in two weeks no matter how good the writing was.
    I understand the plight of black women, but I also understand the plight of black people as a whole. Let’s be honest, Black women are 90 % at fault for for rift between us – Opera, The “Black man ain’t S***” campaign, movies and books such as the Color Purple, Child Support, Welfare programs that require no man at home, the downlow myth, etc. Black women have been throwing black men under the bus with the help of white people for years. But now they want to play the victim since Black men are using the Internet to tell their sides of the story and how Eve (the black women) bit the apple (independence/feminism) in the garden (the black community before the 1970s)
    But it’s hard not to call the BS out that you mentioned. I’ve been called selfish because I refuse to date women with 2,3,4,5 kids. But that’s what you get with the majority of black women. Since I grew up with both my biological parents (still married after 38 years) – that’s weird to me. And when you do give one a chance they don’t know how to date a good man because they’re so used to deadbeats. It’s like the Twilight Zone to them when they date a man with his stuff together and no kids.
    No one said Black Women are not beautiful. I think they are the best on the planet. But the attitude (that only black men have to put up with), daddy issues and the funky weave make them unattractive. It’s like they don’t embrace their black beauty. If I wanted a woman with stringy flowing hair, I’ll date a white one. What’s up with the fake hair? How are Black men supposed to embrace the beauty of their women, when they’re trying to look like someone else? When we see a show like Scandal and the response it receives we’re thinking “Damn, are black women’s self-esteem so low that they take pride in being the side piece to a powerful white man?”
    To me it’s no different than a video ho in a black rapper’s video. Pope is just more classy with it. When the lights go off in the bedroom it’s all the same.

  • Baakus

    Well said.

    I also wonder if in “Romeo Must Die,” Aaliyah had been allowed to kiss (or heaven forbid, sleep with) Jet Li, what Black men’s reactions would’ve been.

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