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Maybe there is a foolproof way to combat reality television shows that feed offensive and negative stereotypes: petition, criticize and threaten to stop tuning in.

The strategy reportedly worked for Oxygen’s latest reality show which featured rapper (and former Atlanta drug dealer) Shawty Lo and the ten women who mothered his eleven children. According to The Daily Beast, the show has been axed before it even premieres due to the negative feedback the network received during “All My Babies’ Mamas” publicity campaign. Beast reports that Oxygen will announce the cancellation in the near future.

The backlash against “All My Babies’ Mamas” reached its zenith with a petition by Sabrina Lamb signed by nearly 40,000 people. Lamb told The Daily Beast:

“I love that the people who’ve signed the petition are from all backgrounds, ages, and countries. This one elderly white man wrote me and said even he was tired of the stereotypical images of black people [...] This show is about more than a rapper and his girlfriends. This is a show about kids who had no choice in how they came into the world. This show sets them up to be ridiculed and made fun of. None of us should be OK with that.’’

If the rumors are true, we hope the cancellation of “All My Babies’ Mamas” sends a message to networks with similar shows that they cannot continue to profit by exploiting minorities and perpetuating degrading stereotypes.

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UPDATE: Oxygen has indeed cancelled the show. “As part of our development process, we have reviewed casting and decided not to move forward with the special,” an Oxygen spokesperson said in a statement to TheGrio. “We will continue to develop compelling content that resonates with our young female viewers and drives the cultural conversation.”

  • AM

    For now, I’ll treat it as just that, a rumor. Call me a doubting Thomas.

  • https://twitter.com/fionasings Fiona

    please let it be true.

  • The Revolution is going to be televised!!!!!!!!!

    See people, you CAN make a difference!!!!!!!

  • D.T.

    Now if black women would stop being baby mamas in overwhelming numbers….

    We rather shame networks than shame ourselves.

  • Shawnte

    oh thank God! I hope this more than a rumor. looking forward to the announcement of the cancellation. which if oxygen wants to televise, that i would watch.

  • AM

    there are a lot of druggies in the white community. do you see that in the media?! Please.

  • KIR

    Congratulations black women now you can go back to remaining silent and/or defending, promoting and glorifying black baby mamas, black matriarchy and black feminism w/o the nation and world being shown and laughing at the end result on a reality show. Yeah, you win. They should have shown it. Why not? I don’t understand…. it’s ok to promote, glorify and defend black mama culture but bad to show the end result to the world?

    Black feminism is actually quasi ghetto feminism. lol They want the 100% control of their reproductive rights won by white feminist w/o accepting the accountability and responsiblity that comes with it. They’ll run down to the abortion clinic and terminate the kids they don’t want then turn around and blame the black man for the kids they decide to keep.

  • jessib

    Yeah, but its more than that.. while there may be a lot of unwed mothers in this country black & white (teen mom) this show is a minstrel show for the father (Sharpie Lo) and the mother’s of his children. They are subjecting their children to all sorts of ridicule, not only that it perpetuates that it is okay and normal for men to have multiple baby daddies, and for women to just open their legs to anyone. If they want to put crap like this on tv then they need to counter that with a black show that shows us in a positive light, and by positive I don’t mean the RHOA or Chicagolicious. All reality shows with black women play off of drama and that is it. Give Condeleeza Rice a reality show!

  • NOYB

    There are unwed baby mothers everywhere, all across the globe. Only one specific group is being targeted here. Besides, cant you read? Look at what the petition creator stated: “This show is about more than a rapper and his girlfriends. This is a show about kids who had no choice in how they came into the world. This show sets them up to be ridiculed and made fun of. None of us should be OK with that.’’

    The bigger question is, why do you want a show to be shown GLOBALLY that endorses the denigration of blacks?

  • Damn

    IA and anyone who disagrees is obviously fooling themselves but the issue wasn’t about perpetuating stereotypes, at least not for me, the issue was once again another reality show chose to focus on negative aspect of the black comminity.

  • YeahRight2011

    I doubt its all about stereotypes. I’m starting to think that their lifestyle/choices are also being petitioned.

  • AllEars

    Good! Hide that dirty laundry now what do you all propose can be done to clean up? IOW, how do you reverse this rising and destructive trend of out of wedlock births? How do you convince men who grew up in dysfunction to stop the cycle and parent their multiple children?

  • KR

    Congratulations black women now you can go back to remaining silent and/or defending, promoting and glorifying black baby mamas, black matriarchy and black feminism w/o the nation and world being shown and laughing at the end result on a reality show. Yeah, you win. They should have shown it. Why not? I don’t understand…. it’s ok to promote, glorify and defend black mama culture but bad to show the end result to the world?

    Black feminism is actually quasi gh3tto feminism. lol They want the 100% control of their reproductive rights won by white feminist w/o accepting the accountability and responsiblity that comes with it. They’ll run down to the abortion clinic and terminate the kids they don’t want then turn around and blame the black man for their OTHER kids they decide to keep. 60% of never married black baby mamas have multiple baby daddies.

  • OH

    Not at 70 percent and who gives a F about them? Try again.

  • RMFE

    They do it too, RMFE. Unfortunately, blacks are denigrating themselves in today’s society.

  • Keepitreal

    Oooh, you’re going to get it. Lol But ICAM, but haven’t you heard? Shaming is passé.

  • http://gravatar.com/keimia Kam

    Or we could you know, also expect sexual restraint from men.

  • Sasha

    I’m confused as to why so many of the posters have commented on this article negatively. Isn’t pulling this show a positive thing? It would be one thing if they were airing it as some sort of special highlighting the struggles of their poor decisions and how they’re trying to make it work while at the same time being better examples their daughters (as the majority of this guy’s children are girls) not to make the same mistake they did however this show didn’t look like it was going that route. It seemed to be glorifying a behavior that has obviously (negatively) affected these women and children or even worse as a National Geographic special, “The Oversexed Negro and his Many Negress concubines and offspring”….very buffoonish and that’s what I didn’t like about this program. Maybe if they restructed it or changed the direction the program was going to be edited but since this is obviously a ploy for ratings by showcasing the same professional shuck’n’jiving then I’m quite fine with it being pulled.

  • Keepitreal

    Oy vey, where to start.
    1. Please put a disqualifier, not all black women support, promote or glorify baby mama-hood.
    2. Black matriarchy? Where in the hell is black matriarchy happening because it’s most certainly not in the black community.

    Black women being head of household does NOT = matriarchy. (read that over and over again until it seeps into your noggin)

    Madam, you can’t possibly believe that BW are forcing men to abandon them and their children in droves in the name of matriarchy and feminism GMAFB If anything the BC is misogynists’ utopia.

    3. I agree that for too many women reproductive responsibility is a foreign concept.

  • http://crystalspraggins.blogspot.com/ Crystal Spraggins

    Well, I must be the only black woman in America who does not care if this show airs. When I think about everything on the television that is offensive, this doesn’t rate at all. If Dylan McDermott can go on tv and simulate masturbating (at least I HOPE it was a simulation) for the sake of “art,” then why can’t Shawty Lo have a show about his family? I think the criticism of the family is more disturbing than the premise of the show itself. It’s almost like we’re saying these women and children are an affront to us, and that bothers me. I’m probably going to get beat up for saying this, but I worry that there is a segment of our people so hypersensitive to criticism from white people that we worry about things we shouldn’t. Let the man earn a living and take care of his family, for crying out loud.

  • FingersCrossed

    I hope this isn’t a rumor. This show further perpetrates the worse of the black community. It is a problem in which needs rectifying internally. To televise shows such as these only provides additional revenue within the network’s pockets. Just because these problems exist doesn’t mean they have to become placed on display. By doing this, I believe we provide an open door to give networks such as Oxygen permission to produce additional negative reality shows. Writing about the negative aspects produces more ratings (b/c networks know BP love the drama) instead of producing a positive reality show; let’s say about four fathers/mothers co-parenting with their children. Writing about a shawty lo and his babies’ mamas’, then the next reality show is going to consist of an athlete and his 10 baby mamas. In a nutshell, the worse within our community will continue to be televised as the good is being swept under the rug. It has already gotten way out of hand. When these reality shows don’t reflect the entire truth of the black community, they shouldn’t be allowed to only reflect the worse. And this for sure was the worse imo..

  • Jess

    Now if only we could have an honest conversation about the Black women who choose to live this way–unwed and under employed, with babies by loddy, doddy and everybody. Because the truth is that the network did not invent this premise–it is prevalent day in and day out in the Black community. We are embarrassed and ashamed to have this ignorance depicted on tv, glorified for all the world to see. But are we also embarrassed and ashamed that so many Black women value themselves so little?

  • OH

    The ultimate decision is up to women though. Force aside, a man can’t drop his seed in you unless you, the woman, allow it to happen.

  • http://gravatar.com/lovegiraffes onegirl

    @YeahRight2011,
    “I’m starting to think that their lifestyle/choices are also being petitioned.”

    *rolling eyes* I wish that was the case. Unfortunately, it is most likely not.

  • http://gravatar.com/khrish67 khrish67

    Woohoo. Got the news on JackandJillPolitics. Thank goodness

  • http://www.straightnochase.com josie

    AMEN. It’s always “black women are baby mommas” like black women inseminate themselves. Please.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    Right! Why are people who are mad that this show is maybe cancel is acting like this show was going to be a leeway of talking about the out of wedlock births, single parenthood, multiple babies crisis and all the plights/challenges that our community faces regarding this issue and many more? This show was set up as exploitation by individuals’ willing to be exploited plain and simple let’s stop acting like this show was going to be the “come to Jesus” moment when it was marketed as tomfoolery. Personally, I wasn’t going to watch it anyway but if it is cancel then kudos to those who pulled it!

  • http://www.facebook.com/mshenry70 Kathy Henry

    I did not care one way or another. I am waiting for these same black folks to protest against the violence that is occurring in Chicago, Baltimore, Philadelphia, St. Louis and other cities in America. But we love to worry about petty shit, not real shit.

  • KIR

    The high illegitimacy rate in the black community is never going to end until black women get off this condoms only lie. 72% black illegitimacy and 50% abortion of all black pregnancies confirms it’s a lie. Yet you all expect teenagers and young adults to use a condom every time they have sex and then tell them female contraceptives are optional/not needed!!? Laughable, black women are telling young black girls to do something they weren’t able to do themselves! If you’re a healthy sexually active young woman and not using some type of female contraceptive it’s not a matter of if it’s a matter of WHEN you become pregnant. Black women are still in the dark ages when it comes to preventing unwanted pregnancies.

    Yes, sexually active teenagers and young women should PLAN on the MAN using a condom every time but if you don’t want to get pregnant you better have a backup plan. You are responsible for your body life and future. You, and no one else! We know when trust is built and emotions and feelings are involved condoms are not used or not used as often. It’s just a fact of life. Condoms are good for short term hookups and prevention of STD’s. That’s it. Condoms EXCLUSIVELY has never worked as a longterm effective means of birth control for any race nor any country IN THE WORLD. Which is why every industrialized nation in the WORLD has embraced female contraceptives. Fact

  • Chrissy

    I agree.

  • EST. 1986

    You posted this same response on a Madame Noire article.

  • http://melodymoose.deviantart.com/ Catpopstar

    How do you know if people choose to live like that?

  • Rosey

    Now I heard they aren’t pulling it. grr!!!

  • EST. 1986

    “Force aside, a man can’t drop his seed in you unless you, the woman, allow it to happen.”

    I can’t quite explain what I am thinking, but the fact that you refer to a man getting a woman pregnant as ‘dropping his see in you (a woman)’ is depersonalizing? dehumanizing? disassociating?

  • EST. 1986

    I don’t think anyone actively chooses to be underemployed.

  • http://melodymoose.deviantart.com/ Catpopstar

    Ether way I am not watching. This show is not going to start some great discussion. Its pretty much an exhibit for everyone else to gawk at black people. If people thought the subject was important to discuss, they would not need this show to do it.

  • EST. 1986

    KIR (Keeping It Real) is a guy who posts the same response on whatever women’s website he decides to visit.

  • KIR

    And the problem is… I guess your reply means you agree or you’re incapable of writing a legible dissenting opinion.

  • EST. 1986

    I don’t agree with you or care to respond any other way. All you do is copy and paste the same responses over and over.

  • KIR

    Just as I thought.

  • KR

    @Keepitreal

    YOU are right a woman being Head of Household does not equal Black Matriarcy within itself. A divorce, widow or even grandmother can find themselves HOH through no fault of their own.

    Black Matriarchy has become dominant in the black community by black women embracing “I don’t need a man” or the watered down PC black feminist version of “I don’t need a man” (Wait until your 30′s to get married) and extreme left liberal ideology of the devaluing the importance of marriage and men in the home. Which later in life becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. When has anyone ever accomplished something they say they don’t need? You see women do need a man and unfortunately by the time they figure it out it’s often too late for a variety of reasons kids, options available, age, appearance, baggage, set in their ways, ect. Black folks have been SUCCESSFULLY getting married young, growing and maturing together since the beginning of time.Now, all of a sudden it’s bad? lol

    Yes, there are a few highly educated baller black women working 70+ hour a week who made some personal sacrifices for career but the percentage of black women with a degree (most in sociology and psychology) is only 18% and let’s be honest those aren’t the baby mamas. Over 80% of black women don’t have a degree. This I don’t need…. I can wait ideology has trickled down to young women with and w/o H.S. diplomas, unemployed or working low skill jobs such as cashiers, customers service or admin. who have zero interest in furthering their education. Many of these young women are in poverty on government assistance or living check to check. Many of them also are w/kid(s) and think they can also wait until they’re 30′s (out of their prime) to find a good husband. Good luck with that! End result a Self fulfilling prophecy …. Black Matriarchy.

  • OH

    I keep seeing talk of “I don’t need no man” black woman but IRL see the exact opposite, black women doing and accepting anything in order to “keep” a man. Black woman en masse giving man who don’t even claim them all sorts of benefits-sex, shelter, home cooked meals on the nightly, cosigning loans……… Black women accepting the type of bullshit any other race of woman would have given the middle finger. Black women may talk a good game but in the end play pushover better than any one else so please help me understand how in the hell did we get this rep as ball busters?

  • KR

    @ EST. 1986

    You’re actually a fan and believer. You just don’t know it yet. :-)

  • I got sense!

    There are almost 2 million more black women than men. It’s no wonder they put up with shit they shouldn’t to have a man. The alternative is to live and die alone. At least these women can stay out of jail and finish high school which is more than I can say for the black men. One, albeit f*cked up, parent is better than none at all. You can’t blame others for children you made a choice to create but I still got respect for the women go have them and keep them than the mean who create them and walk away. She is still the lesser of the two evils. At the end of the day marriage isn’t necessary. Two committed adults are necessary to raise happy healthy kids.

  • EST. 1986

    “There are almost 2 million more black women than men. It’s no wonder they put up with shit they shouldn’t to have a man. The alternative is to live and die alone.”

    Ahahahaha. Yea, the alternative is for a woman to live and die alone if she is a NBAB type of woman.

  • EST. 1986

    Don’t even flatter yourself like that, putinha

  • ?

    Ummm The alternative is to die alone?????? Dafuk? Maybe to an imbecile who doesn’t realize men come in other colors besides black.

  • http://Clutch SL

    This is some stupid sh!t you’ve just said. You and those who believe like you are what’s wrong with our community.

    Hallelujah that they canceled this filth. Let’s hope we can sunset this so it never see the light of day. Shawty Lo and his BMs and every stupid woman who believes she has to settle for being a BM cause aint enough men -that is sh!t from a cesspool and only the lowest of the low couldnt think their way out of it. Anyone who brings a child into the world and has not the means to financially, emotionally, spiritually provide for that child and arent committed to that other parent in marriage – because they are lonely is downright selfish. That is the stupidest reason to bring a life into the world. If you are lonely get a dog! Better to screw up a dog than a human being.

  • http://Clutch SL

    OMG – is that not the truth and thank you for having the courage to say it! When being a baby mama is your goal in life so you’re not lonely – you got some major issues with your self-esteem.

  • http://Clutch SL

    True BUT in this day and age it is YOUR choice to get pregnant. Ever heard of Birth control??? Make him wrap it for heaven’s sake or say NO! You are the gatekeeper of your uterus NOT him.

  • ?

    And how’s that been working out in the black community?

    Every other community of women have figured out that they ultimately will be left with the baggage so to speak therefore take responsible steps to protect themselves.

  • http://Clutch SL

    Yep you are right – there are lots of them – too many in fact – and that is shameful.

  • Sigh

    What makes you think they have not? Quite sadly, I believe those who protested the show are the minority and the ghetto/hoodrat (male and female) elements are now the majority in the black community and we are doomed as a people.

  • http://Clutch SL

    Oh please, people choose everyday to be under-employed and many choose to be unemployed. When you have 3 babies under the age of 5, no education, no husband, you defacto choose to be one of the above because chances are you will not be able to afford childcare. Goes with the territory.

  • E.M.S.

    There was only one thing on my mind when I heard about this show: how did these women not think to leave that man alone if they followed after multiple women he already had been and they ALL had kids? To me that’s a HUGE red flag, but I guess they just didn’t see it.

  • Since1989

    And is baby mama shaming working? Is it?! I never see or hear “Now if only black men would stop being baby daddies in overwhelming numbers…” I doubt one-sided shaming tactics will ever work to dissolve a two-sided problem. Clearly that kind of shaming is not working. Clearly this issue is a self-worth and self-esteem issue, let’s address that. And not by “Shame on you for having such low self-esteem” either, because that only creates more low self-esteem. Imo I believe images in the media, covert messages from society, weight issues, hair issues, family issues, colorism issues all play a part in the recurring statistics, and we should probably start approaching this problem from a different angle as opposed to just shaming baby mamas. Sure we can shame a tv program off a network, but out of wedlock kids can’t be shamed out of existence.

  • Rakel

    Shows that drive cultural conversation? Lies told by Oxygen and other networks that promote buffoonery for ratings. Applause and thanks to the women behind the petitions. Although I’m glad that this show is canceled I think we need to do better for the young women and men that think this is a successful model for families.

  • http://chennadoll.tumblr.com pinklipstick227

    @KatheyHenry

    Thank you for stating this! We can protest the exploitation of black people on television but we aren’t as active when it comes to real issues.

  • Since1989

    Or expect men to marry the woman they knocked up. Traditionally, that is what men did, if they got a woman pregnant, they married her. I don’t know why that has become such a foreign concept now that men go unchecked and don’t feel obligated to become a stable husband and father to their baby mama/child. Women can and do in fact, get pregnant while on birth control, not to mention birth control comes with some serious side effects for some women, like blood clots, heart attacks, excessive weight gain ect. which make it a non-option for those women who are active sexually. It’s not like couples have to jump through hoops and climb over mountains to get married; go to the justice of the peace, have a court wedding, go to city hall, do vegas! In this day and age, in a still very patriarchal system, men are not told to step up or they are completely left out of the equation.

  • M

    Yes, clearly this show is all about women’s self-empowerment.

  • Nic

    I think we need to shame both. And yes, women need to stop having unprotected sex with men who aren’t committed to them b/c that is ultimately what is happening.

    If a man intended to marry you and you got pregnant, guess what, he accelerates that plan and takes you to the courthouse.
    But these women are having babies with men who aren’t thinking about them at all. Why would some guy who just views you as a booty call and is probably sleeping with 6 other women marry you b/c you get pregnant?

    Young black women need to have higher standards for themselves, for the people they allow to be in their lives, and for the people that they actually become intimate with.

    If you settle for low quality men then you should not be surprised that he refuses to take responsibility as a real father to your child.

    But black men should not be let off the hook since this is a about their irresponsibility and lack of respect for women as well.

  • Wake Up

    I used to be the type of woman to say “but what about the man, he should have strapped up!” But now after seeing the ASTOUNDING number of black women who have been defending Shawty Lo and the baby momma lifestyle my opinion has changed. Short of being forced, it is ultimately a woman’s responsibility to protect herself from getting pregnant. Make him wear a condom and consider a backup birth control method. If a condom breaks there is something called PLAN B available at every pharmacy for about $40 NO PRESCRIPTION NEEDED. A little expensive but a baby is a LOT more expensive. There just isn’t any excuse for getting pregnant “accidentally” in 2013, especially by a man who doesn’t love you, you must WANT to be a baby momma if you allow this scenario to play out not once but multiple times.

  • http://gravatar.com/trueletterson truelettersont

    I don’t care for any of it however I find it peculiar that the same black people who protest, write letters and sign partition to get Shawty Lo’s All My Babies’ Mamas cancel are the same people who would not be caught dead watching and detest NeNe Leaks and housewives of Atlanta, Single Ladies and love and hip hop but at the same time love and admire Olivia Pope on Scandal and co sign, push and champion far left wing liberal and progressive new thang alternatives life styles. I am just saying you know what I mean, not judging!

  • Fantastico

    Great comment!

  • http://www.urbanromanceonline.com UrbanRomanceEIC

    Re some of these comments: When did being progressive become such a bad thing? We’d still be picking cotton had someone not had a progressive thought like Emancipation. Y’all slay me with the anti-feminism/anti-liberalism/anti-progressive rants. Because Black women in the ghetto sit around reading Betty Friedan and Gloria Steinem in their spare time. O… kay. *side eye*

  • http://tontonmichel.tumblr.com/ Tonton Michel

    Y’all can get mad about some ratchet realty tv show, but when some one points out the same ratchet behavior in the community you all want to catch feelings and say stop judging and call it the new age family. gtfoh

  • Honest

    Thank you @Tonton Michel

  • Nakia

    It is far easier to petition than to protest. However, we have many issues to be addressed and no time to cherry pick. Not every one is a revolutionary but we should all engage in revolutionary thought and do what we can from where we are in the struggle. Folks need to be holding every line that we can. If you don’t see the connection between the self-image and self-worth that our youth have (or lack thereof) and their ability to murder one another in the streets, then you should more closely examine exactly what the struggle is about. This show would not benefit our children (our future and community by at large) in any way and I’m not most concerned about what white folks watching will think or what grown black women will feel….we need to help our youth value themselves and see themselves reflected in positive light, give them positive images to model and emulate and try to decrease the negative ones, which are beginning steps in helping them do better in all aspects of life.

  • http://Clutch SL

    That’s a ridiculous assumption. The same people who protested this show probably ARE the ones trying to help their communities. I would say that those who don’t care about the image of the community ARE the ones who also don’t do anything to improve the community.

  • Stomp

    They read Clutch and before that there was Alice Walker, Oprah, Michele Willams, etc.

    These AIN’T anti-feminist by a long shot.
    Clutch is notoriously Pro Feminist and Socialist (AKA Progressive)

  • http://Clutch SL

    While birth control is not always 100%, I would love to see the stats on how many women actually become pregnant while using BC. Yes, side affects are a potential, but with 72% of AA children being raised by a single-parent – it makes you wonder if those reasons are nothing more than convenient excuses for a lifestyle choice.

    As for men making that committment to marry the baby moma – as long as he was fully informed that potential BM was not protected – if he pursued under full disclosure of those risks, then yes he should man-up and own up to his responsibility and commit to being a husband and father.

  • http://Clutch SL

    You know why it isn’t working? Because very few people believe it anymore let alone say it. Being a baby mama was not always accepted in our community – now if you don’t accept it (along with the other social ills of today) YOU are made to be the one who is wrong and labelled non-progressive. Traditional values that at one time gave our community a fighting chance have given way to an “anything goes” value system that has all but gutted the AA family and destroyed our community.

    Not so long ago, if you were an unwed mother in our community, you’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who was happy about your situation. Now, we throw them baby showers and they can stand in church with their baby daddy and have the baby christened. It has become chic to be a struggling single-mother. You can barely turn on the tv without some struggling single mother spotlighted. Now, if you have a bunch of kids and a low wage paying job – someone will build you a nice house maybe give you a car to make your life easier. What a potentially confusing message we send.

    Not long ago, a struggling single mother was a big red flashing neon sign, but we don’t even so much as bat an eyelash these days. So, given these messages is there any wonder young people get the wrong message?

    It use to be if a girl made a mistake and had a child before marriage, she would only have ONE – not 3 or 4. If by chance she made the mistake twice, at least the 2 kids had the same daddy. Nah not now – 3-4 kids and each with separate daddy’s.

    We can talk self-esteem, because for some it is a real issue, but for many no – this is just business as usual, hon. Folks aren’t told it’s not ok – they are not made to understand that you shouldn’t pop a baby for every man you lay down with.

    Look, I am for women owning their sexuality, but that requires being responsible. We are not dogs and cats, but the way we have been reproducing – it’s hard to tell.

  • Since1989

    What ASTOUNDING numbers of black women have been defending shawty lo and the baby mama lifestyle? Where are those women?

    Just because alot of black women do in fact get caught up in that less than idealistic situation for several reasons aforementioned in my previous comments does not mean those same women are defending it and does not mean they are proud of that lifestyle.

    But, shaming just those women and not the men will not really accomplish anything as far as reversing those God forbidden statistics, and increasing in wed lock births.

    Black men are praised for being sexually promiscuous in a sexist society, and especially through rap and hip hop music and culture, but when a baby results from sex, which is what the sole purpose of sex is…to make babies, they are not shamed into doing anything, not shamed into responsibility, not shamed into becoming a good husband and father. They go on to procreate more, without offering commitment, because society tells men it’s acceptable for them to do so.

    Shaming a baby mama after she has already become a baby mama and had her oow kid will NOT accomplish or reverse anything unless her baby daddy decides to own up and offers a lasting commitment to her through marriage and provides more stability for his then wife and his kids.

  • Since1989

    What ASTOUNDING numbers of black women have been defending shawty lo and the baby mama lifestyle? Where are those women?

    Just because alot of black women do in fact get caught up in that less than idealistic situation for several reasons aformentioned in my previous comments does not mean those same women are defending it and does not mean they are proud of that lifestyle.

    But, Shaming just those women and not the men will not really accomplish anything as far as reversing those God forbidden statistics, and increasing in wed lock births.

    Black men are praised for being sexually promiscuous in a sexist society, and especially through rap and hip hop music and culture, but when a baby results from sex, which is what the sole purpose of sex is..to make babies, they are not shamed into doing anything, not shamed into responsibility, not shamed into becoming a good husband and father. They go on to procreate more, without offering committment, because society tells men it’s acceptable for them to do so.

    Shaming a baby mama after she has already become a baby mama and had her oow kid will NOT accomplish or reverse anything unless her baby daddy decides to own up and offers a lasting committment to her through marriage and provides more stability for his then wife and his kids.

  • Since1989

    “Now, we throw them baby showers and they can stand in church with their baby daddy and have the baby christened.”

    SL, are single mothers supposed to stop breathing and living their lives? Sounds like you want to go back to the days of old testament, when these women were stoned to death.

    Heaping judgment on others to where you sound inhumane…

  • Kelly

    It’s about time a network puts moral value above ratings. Drama, dysfunction and mayhem are not and should not be what America tunes into every single week. We deserve positive, meaningful and educational programming.

  • Kelly

    In real life Mr. Shawty has 11 children out of wedlock. Ok…And… It does not benefit the masses to air his dirty laundry and make his “baby mamas” look weak, desperate and unconcerned with their health. It’s obvious he does use condoms or any form of birth control and the women in his life has accepted his bad behavior to become the “baby mama”

    Real Talk: Our black family has been reduced to single motherhood, deadbeat dads, and drama. This is not acceptable and is not what should be aired on television. The networks won’t follow a child who decided not to be teen mom and keep good grades and by all the hard work, late nights, sweat and tears made it to college and graduated. Now that’s drama for your behind but we don’t want that kind of drama we would rather have drug dealing sperm donors as television role models.

    If he needs to earn a living to feed his babies get a real job like the rest of America and stop embarrassing the hell out of his Mama
    .

  • The Other Jess

    YES! Best news all day.

  • Wanda

    I don’t think it is as bad now as it was about ten or twenty years ago, but the rampant desire to become a baby mama was such that many of us who were married were the ones who were shamed, like we were sellouts to men and the patriarchy.

  • http://Clutch SL

    No don’t stop living, but don’t hold it up as a virtue either. Not everything back then was good, but nor was everything bad. And for sure, we have not moved forward with 72% of black kids being born and raised by single mothers. In our attempt to accept these situations and show love – the message of it not being ok has been lost and with 72% of AA children being born into the world this way maybe we ought to start judging a little more if it’ll get that stat down.

  • Wanda

    I sincerely hope that we can take some of this energy to try to bring our families back together.

    Sometimes, it is too easy for us to demonstrate what we are against, rather than demonstrating what we are actually for.

  • Gina

    Now with what will “All My Babies’ Mamas” be replaced? The show was disgusting, yes. The executives will say “Oh, we tried to appeal to that ‘diverse’ demographic and they rejected us. Might as well go back to making more shows about white boys. White boys don’t complain so much. They’re not so uppity.”

  • http://www.urbanromanceonline.com UrbanRomanceEIC

    I think it’s safe to assume many of you don’t know any real “ghetto chicks” up close and personal. I can assure you, they are not reading as much as you think, which is clearly part of the problem, no?

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