Un-PC Thoughts on the KimYe Offspring
I wouldn’t be on my pop-culture duty if I ignored the news of Kim Kardashian being preggers by Kanye West. In case you’ve just emerged from an Internet dead-zone, on December 30, West announced Kardashian was preggers at his Atlantic City concert. Kardashian’s boyfriend/”misteress” told the crowd to “make noise for my baby mama.”
This is one of those subjects I want to continue to ignore — mostly because it just seems wrong to say anything but “Congratulations!” That said, l feel compelled to weigh in since news of the KimYe spawn hijacked Twitter for 2-3 hours on Sunday night. Unsurprisingly, Twitter went all-the-way-in dragging Kim for her life. It. Got. Ugly. I won’t go that far. Pinky swear.
I do want you to know I really tried to write about double standards, like how Kim Kardashian is called “a whore” for dating a bunch of guys. And yet, Carlos Walker — sorry, I’m not calling a grown man “Shawty Lo” — can impregnate 10 women and somehow escape that label. It’s a worthy point, but it wasn’t what I really wanted to say. This is:
1. This relationship was a bad idea from the start
Recall the chatter of the Keeping Up with the Kardashians episode where Kanye threw out nearly all of Kim’s clothes? No “good for you” dude wants you to re-haul your entire image to be with him. To make it worse, Kim dressed and looked better before Ye came around.
The more important reason though … Kim was/is married.
2. What in the hell was Kim thinking?
Her marriage to Kris Humphries was likely a hoax/ratings ploy. Somehow, I don’t think the ongoing divorce battle was part of the plan.
It’s just plain sloppy to enter another relationship when the previous one isn’t done. (And even sloppier to bring a kid into that situation.) I know ratings and attention are everything in reality TV world, but the line has to be drawn somewhere, especially on issues that actually affect other (little) people.
3. Uh … What in hell was Yeezy thinking?
I don’t ask that because of Kim’s dating or sexual history. She was unmarried from around 20-30. Dating is what she was supposed to be doing since she wanted to be married again.
I’m wondering what Yeezie was thinking because of Kardashian’s married present. Dating a married woman? Bad enough. Getting her pregnant? Bad. Real bad. Joe Jackson.
Kanye’s always come off as the uncomfy-in-his-skin suburban kid who wanted to be down with the streets. The conflict is responsible for some of his best music. But from what we see of his personal life, he often seems like he’s trying to prove something, and he usually goes way too far — like publicly dissing his exes and “defending Beyonce’s honor” by running up on Taylor Swift. His most rebellious actions have come across like sucker moves. This one does too.
4. The double-standards for non-Black, famous women are appalling
Fantasia became pregnant by a married man, and she was eaten alive for it. I know Kim is not going to get Fantasia’s scourge-of-humanity treatment because she isn’t Black. Kim’s prettiness, non-Blackness, and her extraordinary fame are not only going to minimize the fall out, but this classic Maury behavior is going to boost her brand. Expect this KimYe baby news to make the cover of every tabloid for weeks to come. Oh, and a Kardashian maternity line coming soon.
5. 808s & Heartbreak II will be epic
Old folks got a saying, “how you finish is how you start.” I believe them (see Point 1). For the sake of the forthcoming KimYe child, I hope this relationship works out – either as a marriage or an amicable co-parenting situation — but I just don’t see it. I do look forward to the album though, even if the content will likely be better suited for a therapist than the public masses.
6. I wish their kid the best
I mean that sincerely. Some people reproduce and I think, “they’ll be fine!” as parents. Others? You really worry about that kid. Kanye’s a self-proclaimed “international asshole.” And well, Kim? Well, she’s Kim and motivated by fame. Let’s hope the responsibility of parenthood changes these two for the better. And if not? Thankfully, the KimYe spawn one will have the best nannies, and if necessary, therapy, that money can buy.
Oh, and Aunt Khloe, who is by far the sanest Kardashian.
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life (Atria) in stores now. Follow her on Twitter @abelleinbk
Both Kanye and Kim are trash, their monetary wealth doesn’t change this basic fact.
Wow. Just remember while you calling people trash that you reap what you sow.
Why do black men continue to give their money to non-black women? Woman who already have all the privileges in the world. Smh
@jj
Kanye’s mother, sisters, aunts, nieces, and cousins are the only black women he has to take care of. While she was alive I am sure Kanye’s black mother lived well. Ditto, Diddys mom who I’ve never seen without her blonde wig and blue contacts.
Additionally Kanye’s non black audience puts money in his pocket.
Finally stop taking these men’s choice in romantic partner personally. It’s his life and his life alone.
I’m not taking this personally. I don’t get or feel rejected by black men so this isn’t about me. I just don’t like to see black men with money with non black women. It would be fine if the black people were thriving in this country but we are not. Being black and making money in this country isn’t easy especially for black men so I don’t understand rich black men giving money to their oppressor. Every other race of man in this country marry women of their own 99% of the time to ensure that the money stays in the community. I just wish black men would do the same especially since most black people don’t have shit. Just my opinion no one has to agree with me.
JJ
That isn’t true. Can I point you to Mark Zuckeeburg? Listen blacks don’t need to worry about the handful of black men with a bit of paper with non- black women. Those relationships do not a middle class make. Worry about growing the black middle class. Keep your eyes off the trees and worry about the forest.
@ jj
What about Denzel Washington, Will Smith, T.I., Lebron James, Grant Hill, Steve Harvey, Cedric the Entertainer, D.L. Hughley, Eric Benet, Usher, Samuel Jackson, Barack Obama, I mean the list can go on.
@jj
According to the 2010 census of all the married black men 94% are married to black women. When did Armenians oppress black Americans? Why do you care where someone spends their money that they earned? Lol at your mentality. You sound bitter. “Most black people don’t have shit”. I’m sorry you have never seen happily married (or non married but committed) black couples but it doesn’t mean there aren’t any just because you are unaware they exist. Look up some stats from a few credible sources and it will show you that although we definitely have some work to do overall we went from slaves to the White House in about 150 years. And despite how much black Americans talk about the Asians, Latinos, Jewish, Irish, etc had it bad but… they also didn’t go through the same things, the same way, during the same period in time, in America. Stop waiting for someone to spoon feed you the information and look it up for yourself. if you had you would have made such an egregious statement. You gotta give credit where credit is due and we have come a mighty long way.
I agree with much of what you said, but I do have to point out that Barack Obama is not a descendant of African-American slaves. And it is a fair question to ask how/if that influenced his ability to get elected.
@ myblackfriendsays
Does it really matter if Barack was born from African American slaves or Africans? Like really, black is black boo. And who cares if that may have influenced his ability to get elected. I’m just glad that some people overlooked his race/skin color and chose the best candidate for the job.
“Like really, black is black”
I can’t WAIT for the day when this mundane, untrue, elementary, overused, gas lighting, simplifying statement DIES.
Ummm doesn’t that mean of ALL the black men ranging from age 80 to 18 and NOT just newlywed black men in 2010? Because that is a huge difference, my dear.
In 2010, 1 in 4 black men married non black women.
I’m not just talking about any ole black man. I’m talking about black men with money. Most black men don’t have any money so of course most will marry within the race.
Kim mom is white and last time I check Armenians were also considered Caucasian and enjoy the benefits of being so.. How am I bitter for wanting black wealth to stay in the black community??? SMH. Black people stay on some kumbaya nonsense.
@JJ
You are totally right…LOL and middle finger to all the black women trying to sound so measured and kumbaya as you say….so they wont be accused of being jealous and bitter.
F that and F kanye…he proves once again how worthless and good for nothing a lot of black men are.
I don’t know them personally so I just wish them the best and I hope they have a healthy baby.