Solution to SBW Crisis: Black Women Should Just Marry Each Other
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Ok, back to business.
Are you:
Single?
A Black woman?
Over 15?
If you answered “yes” to all of these questions, then you’re likely desperate to get married.
College- educated?
Oh, you’re definitely desperate.
It doesn’t matter if you claim to have a boyfriend, a fiancé, you’re a lesbian, don’t want to get married or even in high school. You’re still single and worse, lonely, and worse still, unlikely to marry. This is, of course, is based solely on the thoughts in my all-knowing head—not on like actual studies that say otherwise. I know all women—and girls too— want to be married not like right now, but like yesterday. It’s urgent like a motherf***er. I saw that ABC special where that one thirty-something woman said she cries into her pillow at night because she’s not married and I know that applies to every single Black woman—or girl—alive.
How do I know?
Because I think like a man.
So why aren’t you married yet? Because your standards are too damn high like rent in New York City. You have nerve to be employed, think for yourself and as desperately single as you are, the audacity to scoff at broken men, cheating men, weak men, men you have to support, down-low men, and even your last resort for marriage, bi-sexual men. You out here acting like being single is something to celebrate.
Girl, bye.
You’re miserable. And even worse, you got these good men with better things to do out here trying to work with you and dispense quality advice. These male relationship experts are trying to help difficult you “keep” somebody, and you ain’t been listening: Submit! Shut up! Cook! Clean! In heels! Every day!
F*** your bunions and your feminism too. Let a man lead you even if it’s into a damn hole. At least if you fall in and die, you would have a man—hopefully, your husband— by your side at your demise. Being Mrs. [it only counts if you take his last name] is all you should want to be remembered for anyway.
Unfortunately, it’s probably too late for all of you, especially if you’ve wasted prime husband-hunting years getting a diploma when you should have freed up your time to find a man by getting a GED. All the hetero Black men alive and even not yet born have, are now or will be planning to marry White women. And because in the history of mankind no desirable man of any other color has ever been really interested in a Black woman as a wife, you’re left only with one hope for marriage: women.
Yeah, I said it. Single Black women should marry each other.
Think of the benefits: you’ll be married!!! You’ll be married!!! You’ll be married!!!
This will work out well for lesbians because you know, all this time ya’ll have been settling for women because you couldn’t keep a man. But for the rest of you, it’s time to “turn” yourselves gay. It can’t be that hard since the millions-strong LGBT community just rolled over one morning when they hit puberty and decided to go against the grain. You can too!
Just go on and roll over. Roll, dammit!
Now call your bestie, get on the plane and head to the nearest courthouse in one of the nine states where gay marriage is legal and jump that broom.
I know some of you are wondering, “but will I be happy with this arrangement?” Um… girl, you’re thinking small when you should be thinking big. Your happiness? That doesn’t matter. You’re finally married! Black marriage solves everything.
“But what about Jesus,” you ask? God loves gays. (No sarcasm.)
Others of you may be wondering, “what about children?” Girl, stop. I read the comments sections on Black blogs and “listen” to Black men —the all knowing source of everything about Black women because of the woman they were raised by and those they’ve dated. You’re over 15, which means you probably have a few kids by now anyway. You and your new wife joining forces? It’ll be like The Brady Brunch. It’ll be fun!
If you so happen to be that one anomaly of a Black woman alive who doesn’t have an out-of-wedlock child? Just go buy one from Africa—white women do it all the time, and at least you’ll know how to do the kid’s hair.
You mad?
Of course, we are inherently more combative by birthright than other women (I watch TV so I know how we can be). I’mma ask you to put down that bottle or phone you’re ‘bout to throw, and imagine what this could do for the statistics about single Black women. Like 99% of us who are of legal age to marry (ie, older than 15 in most places) could be married.
Boo, I’ve just singlehandedly solved the Black woman’s marriage crisis. You shouldn’t be fighting me; you should be awarding me the Nobel Peace Prize. However, a thank you will suffice.
Demetria L. Lucas is the author of “A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life” (Atria), in stores now. Follow her on Twitter @abelleinbk.
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Well let’s be real the numbers are not there for black women to black men in this country not going to get into the factors. What do you think about black women finding love for non-american black men
Wouldn’t that help the numbers and increase black love. Black men from the U.K, Brazil, Africa, Caribbean.
Black British men>>>>>>>>>>> Polite, Attentive, Respectful and Fine!
No pro’lem!
I find that many black British men are like African American men. No difference.
I brought this up in yesterday’s post, but how is dating out (i.e. non-black) synonymous with dating a bisexual black man? What kind of mentality is that? When your black male friends are dating non-black women are you looking at them in the same light – Like they’re settling? I bet not.
What you’re doing is perpetuating the very harmful reasoning that black men are the only acceptable choice for black women. There is a whole wide world of non-black people out there and (*gasp*, *brace yourself*) some of their men are actually attracted to black women and would marry them. I KNOW, I KNOW – THAT’S SOOOOO RIDICULOUS, RIGHT? OMG!!!
Yeah, Get a grip!
As a black woman who has dated [mostly] non-black men since I was 17, I can tell you that there are plenty of great options outside of the black community for black women, and none of them involves settling. But too many black women are listening to people like you and believing that dating out is an undesirable option (undesirable for them, mind you, but not for black men) and that they should instead stop being so picky/uppity/bitchy and work with any kind of black men they can find.
I have nothing against black men. If I wasn’t in a relationship, I would definitely be open to dating a black man, but because I want to eventually marry and have a family I don’t want to exclude a potential mate based on his race either. I don’t think any marriage/relationship-minded black woman can afford to exclude other men.
In an ideal world, should black people only be for each other? *shrugs* I guess, but in the world that we’re actually living in, if you really cared about black women, you would want them to find true happiness and companionship with men that they are equally yoked with, and if that includes non-black men, then so be it!
I’m sure concern about the feelings of black women have never stopped you or other black men you know from dating who you want.
@Kacey
I think interracial dating gets so much shade in our community because its always connected to the person having to step out side of their race because no one in their race is qualified or good enough. It could be black men saying they date non- black women b/c ( insert dumb@ss stereotype here ) or black women saying they don’t ate black men because ( insert keys his cole lyrics here ).
Personally I believe that the love you need might not always come in the package you thought it would .
I don’t knock sisters who date interracially or prefer just to date black men, do what makes you happy.
I don’t think it’s color that’s solely limiting blk women’s options to a mate , I think theres a lot of other major factors that hinder mate selection, but again to each it’s own.
lolz is the media outlets masking as african american blogs again propogating the extinction of african americans by the fueling the interracial bs, isnt it funny that is all this cunt spews, but ofcourse african americans will succumb and fail thier offspring as usual, weak by nature apparently. so sad and we had high hoped for the lot of you overseas. .
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Hilarious! Thanks for the chuckle this morning.