LoveI refuse to be one of those people spewing bitterness about Valentine’s Day. As a single person, no, it’s not my favorite holiday. But it wasn’t my favorite holiday when I was coupled either. Aside from the pricey prix fixe dinner menus, the reason being, Valentine’s Day is limiting. This concept of “romantic love,” that it’s the only kind of love that is transcendent or important, is just dumb. It sets you up for failure. If you don’t have it, does that mean you’re unloved or unlovable? Um, NO! Really, we all have access to many different forms of love, and if we’re wise, we are pursuing all of them and not just putting all of our love eggs in one basket. It’s easy to forget that. So, I’ve taken a few moments to reflect upon some really simple ways to invite more love in this Valentine’s Day that have nothing to do with romantic love.

1. Loving thoughts. It’s soooo easy to have unloving thoughts; toward your extra layer of stomach chub or that person who just shoved you on the subway or that co-worker who’s always putting you down or even that difficult-to-get-along-with family member. We all have more than ample opportunity to indulge in negative thoughts. I know I’m guilty. Something to try: spend an entire day thinking loving thoughts. That’s it. When you hear your mind thinking that shitty thing, stop yourself. Replace that thought with a loving thought. My stomach chub is cute. I’m sure that person didn’t mean to shove me. Just for one day. You can do it.

2. Say something nice. Take those loving thoughts a step further and turn them into loving words. Just give someone a compliment for no fucking reason. A really juicy, genuine one. Not like Nice scarf. Something that makes them feel seen. You’re the funniest person in the world to me. I like having you around. It should be genuine, of course. Just do it and see how it changes the love quotient in the room.

  • Stanley

    That was a really great read……….

  • Lovely A

    Great article. But I do not understand Valentine’s Day…it’s overly commericialized. Tell me and show me that you love me 365 days, not just one day. I be sure to express my love to my loved ones every chance I get.

  • http://www.curlycrazy.com CurlyCrazy

    Lovely post!!! :)

  • Mademoiselle

    “Be a love slut” might become my new goal in life. :)

  • nikki

    whew! i NEEDED THIS. I just went through a particularly rough breakup and am feeling a little low on love. Time to recharge my batteries by giving all I’ve got!

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