Fantasia: “Gay Marriage [Is] Legal But Yet I’m Judged”
Since she became the third winner of American Idol, Fantasia Barrino has been the subject of constant media scrutiny. The North Carolina-bred singer makes the news more often for her personal life than her enormous vocal talent.
Aside from being illiterate and becoming pregnant as a teenager, Fantasia is judged most harshly for seemingly breaking up a happy home when she had a baby with a married man.
The criticism affected her so deeply she attempted suicide. Now, the “Bittersweet” singer is speaking out in her own defense. She posted on her Instagram:
I Rise ABOVE IT ALL!!! THE WORLD IS GONE MAD. KIDS, THE GOVERMENT, THE church House… Everybody Trying!!!!!!! Its a lot that going on that the Bible speaks about we should Not be doing. Weed legal in some places, Gay Marriage Legal BUT YET IM JUDGED!!! Im not doing Nothing for you… My Life!!!!
She does have a point about being judged, rising above criticism and owning the choices she makes in her life. But many took offense to her comments about gay marriage being legal.
Even some Christians found fault with Fantasia’s post, saying her wording implies that same-sex marriage should be judged more harshly than adultery.
After the backlash, her public relations team responded to clear up her view on LGBTQ relationships:
Comments made by Ms. Barrino through her Instagram account were recently taken far out of context, and the purpose of this release is to set the record straight. Ms. Barrino is not now, nor has she ever been an opponent of the LGBT community. She has supported and performed at numerous events that are sponsored by the LGBT community. Whether it’s through a live performance or placement on social media, Ms. Barrino uses every opportunity to reach out and connect with her fans, all of her fans.
In 2013 we need to get Fantasia a better PR team and a media coach.
Yes ppl critsism Fantasia because she’s an easy target, she put all of her buisness out there , reality show, twitter etc.. Of course people are going to comment some will be harsh. Unfortunately that is te new nature of media and super stardom once you put your buisness out there , you’ll be eaten alive if your dont make a change.
I don’t remember ppl judging fantasia for being a teen mom, if anything she had a ” triumphant story” when she first one American Idol.
Fantasia hasn’t done the greatest job when it came to keeping herself together . It happens no ones perfect.
As far as the whole married man scandal .Fantasia had a public affair with the T-Mobile mall guy, got his name tattooed on her, supposedly started giving him money, got pregnant only for him to leave her for his wife , and try to get full custody of fantasia unborn child for MonEY. That is one heck of a scandal.
It’s a shame people can’t be glad to see gay men and lesbians gain the same rights as heterosexuals. Yes, Fantasia’s right that she has been harshly judged but GLBT people aren’t taking anything away from her by gaining the right to marry. Also, to refer to gay marriage as the “gay agenda” is a tired old trope, like saying that gays and lesbians want “special rights”–when I hear that phrase it’s like having someone exhale their stale bad breath all over a conversation. How is wanting to have the right to marry and love openly an “agenda”??
Thank you!!!
EXCLUSIVE: Court Finds Fantasia’s Married Lover Was Separated From Wife At Time Of Tryst
There’s been a major win for singer Fantasia, with a North Carolina court finding the married man who impregnated her was actually separated from his wife at the time of their love affair.
http://www.radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/12/exclusive-court-finds-fantasias-married-lover-was-separated-wife-time-tryst
Fantasia is an illiterate and ignorant woman. All she can do is sing. And she needs to stick to that. And like many others, she needs to concern herself with what she does and not what others are doing.
“I’m tired of this super sensitivity when it comes to gays”
I’m sure many White people are tired of Black people being super-sensitive too. I guess people who are apart of minority groups ought to just shut up and take what ever society gives them, right.
::sigh:: isn’t it a shame when the oppressed start taking on the qualities of the oppressor?
@mEE
Exactly.
Um yeah why wouldn’t I want to take on the qualities of “the oppressor.” It’s not politically correct and “I” wouldn’t choose to say it like that but how else do you take down someone? Do you hit them where they are weak or where they are strong? In order to rise above another you defeat them where they are strong. Black people will never be the oppressor because we have been reminded of “our place” for far too long and we are scared.
So I’m assuming you two believe gay is the new black eh?
There is NO WAY you can compare the two based on historical context alone. You choose to be gay and expose that lifestyle. We don’t choose to be black.
I would love to know how many people have been pulled over for driving while gay. How many gays are being killed by police because of their gayness? I sure would like to know how the media is attacking gay people right about now?
Miss me with that.
There are multiple axises of privilege. White people unfairly possess white skin privilege regardless of their sexual orientation. However, heterosexuals of all races possess many privileges gay men and lesbians don’t, including the right to marry in any state and the right to walk down the street holding hands with a partner without being bashed.
Anyone who is both gay and black experiences an double scoop (or more) of prejudice and oppression, above and beyond the racism black straight people live with and the homophobia white straight people experience.
I don’t know what right wing organization funded the studies you mention. Perhaps it’s one of the same conservative think tanks that regularly comes out with “evidence” supposedly proving that black people want to live on government handouts. Here’s another study for you to mull over:
http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/01/fantasia-gay-marriage-is-legal-but-yet-im-judged/comment-page-1/#comments
Strength is not a quality derived from the type of sex one has or the gender of one’s partner. Strength is not based on some false notions of macho masculinity. Strength comes from the ability truth to power while still holding compassion for others regardless of their differences.
So… at what point in your life did u ‘choose’ to be heterosexual?
Here is a question; considering all of the hatred and discrimination gay people suffer, why would anyone choose to be gay?
“the right to walk down the street holding hands with a partner without being bashed.”
Oh please, where is this happening? Willacoochie, Alabama? No one is doing that anymore because being gay is “in” now.
“I don’t know what right wing organization funded the studies you mention”
So you’ve never heard of the advantages children growing up in two parent homes have over other children? Nothing to do with right wing organizations. Even your friend President Obama has stated this.
“Strength is not a quality derived from the type of sex one has or the gender of one’s partner”
There’s nothing strong about a man bending over and taking it up the rear end
If all black people had to worry about was the right to marry then we would be alright. I can’t believe you all are trying to compare this to being black. Are you serious?
@Val
I know quite a few people in fact made a CHOICE to be gay. Here is what they told me:
1). They are tired of men.
2). They wanted someone to love them regardless of their gender.
3). They were raped/sexual abused at some point. And that either turned them off from men (as I have been told by so-called “lesbians” or they turned them on to men as I have been told by so-called gay men who were raped/touched by grown men while they were children).
4). Being gay is now a trend for many. Some have told me years ago they would never have considered getting it in with the SAME sex. However, now that it’s the “in” thing…they have no issues doing.
5). Last but not least, many of these folks own up to the reality that they cannot attract a mate to their liking of the opposite sex for a variety of reasons. For example, I have a cousin who now calls herself a lesbian despite having two children by two different men. This cousin admits if a man ever came along to her liking she would drop her girlfriend on her arse.
@Ask_ME
Those people are not gay. They are str8 people who decided for whatever reason they want to have sex or a relationship with a person of the same gender.
There is a huge difference between that and being who you are naturally. All those people are born str8 and are str8. There are plenty of men and women who are in prison that have sex with someone of the same gender, but they are not gay.