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“Over a lifetime, unmarried women can pay as much as a million dollars more than their married counterparts for healthcare, taxes, and more,” says the Atlantic, which is rapidly becoming the go-to destination for all your sad single lady headlines.

The article, “The High Price of Being Single,” lays out the myriad of legal ways unmarrieds get screwed on the financial front with a bunch of numbers representing health care costs, social security benefits and housing.

My eyes started glazing over as soon as they started talking tax filing status because math, but I tried to soldier on till the end like I do with every story about the plight of the single woman since she is me. About halfway through I thought, “Why am I reading this?”

Sure it makes sense to know exactly what my future could look like as a lifetime spinster; according to the Atlantic I’d lose out on anywhere from $400,000 to $1,000,000 dollars by leaving my ring finger naked. But what now? What am I doing with that information besides rage banging my laptop and emailing all my single friends, “Have you seen this shit?!”

The tragic unmarried is quickly becoming the mascot of my generation. She (or he) will earn less, die young and will probably be depressed during his or her short and sucktastic single life. Whenever a new study comes out bemoaning the sad state of those among us who are unhitched, I pour over the doomsday data and waste hours of my life, but I’m never left with more than a “Meh” type feeling.

I mean where am I supposed to go from there? Straight to the altar?

Although it’s arguably smarter to face the years ahead armed with the details, these days I’m all about an ignorance-is-bliss philosophy when it comes to the racks on racks on racks of stats about that single life. Because there isn’t a cheat sheet for the Choose Your Adventure book. You can’t flip to the back for the answer key to your own life, right?

Maybe I’ve just got voter fatigue. The stump speeches are getting to me and I’m the chick in the back of the crowd shouting, “You lie!” Or maybe all these stories are part of a larger conspiracy to get me to buy Steve Harvey’s entire literary canon?

What enrages me most is that I’ll probably still consume the next “Your Feet Will Fall Off If You Don’t Get Married By 37 According to the CDC” article because I’m a sucker, but I swear I don’t want to be. What about y’all — do you have the brain space for more bad news?

This post originally appeared on XOJane. Republished with permission. Click here for more  on XOJane! 

  • Kristi

    No! Not at all. Whenever I see a gloom and doom headline about about how insanely unhappy and on the edge of an anxiety attack I should be about my single 31-year old life I should be, I just don’t read it. I try to avoid looking at those types of “reports” at all costs. They just encourage the very dreariness and unhappiness singledom is “reported” to cause. Yeah, that’s why my ass is so unhappily unmarried. These articles are telling us that that’s how we are supposed to be…..

  • http://gravatar.com/tp72 LA Red

    Those kinds of articles are depressing but it’s like a train wreck. I can’t pass it up. I might not read it right away but I will before the week is up.

  • NoitAll

    I think that the Atlantic article is BS. Stats can be interpreted any way you want, depending on your agenda. Besides as the great Suze Orman says in her book, Women and Money, the reason she’s rich at her age is probably because she never got married. She didn’t have some dude spending her money on nonsense, driving her to financial ruin.

  • Confuzzled

    Random question but I just have to ask: Why does this writer insists on embedding random pictures of herself into her articles? Is she writing a series of personal ads? Is she trying to fill up screen space? What’s going on??

    It would be understandable if the pictures had a theme that relates to the article, but if they do I’m not seeing it. I’m confused about the whole thing.

    Regarding the topic of the article, I try to stay away from articles that have no clear objective other than to denigrate the reader. Life’s too short to volunteer oneself for torture :)

  • Cassia

    Especially since they always seem to be centered around the fact that it is all due to me being a black woman with weave, aggression, and too dark skin apparently, then you go out into the real world and men are begging at your feet just for a date, most of the husband tags on youtube seem to be black couples but still we are classically conditioned by the media that we are the unwanted. Makes no sense to me at all.

  • Coco

    I completely agree. It’s like this media experiment. How to destroy a certain type of woman i.e. “Black woman” by injecting negative views and opinions of her in the media and publications and let’s see what happens. We are starting to drink the kool-aide and I want my sista’s to know ; there is really NOTHING at all wrong with being single. There are reasons for everything. Until we are comforatable in our skin how can we be happy and comfortable coupled with that right man.

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