In Defense Of Shawty Lo … But Not Really

by Yesha Callahan

shawty lo

I’ve never heard of a Shawty Lo until a few weeks ago, when my friend sent me a link about a new Oxygen Network series called, All My Babies’ Mamas. At first I shook my head in disbelief at the absurdity of yet another reality TV show. What else can these networks come up with? Within the next few hours, social media was all abuzz about this new show that chronicles this rapper and 10 baby mamas and their 11 kids.

People were vehemently against the show. By people, I mean black people, because you know, when we’re outraged about something we have to take it to the streets … by streets, I mean Twitter. And what’s the next thing people do when they want to ‘kill it and kill it dead’?

They start a petition on Change.org, to express just how much something sucks.

After the ‘outrage’ and a successful petition, Shawty Lo’s show which was still in its early stages of production, was subsequently cancelled.

But wait a minute.

Let’s talk about all of the other shows on Oxygen and similar networks that are just as bad.

There’s Bad Girls Club. I’ll be the first to say, there’s nothing like a good girl fight and getting to see women maul at each other, bust each other in the face and have drunken debacles, all while wearing bras and panties. But apparently that’s ok, but a man and his 10 baby mamas isn’t?

Where’s the petition to get shows of that ilk off the air?

Is it because the cast is typically multi-cultural, with black, white and the “ambiguous” types and they’re women? Because according to TV and Social Media, we all love to see women fighting on air, whether they’re black or white. We have Mob Wives, Basketball Wives LA & Miami, Real Housewives, and the list goes on.

I will say that Shawty Lo’s comments about why he has 50-11 kids is repulsive in itself, so don’t think I’m defending his actions, because I’m not. The rapper stated:

They wouldn’t have an abortion; they would take the money and run with it. Just so they can have a baby by the most poppin-est guy in the streets. So that’s how I had all them kids.

No, negro. That’s not how you had all of those kids. Your petri dish penis and the bacterial hide out vagina your semen inhabited without the use of a prophylactic is why you have all of those kids. Abortions are not a form of birth control.

Ok, now that I got that off my chest.

People seem to pick and choose what they want to protest. People also seem to have a whole lot of time on their hands.

Women clawing eyes out in their bras and panties? That’s Ok.

A man and his 10 baby mamas, with a show that would have probably put them off better financially? Not ok.

And need I forget to mention the unemployed writers and production staff that it takes to make a show? Like the world needs more unemployed people. Whatever happened to just changing the damn channel?

  • mikey kun

    No, negro. That’s not how you had all of those kids. Your petri dish penis and the bacterial hide out vagina your semen inhabited without the use of a prophylactic is why you have all of those kids. Abortions are not a form of birth control.

    THIS HAD ME CRACKING UP

  • warpaint

    My sentiments exactly. Their financial situation was the first thing I thought about when I heard the show was cancelled. I myself had every intention of tuning out. If their fine with being exploited to better support those children, it’s their prerogative.

  • Yvette

    To be fair, there are petitions against other reality shows.

    http://www.change.org/petitions/cancel-basketball-wives-stop-the-promotion-of-violent-negative-images-of-women-of-color-as-a-brand-development-strategy

    http://www.change.org/petitions/oxygen-cancel-the-reality-show-the-bad-girls-club?utm_source=share_petition&utm_medium=url_share&utm_campaign=url_share_before_sign

    I know some of you will write that these petitions didn’t have as many supporters as the one for All My Babies’ Mamas. This is true, but it’s only because AMBM has been talked about on every popular black blog (and in the mainstream media) ad nauseam for the past few weeks.

  • Yvette

    To be fair, there are petitions against other reality shows. A quick search on the change dot org website found at least two – against Real Housewives and Bad Girls Club.

    I know some of you will write that these petitions didn’t have as many supporters as the one for All My Babies’ Mamas. This is true, but it’s only because AMBM has been talked about on every popular black blog (and in the mainstream media) ad nauseam for the past few weeks.

  • Give It a Rest

    Quit trying to defend this idiot. I swear, it’s mostly black women trying to make a case for this ignorant show, what is wrong with you all? “Let him eat” no, eff that, let his seed spreading a– find another form of employment. Difference btwn BGC and this? They are involving *children*in this eff–ery. Every time ya’ll let crap like this slide our society slides down a notch. Have some standards if not for yourself than for the kids.

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    My sentiment as well the level of hypocrisy in the black community is absurd.

  • http://niksknits.blogspot.com Nik

    Because there are too few good images of black people on television, we want every image that IS shown to be good. I think that is the reason behind such an outcry. We don’t want mainstream society thinking that this is all black people have to offer the world.

  • Ms. Information

    There are enough positive images of whites to BALANCE the negative ones…..there are NOT enough positive images of us to BALANCE the negativity….the media controls minds and right now, black women are fat, mean with weaves to their ankles….

  • Stephanie

    The difference between ‘All My Babies Mammas’ and the other reality shows is age. If adults want to make a living by acting like idiots on television for our viewing entertainment, fine. But if our viewing entertainment means watching women parade their children around for ratings and funds, we have a problem with that-and so do I.

    Shawty Lo has to find some other way to make money to support his brood; if he made the choice to have 11 children he bears the responsibility of supporting all of them, without our added help in funds.

  • http://www.curlycrazy.com CurlyCrazy

    Thank you! While I totally understand the outrage about this show, I don’t understand why it’s the least bit shocking considering what’s on TV right now. I mean seriously, Bad Girls Club, all the Housewives shows, Basketball Wives, Love & Hip Hop, etc., all thrive on people’s addiction to watching other people’s drama and trifflingness. AMBM is no exception. Maybe people think Oxygen is taking it too far, but I really don’t see how this is much worse than half of these reality shows out there. Women LOVE to see other women fight, bicker, and claw eachother’s eyes out, but THIS show is too much?!?! I don’t get it.

  • http://www.curlycrazy.com CurlyCrazy

    So what about shows like Love & Hip Hop or Flavor of Love (back in the day). Those are horrible representations of black women, but there’s little outcry about them.

  • Hmmmmm

    Man sharing and multiple baby mamas has been the new normal in black households going on 2 generations so the outcry against broadcasting it is interesting to say the least.

  • Chelley5483

    Agree with Stephanie. Find another way to support them Shawty Lo. Get creative, like the other able-bodied, responsible parents in the world to put food on the table. ” Most poppin-est guy in the streets” S- all the way- TFU. Makes me shiver with disgust.

  • Natalie B.

    “…most poppin-est”

    Help me Holy Ghost…

  • Cocochanel31

    The creatives at Oxygen are dumb..if they had titled it differently and packaged it better it probably would not have drawn as much attention/controversy. They should’ve named it something like The Duggers..or Kate Plus Eight ..etc..something that “sounds” at least a little better. People were offended and rightfully so, but the Baby Mamas title..its off putting and offensive and ignorant.

  • Ask_Me

    It’s not all black women. I want this kneegrow and all is babymamas to GET A JOB! They can live under the same roof and babysit in shifts…I don’t care, but they don’t need to be on the taxpayers dime.

  • ImJustSaying

    I think the more seasoned horrible shows (bgc, rho-everything, Flava of love) came out before Change got going as a petition site for any and every issue. So now “we” have decided to stop the new madness before it starts. We can’t get the “old” foolishness off the air but we can keep new foolishness from getting airtime.

    I, personally, use my channel changing muscle to the fullest. No petition needed.

  • Chillyroad

    “They wouldn’t have an abortion; they would take the money and run with it. Just so they can have a baby by the most poppin-est guy in the streets. So that’s how I had all them kids.”

    Was he lying though? Many black men complain about this all the time. Black women find the man with the biggest peacock feathers in the hood and try to outdo eachother by having his children. He can be the biggest drug dealer, rapper, athlete and women or girls will line up to be with him.

  • sassybuttclassy

    Ok sooo isn’t this like the black version of the show on TLC called “Sister Wives”??? About a white man who has 14 children between multiple women.
    To be honest I’m repulsed by both “Sister Wives” and “All My Baby Mamas” but they are both the same concept so they should both be cancelled.
    I hate to play it but there’s a race card somewhere in this deck.

  • Ask_Me

    I want Shawty Lo and is babymamas to find JOBS. They can take turns watching the kids. They can share living quarters. It’s enough adults in this picture to handle business.

  • ImJustSaying

    No shade here but what about 16 & Pregnant and Teen Mom? Those are Parents and Grandparents (as these new moms are underage) exploiting their children to support themselves as well. That glorifies teen pregnancy for all races sent directly into teen homes and bedrooms every week.
    I just change the channel but I wonder if there are current petitions for the cancellation of those shows as well.

  • MimiLuvs

    Before I start my rant, let me at least speak about this article. I share the same sentiment with Yesha. Now that is out of the way… In regards to television shows that has black people, I believe that it doesn’t matter what type of show is on the air, “the others” is going to think a certain mindset. It doesn’t matter. A TV show with positive black characters will not change people’s mindsets. For a lot of them, you’re a n!@&$

  • http://yeshacallahan.com Yesha

    I’m assuming your comment referring to me as a “baby mama” was supposed to be offensive? Try again. Apparently you know my uterus? She said ‘hi’. But I’m glad I was able to provide you a laugh or two, since apparently you are easily amused by what you equate as irony. Perhaps my next article will be on people who troll the comment sections of a website, only to make themselves sound more superior than others, all the while using pseudonyms (from the looks of it on the back-end.. you use several).

    Am I judging the way he’s trying to take care of his children? No I am not, more power to him on trying to get a show on the air. But am I one of 11 women that got impregnated by the same man, no I am not. If you’d like to further discuss the details of my reproductive organs with me or my uterus, feel free to email me.

  • J.S.

    Negative.
    The guy on Sister Wives is married to all of those women (mostly a ceremonial marriage in concert with their religious beliefs). Shawty Lo knocked up 10 women with no intention on marrying/committing to any of them.

  • Chillyroad

    @SMH

    I’m not a numbers person. I’m more right brain than left but this one man and 11 baby mommas exposes the fallacy of there being more eligible black women than men. I mean this one man took out 11 women from a reasonable mans dating pool.

    Instead of the author mocking Mr. Lo I think she needs to question why he had so many moths circling his flame. Why so many black women forego a relationship with one decent man to immerse themselves in this juke joint harem.

  • camille

    What a bizarre comment. You really don’t understand why Shawty Lo might be judged? Really? And while you put him on a pedestal for whatever reason (I’ll just assume those hoes wouldn’t go to the clinic and spent up all your bread) you put down a woman for being a single mother? Why are you so hostile to women and so empathetic to Shawty Lo? Apparently the two of you have a lot in common, but defending him in such a manner is just weird.

    This is in reply to SHM.

  • Ask_Me

    @Yesha

    Can we block him and ALL his pseudonyms??? This has some SERIOUS issues.

  • Ask_Me

    *This individual (SMH) has some SERIOUS issues.*

  • Ask_Me

    Mr. Lo quite obviously ain’t shyt…those females are his counterparts.

    I don’t know why people expect more from black women while holding black men to less…despite the reality that we often come from the SAME households and the SAME communities.

    Those women are from the SAME environment as Shawty Lo. They don’t represent ALL black women. I don’t find Shawty Lo attractive at all. I’m sure I’m not alone. This is a case of the pot meeting the kettle.

    So, please stop trying to make it seem like these women are representative of all black women. No decent man wants them and no decent woman wants Shawty Lo.

  • Chillyroad

    @ask me

    You would be right if the narrative in the community wasn’t of the noble black woman innocently duped by the conniving black man. See we are often told that black women are moral superior to black men. More educated. More employed. Mo’ better.

    Now that the fallibility of black women has been established Im officially retiring from my Internet crusade against that pernicious myth.

    Goodnite everyone. It’s been great.

  • gmarie

    Also shows like BCG, and the Housewives franchises have sort of…evolved into something completely different from what was intended when the shows originally aired. On the first season of BGC the show was supposed to serve as a tool of reflection for young women wiht anger issues. the girls actually had counseling sessions throughout the show lol. Now it’s all about who can pretend to bethe “baddest” in their season and trying to forcefully kick girls out of the house via violence. Housewives seemed to be an honest look into the family life of well to do housewives in Orange County. a little drama here and there, but storylines developed and friendships ran their course etc etc..

    Shawty Lo’s show was set to give us fawkery from episode one

  • Okay

    Entrap him? Did he get lied to 11 times too? I mean after the second time why not start wearing condoms? Why not bring them yourself and also put them on yourself to make sure no one has sabotaged them? Why not take the women to the clinic to make sure they get the abortions instead of just giving them the money? I just don’t see how he could have been fooled 11 times!?!?!? You know what they say. Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. Fool me 11 times……

  • Okay

    I think its not so much shock as this is the straw that broke the camels back. Had this come out before basketball wives and all the other reality trash shows centred on black folk may be it wouldn’t have been as bad?

  • Okay

    If you were a dude with something to lose would you just give them the money though or would you take them and pay for it? On top of that I don’t understand how some men can just have unprotected sex considering that they are well aware that there are some women out there who will use a baby as a meal ticket. Especially considering that many of these children are not conceived in committed relationships. If you are so scared of a situation like this why not be more pro-active in protecting yourself?

  • gmarie

    Not only is he married to all of his wives, their children all live under the same roof with him. they see/interact with their father daily -not on weekends (the measuring unit shawty lo uses for being a great father. This is a look into the mindset of a man who could take on all of these wives, and the women who would agree to such an arrangement. More informative than anything really since it looks deeper into the religious aspects rather than exclusively on the relationships

  • Golden

    But it’s still putting the children in an uncomfortable limelight, for the only reason that their parents want fame and money.

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    You people need to stop acting like your so concerned with the image of black people on TV and the welfare of his kids. Half of you all are just like this new Solomon and his many wives and the other half are related to the first.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    This! And let’s not pretend that all those other reality shows weren’t met with resistance, distain or people wanting them off! And yes, petitions/opponents/anti-viewers were signing and speaking to have those shows removed too. I think in Carlos case (I agree with African Mami I’ am not calling a grown man shawty lo) on why he got the axe faster was the show was IN YOUR FACE stereotypical and screamed exploitation and capitalization from the preview along. And it seems that he is adding another woman into the mix because an ex of his is claiming she is pregnant with his child so…yeah this show was too much

  • http://Clutch SL

    Nah, regardless of when it came out it wouldve been bad. Disgusting. Hope it never sees the light of another tv camera.

  • Okay

    SL,

    I think the general tolerance level for stuff like this has gone down though. Which is why I see this as the straw that broke the camels back.

  • http://Clutch SL

    @Okay – I agree – we’ve been so de-sensitized that we have no sense left. Very sad.

  • http://Clutch SL

    Sorry What I shouldve said is that we have been so de-sensitized that the sense we have left just can’t take anymore of this. It really was a last straw.

  • p

    @chillyroad/qon/northeastukeshowoman/tyneandwear?

    Yeah right bitch!

    youll be back with a new screen name.

  • YouHave2Wonder

    Married? I thought they were all former girlfriends. . . you know, babies’ mamas. I also thought the promo explained that they do not all live together (father and children). Instead there is a big house in which the children visit. Hmmm, there seemed to be a lot wrong with the show’s premise to explain all of its intricacies.

  • camille

    Religious? So now Shawty Lo is a Mormon?

  • camille

    When did television become our collective consciousness? Turn it off. Go for a walk. Stop paying $200/month for programming that offends your sensibilities

  • http://gravatar.com/langisketches Leo the Yardie Chick

    I think this comment is in response to the one comparing All My Baby Mamas to Sister Wives. I.e. how the husband in Sister Wives (and I think there’s another polygamous show on TLC) is very different from Shawty Lo.

  • justsaying

    ….Actually, they do have jobs. Do you honestly think that they’re sitting around waiting for a paycheck that’s going to be split among 11 kids? If you watched the pilot for the show, you see that most, if not all, of the women are independent and they all come together for the sake of the children. And, like most single moms there is always need for financial help from the dad, and they also handle that TOGETHER. Like the statement made earlier, I think that the show would’ve been a success if the name of the title was different.

    I think that the way they handle their relationship with each other is great (aside for them 19 year old gf) and hope that they are offered a second chance to share their story. And if money is going to be made in the process, so be it.

  • IamKing

    You can’t make an argument that this show should because there are worse ones don’t petition. Bringing up things like Hypocrisy in the black community and him feeding his kids are all fallacy. If its wrong then its wrong point blank. You want to be a leader and be an example for the next generations stand up for what is right all the time. The other shows should be off too its not an argue that that show should be on because the other ones are. Stop comparing races or whatever stand for the truth sometimes thats MLK and the civil rights legacy is about , honor that.

  • http://Clutch SL

    I agree – just because other bad shows are still airing doesn’t mean this one should’ve been let to air.

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