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In some corners, you can’t say the “W-word” without eliciting snickers and eye rolls. Mo Ivory, the Director of Political-Community Outreach for CBS Radio Atlanta and host of “The Mo Ivory Show” on News/Talk 1380 WAOK, joins the chorus of weave detractors with her recent blog post, “Ladies…Who’s Hiding Under Your Weave?”

After her daughter asks for a weave because all her friends have one (despite having “a full head of shoulder-length, unpermed hair” herself), Ivory felt compelled to address black women’s obsession with weave.

She posted the alarming stat that “Black women spend billions of dollars a year on hair products buying 70% of all wigs and extensions purchased in the United States” and interviewed several people about weave, discovering the following:

29-year-old female hair stylist/makeup artist:
“Weaves have become a handicap for women in an effort to validate beauty. Some women need weaves as a badge of honor based on the kind of weave they wear – Indonesian, Brazilian or Malaysian. Women are proud to say what weave hair they wear and how much they paid for it. [It's] like status symbols, but instead weave tiers. Where do you fall on the weave status ladder? I get a bigger reaction from men when I wear a weave. Hair weaves elevate women’s self esteem.”

34-year-old female lawyer:
“I don’t feel like doing my hair every day, even though my weave does take a lot of time and can be real itchy. I want long thick hair. It makes me feel more confident and like I can compete with other women. I feel like a professional woman with a lot of sex appeal and men really like that.”

30-year-old male living in Atlanta from Chicago:
“Weaves don’t bother me but I like it to be kept up. I prefer a nice girl no matter if she has a weave or not. I like healthy girls, who are into physical fitness but I don’t have a type. My current girlfriend has a shoulder length weave. I can’t tell when she has the weave in or not.”

35-year-old male who makes a lot of money and is well known:
“I’m not a fan of weaves. I think its part laziness that women get weaves, but I also think weaves take a lot of time. I hate when I move a woman’s hair and her whole head moves. I like to feel a woman’s scalp. But I can’t say weaves are a super deterrent, although I would rather a woman wear her own hair. I believe many women hide behind their weaves because they don’t feel beautiful without a weave and that their beauty is attached to their weave. I would never let my teenage daughter get a weave and I feel it’s important that she learn how to do her own hair. I also don’t understand why women feel like they have to have long hair. It’s all vanity. It’s like ‘fake it ’til you make it’; same way with cars, houses and pocket books.”

41-year-old male from Atlanta:
“Women with short hair have more confidence. It’s her hair, she’s more real, she’s more beautiful, and she knows who she is. A lot of women hide under their weave, under their makeup. Some women use a weave to beautify themselves. Others take it to the extreme, and it makes me think ‘You are insecure and that you don’t like who you really are.’ I want a woman who knows herself. I dated a woman who took her weave out and she was not happy with herself. I don’t want to date a woman like that.”

While Ivory admits she embraced “manufactured beauty” by wearing a weave to appeal to men, not every weave wearer is lazy, lacking confidence or in the throes of an identity crisis.

Read the rest of her article here.

What are your thoughts on weave wearers, Clutchettes?

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    I don’t wear a weave, but other women can wear what they want. I only get to control what goes on _my_ head, not other people’s.

  • Owlman5678

    I ‘m a man and the decsion to have a weave is a women choice.
    My opinion some need it and some don’t. Let me explain some women hair are burn out from hair relaxer. The weave is a perfect choice for them.
    My wife all her life has had shoulder length hair. (her natural hair)
    I like short hair like Alicia Keys and Halle Berry.
    The short crop style. My wife had her hair cut like that a few times.
    She looked very lovely.

  • K

    I’m all for people embracing their natural hair, but why do people feel the need to police what’s on other people’s heads? People of ALL races add hair extensions for fullness. If you don’t add pieces and are blessed enough to hair thick hair, good for you. But why criticize people with hair thinner than they want it who feel more confident with some help? It doesn’t have to mean anything other than that style works best for them at the time.

  • Child, Please

    Funny. When a woman is wearing a weave, she’s insecure, lazy, has something to hide and a host of other words which equate to low self-esteem. When a man wears a toupee….mums the word and there are no discussions on why he wears it because we should sympathize with him or if not that then there is some justification for why it’s OK for him to wear a fake hair piece and a woman simply can’t.

    The conversations about a woman’s hair are tired when it comes to weave wearing. There seem to not nearly be enough articles on maintaining healthy hair (not saying Clutch hasn’t provided them, just speaking in general), which may or may not include wearing weave. For once I’d like for the discussion on why women wear weave to just die a fast death, since it seems no true thought provoking reasoning comes out of it other than the end resulting being a woman is insecure and has low self-esteem if she where’s weave.

  • D

    Love weaves, depending on how they look; love short hair, depending on how it looks. I don’t buy the whole eurocentric brainwashing argument for anybody who wears or likes weaves. I can (and do) absolutely love a black woman’s dark skin, brown eyes, wide nose, large lips, shapely hips, ample breasts, full ass, thick thighs, overall larger body size….features much more prominent in black women as opposed to some other races…..but if I also like a weave I’m brainwashed? Please.

    Now, obviously, I’m well aware of racial standards of beauty and the mindset behind some who relax their hair, attempt to lighten their skin, wear blonde wigs and blue contacts, and shave their noses down, etc. There are lost people out there. But if a woman looks as I described (or is hot and slim…don’t want to leave out the slender sisters) and the only additive is a weave I think it’s safe to say any brainwashing was not very effective and to stop the “sellout” drumbeat.

  • AJW

    My thing is this. Why not afro textured weave? Why spend billions on Malaysian& Indonesian hair when most of our hair types don’t match that? It’s so crazy! We complain about euro beauty standards then spend a grip and a half to put STRAIGHT hair on our heads. The debate wouldn’t be so darn big if alot of us wore weaves that blended with our own textures because black women aren’t the only women wearing weaves, we’re just the group who refuses match them to our hair types.

    JMHO

  • Curly1

    I’ve thought about getting a natural-kinky curly looking weave to thicken my hair. Never had one and not sure I could stand the itchiness I hear ppl talking about. But why get the bone straight weaves down to your hips? Everyone knows its not your real hair. Is that the point? Or is it just an artistic expression?

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    true

  • omfg

    weave is worse than relaxer, imo.

    i think weaves are horrible. it is the ultimate way to say i truly have a problem with what i’ve got.

    it says, i have to asked women/girls around the world (except africa) for their hair because deep down, i don’t think mine is good enough in some way – appearance, “manageability,” acceptability, etc.

    that is so low in my opinion – being so willing to pay (over and over and over again) gobs of money for a (literally) poor girl’s/woman’s head of hair cuz yours is simply not okay – for whatever reason you’ve deemed it unworthy of showing.

    everyone is laughing at our self-hate; they know they can make gobs of money off of us because of it. it’s pathetic.

    when i see black girls with weaves all down their back i just feel so sorry for them. what an act of self/public deception they’ve got going on.

    i don’t throw shade at strangers i see on the street, but deep down, i find black women’s propensity for wearing weaves a tad embarrassing because it communicate a level of self-hate and it shows a desperation that leads us to spend our money with people who absolutely abhor us in many ways.

    there. i said it. thumbs down all you want. i don’t care. this is my truth.

  • omfg

    did you read the article? evidently 70% of extension and wig purchases in the u.s. are black women. that is us. we make up what? six percent of the population.

    you think those numbers reflect an equitable (and rational) buying on the part of extension/wig purchasers in this country?

    the argument about other women wearing weave is so ridiculous. i can look at the people in my office and most of the white/latina/asian women obviously don’t have weaves in their hair.

    but, i can easily id black women with weave cuz that’s just what we do.

    ugh. so bizarre when people try to justify black women’s propensity to wear weaves by claiming other women do it. it’s such a lame, lopsided argument. it really makes no sense. you know the overwhelming majority of nonblack women wear their own hair the overwhelming majority of the time. you can’t say this about black women.

  • leelah

    I know what you mean with the hair down to your hip complaint.–I look at women with weaves on Tv and I just wish I had some magical scissors so I can cut their hair to at least the shoulder. This super long trend is so ridiculous and such an obvious attempt to fit into white america. Also the super long look takes a good hair style and ruins it. Specifically, Jennifer Hudson, Kelly Rowland, Trina, Ashanti, Tiny, and the worse offender Beyonce let their weaves wear them.—I don’t wear a weave and never have. Also none of my friends do neither. Either I run with the realest, most down crew of black woman around or that statistic sounds a little inflated. O r maybe I just don’t see how huge and horrible the weave epidemic is because I live in a city with a small and very hippy black population. Plus all this rain in Seattle is probably really bad for weaves. Tiny’s Friend, Shaniqua?, on that family hustle keeps saying your weave has to be dry or it’ll smell like road kill.

  • Pseudonym

    People clowned men with toupees and hair implants when they became popular in the 80s/90s. That’s why most men have stopped wearing them, if you notice.

  • http://gravatar.com/bornliberian bornliberian

    i’m au naturale and,have been so for 12yrs or more. i think a man/woman should wear his/her hair however he/she sees fit. one size doesn’t always fit all.

  • Chic Noir

    The sad thing is, most Blk women can grow long hair. Just be natural, protective styling, moister and. Multi vitamin. After two years natural, most Blk women who I associate with have hair that is anywhere from shoulder length to BSL.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    And the sad thing is that majority of that money does not get filter back into our community (with the exception for a few black owned businesses). Personally I don’t wear weaves it just isn’t my thing, if I am feeling lazy with my hair then more than likely I will braid it, do mini twists or bun it. As for women who wear weaves I don’t think ill of them because I don’t know why they wear it nor do I really care but I wouldn’t automatically think they are self-hating, lazy or insecure.

  • SayWhat

    It’s a conversation because the *fact* is that we wear them more than any other race (see article above) and we wear textures of other races, something else that only we do.
    Unless you have checked the density of every weave wearer, then you can’t chuck this up to ‘trying to thicken one’s hair’. I haven’t either, but to me the elephant in the room is that black women wear weaves disproportionately because our kinky hair is the driest of all the hair types (fact) and most of us have not learned to moisturize and take care of our hair. As a result, a lot of us have short, dry, damaged hair (relaxed or natural) that doesn’t fit our society’s standard of long, flowing, beautiful hair…. so we fake it with weaves.

  • beanbean

    I don’t see anything wrong with wearing a weave, as long as you’re not dependent on it. If you need a weave to feel beautiful that’s a problem. If you wear a weave because you like changing up your look, that’s fine. Weave or no weave, just make sure you take care of your real hair. I hate seeing women that have almost no hair left because they wore wigs/weave and forgot about their real hair.

  • Chic Noir

    My hair is pretty long now(mid back when str8) and God knows I don’t have one of those extreme routines and I am not a product junky. I own more mascara than I do hair products.

    I’ve always been fine with having hair that is shoulder length. Just got into the whole long hair thing because for a while, many of the blk naturals were going that route just to disprove the myth.

    Is it me, or is it weird to be bragging about wearing another woman’s crown. I don’t have a issue with weaves when sisters wear them to change it up or to protect their own hair but these girls and ladies who feel like their own hair isn’t good enough need to see the IG and Youtube accounts of naturals with long hair.

    Longhairdontcare2011
    Hair crush
    Sera
    Aliciajamesmusic
    Fusionofcultures
    Africanexport

    Just to name a few

    Oh and sosheargenius on IG who labels her natural hair client pics #notmixed because of the tomfoolery. She has one client who is very deep in color a “real blk woman as some folks say ” with waist length, you can sit on it hair(natural 10 years).

  • Ms. Information

    I am super sick of people trying to police black women on all levels. I am natural and have been for 8 years. If I choose to put weave in my hair that is my business. Some black women are confident and choose to wear a weave for different reasons. Some black women are not confident and one can write a thesis on European beauty ideals shoved down our throats along with BLACK MEN who will tell you that they hate natural hair. Women want to feel attractive.My best friends husband HATES her natural hair and told her so. There are so many reasons why people do the things they do – let people sort out their own issues and decisions.

  • Chic Noir

    K, I think people like Solange who wear weaves that mimic their natural texture get less drama than those who rock the silky str8 weaves.

  • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

    I wonder how many thousands and thousands of Korean kids have been put through college by Black women with their weave money. I wonder how many thousands of million dollar homes Black women have bought for Korean business people and their families with weave money.

  • AJW

    Omfg I won’t argue with you. I stand by what I say. What will do instead of berate women about their hair choices is offer suggestions. Out of my whole comment, the only thing that stuck out to you was the part about the other women that wear weave too….

  • http://gravatar.com/warrenaz yeahright2011

    Yeah another decoy issue. The “weave over bills” scenario is always a hoot though. The most extreme case is made the mean and we’re just nodding like we know a bunch of black women sitting on their unfurnished living room floor stroking their wigs and weaves. She is pretty basic and another reason education should never be used to prove intelligence. I don’t wear either and no relaxer and this still got on my nerves.

  • AJW

    I agree with you 100%. I’ve been natural most of my life so I don’t really have a dog in this fight. I will say this though. I know you mean well but I really feel that this issue is a sore one for so many women that’s why I prepose hearing each other out and trying to heal our wounds for the next generations coming up. But I know your fustration so well. It’s sad as HELL to see alot of us like that. I’m just trying to be positive.

  • Child, Please

    I still see many men wearing them and for various purposes no different than women. Regardless they don’t get the level of criticism that women do. Getting teased for wearing a toupee is completely different than random strangers assuming you’re insecure, lazy or a welfare queen and what not because you choose to wear weave. Funny thing is, people didn’t know Steve Harvey was wearing a wig until he stopped and people seem to prefer him with it. No jokes were made even after the fact other than the talk about his bald head.

    Again, conversations surrounding a woman’s hair (as evidenced by some of the comments) have proved these kind of discussions are baseless because it only leads back to others making assumptions about the women who wear them and have people making suggestions that may or may not fit a certain person’s lifestyle. I think I’m even more unimpressed by the fact that Mo Ivory ONLY “polled” 10 people and in ONE area of Atlanta.She may as well had just ended her statements with the assumptions already made as I’m certain her line of questioning lead some people to their answers.

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    (mumbling under my breath)
    I’m glad someone said it.

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    That’s funny because I wear my hair in its natural state because I am lazy. I would love to shave all of my hair off and rock a fade… but I have a funny-shaped head.
    :(

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    Apparently, you didn’t receive your “Black Manual: 2013 Edition”. You have to read chapter 13, paragraphs 25 through 69.

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    Ditto.

  • http://gravatar.com/mimiandy1683 MimiLuvs

    (reading the article while a group of non-black women walks by with their multi-colored, hair. )
    (Stares at the various fluorescent colors and then sighs wistfully)
    Let me check my Black Manual. Maybe the act of dyeing hair isn’t a violation.

  • http://gravatar.com/ravsmith78 Ravi

    dying your hair might be a little different than attaching the hair of a woman from a different race. Dying your hair blue probably doesn’t have much to do with standards of beauty that clearly preference the hair of Persuasions.

  • Anon

    Ugh. All black women don’t have dark skin, wide noses, shapely hips, ample breasts or thick thighs. I done known some skinny dark skinned women. Some light thick women. Ones with flat butts, small mouths, and petite frames in the lil bitty titty committee. Routina Wesley on True Blood has smaller features. So does Angela Basset. They ain’t “black”? Quit assigning us as all having certain features. A LOT of Asian women have larger and wider noses than black women. How come they ain’t known for them?

  • Humanista

    While I am totally not behind “weave-bashing”, all of these”but men/white people do it to!” responses totally dismiss the fact that black women do it so disproportionately. SO. Disproportionately. Clearly a symptom of a larger issue. The fact that it happens shouldn’t be alarming to anyone, but the fact the black women overwhelmingly seem to be unhappy with their own hair (whether it be because of the texture, an inability to nurture it, etc.), it’s worth discussing, I think.

  • Starla

    I can’t do the weave thing. I hate sitting long for hairdos to begin with and the thought of putting another woman’s hair on my head just icks me out. I have nothing against synthetic hair, but I find something demeaning about using the hair of a woman of another group on my head, especially when there is no market for coily hair.

  • LemonNLime

    I don’t care, I really don’t. Personally, weave freaks me out. I always felt like it would grow mold and is dirty but that is mostly because my sister is a weavaholic and she would go months without washing her hair. MONTHS! It’s disgusting and then she wonders why her real hair won’t grow and why guys are grossed out but her hair. Quite frankly, most of the weaves I see just aren’t washed well, they smell, and just look ratty. Maybe it cost a lot of money to keep it up but I don’t know.

    Either way, I’m more concerned with the ethical implications of weave. Business men are making money off those weaves, not the women who actually grow the hair.

  • SpkKay13

    This whole “self-hatred” meme concerning Black women wearing weave is absurd. How someone chooses to wear their hair is a personal choice and right based on THEIR wants, needs, etc. As someone who has been natural for 5 years now, I would have NEVER imagined that I would even entertain weaves. However, as a natural who seldom wears my hair freestyle due to my profession and workout routines, I can attest to the truth concerning the amount of time that it takes to properly care for and style 4b, extra thick, 14 inch tresses. I recently made my first human hair, yaki textured wig to switch things up and to give me and my hair a break and it was amazing. I was still able to treat my hair every week as usual (wash, deep condition, etc) and oil my scalp daily. However, the amount of time I spend on my natural hair creating sleek and business appropritate flat and/or two strand twisted hair styles can be a tad bit daunting and I absolutely refuse to pay ridiculously inflated prices for someone else to style my hair based on me being natural. The amount of love, dignity, self-esteem that I have and feel with my natural hair is not diminished when I wear my wig. i would much rather buy straight hair than damage my beautiful tresses throught excessive heat damage. When I hear negative comments about Black women wearing weaves from other black women, I instantly ponder on whether or not this naturalista is one who wears a short cut, TWA, or those who simply wake up, quickly finger picks their hair for all of 2 seconds, and carries on with their day.

  • Jules

    Why is this chick Mo Ivory so invested in questioning the beauty and fashion choices of GROWN BLACK WOMEN? Even the title is misleading!!!! Also, this conversation was sparked by a conversation with her child. Keyword: CHILD. Again, we are grown women making our own choices. Until this Byiatch starts paying another’s sister’s bills, why is it HER business to question OR debate??? I find it very funny that she is short, out of shape with short relaxed hair yet was QUICK to state that one of the so-called brothers she interviewed said that “real women have short hair”. Way to emulate YOURSELF to look better, Ms. Ivory!

  • LDN

    Gosh all of this weave bashing is so ridiculous. Men will be the first to proclaim that they like natural girls but then just take a look at those tv shows, music video’s and so forth…..did anyone see an afro haired 4b/c girls? no me neither.

    White girls wear weaves like crazy too, its like a black women just can’t seem to get it right. Like seriously let us do as we so please, we could do without the negativity.
    We spend more time bashing each other than making positive impacts within our own society, that we lag behind.

  • http://gravatar.com/nisku2006 lola bird

    its unbeweavable!

  • Sasha

    Let me add my lil two cents here: when I was younger (and relaxed) my mom used to be braid me and my sisters hair. This was likely a time saving maneuver because having 5 daughters, doing hair in our house was a two day process. We all had hair down to our back. Since about 12 I haven’t had a weave in the form of braids and sometimes I kind of miss it but when I think about getting a wig or weave it’s not Black progressiveness that stops me. It’s knowing that the money I would spend is going towards making some family, likely of Asian descent, richer and I’m not okay with that. My shoulder length natural hair is just fine but I guess if other Black women want to get weave then that is their choice.

  • Treece

    I really really really wish Black women would quit bashing each other for thier hairstyle choices. If you don’t want to wear a weave fine. But frankly, as far as other women who choose to wear weaves are concerned, take a few seats and shut the f**k up. I am so tired of hearing how it’s a sign of lack of confidence and wanting to be White….yadda yadda yadda. None of this is necessarily true. I have meet a gracious plenty of natural haired women who are some of the most racially self hating bitches I’ve ever met. For most women, weaves are a hairstyle choice. Nothing more. I think the reason why many natural women who are judgemental like this towards women with weaves is because of thier own hang ups about hair. It’s YOUR own insecurities about your hair that make you judge other women so harshly. Like I’ve said before, there are much more pressing issues going on with us right now than to still be hashing it out over people’s choice of hairstyle (addition, subtractions or whatever…)

  • Ash

    I have mixed feelings about this. On one end, I’m sick of people policing women’s hair and makeup choices. I have natural hair and love it but every woman must decide what works best for them.

    On the other end, the weave industry is a corrupt industry (how most of the hair is obtained, etc).

  • Yb

    Damn this hair talk shit it getting tired. You would think black women are killing each other, commiting suicide over hair how much we talk about it.

    There’s more pressing issues the black community can talk about and this weave obsession is a destrasction.

    If you don’t like what a person does with their hair THEN TOO FUCKING BAD!!! It’s not your damn head. motherfuckers act like black women scalps are property of this cult people like to call the “Black Community”. Weave, permed, natural black women don’t owe no one else a damn thing.

    And how about this: instead of condemning attacking one from wearing their hair a certain way, help build their self esteem and find the images that brainwash people into thinking their natural hair isn’t good enough. Not that damn hard. No one cares or will here you bitching on an Internet forum.

    As young NATURAL black woman, my time on Clutch has taught me one thing: that a good amount of black women can be PETTY.

  • Apple

    I wear weave and I don’t give a shit! If that makes me a self hater oh well I guess I am. I don’t want to deal with my hair, spend time on it or fight it. After 14 years of being natural, and two failed attempts of perms and doing it myself, beside shaving my head this is the easiest way. I tried but it didnt work so I will not invest another attempt in wearing my hair. I like being able to get up and go,walk in the rain, go swimming with little notice, sweat and fuck without worrying about my “what’s happening to my hair”. If you want to be natural, straight, weave, bkt, that’s your hair not mines so stop telling other people how to live !

  • Tina

    White women are not the only women in this world who have naturally straight
    hair. The hair BW get are from other women of color not white women whose hair tends to be stringy. If BW start buying natural texture weaves, it does not mean it is going to match their natural texture. The majority of BW I have seen with natural texture weaves the hair is a loose curl and not kinky.

  • Tina

    You women are complaining about black women buying hair weaves that does not match their natural texture, but how many of you all only buy “black owned” beauty products?

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    I see what you are saying..but black people are CONSUMERS…we don’t own any car companies, grocery stores et cetera….we put all races of people’s children through college….not just with weave revenue…

  • Cocochanel31

    I think we as women of color wear weaves for versaitily. I have never worn one, but I have worn wigs/ponytails to give myself a different look when going out. I have however observed that allll of my close girlfriends who wear weaves on a regular basis feel ugly and or plain without it, thus hardly ever leave home without it, and they all have a head full of their own natural hair. My main reason for not ever wearing weave is so that I don’t become addicted and feel ugly without it. Seriously contemplating chopping all my hair off again, I prefer to be different and stand out for my own natural beauty. I don’t knock others for their choices though, because everyone is not “BALD” they just may want a new and dramatic look.

  • Von

    But don’t men wear toupees because they are losing their hair and trying to hide a bald spot? Most women who wear weaves/wigs aren’t trying to hide a bald spot. I don’t wear weaves or wigs but if my hair starts to thin, I just might. I don’t think we can compare men to women in this discussion.

  • http://commentarybyvalentina.wordpress.com Val

    Hiya, Ms. Information

    True but, in the weave industry we are the majority consumers unlike those other industries you mention. So the vast majority of revenue comes from us. It would be nice if we could recycle that money amongst ourselves at least once or twice before it leaves our communities.

    It would be great to see Black owned weave wholesalers and distributors.

  • Fantastico

    Come on, you know what D is talking about. D’s comments referred to the features that catch the most flack. The comments did not say black people without those features “ain’t black.”

  • Mary

    Wearing weaves is a sign of insecurity and self-esteem issues.

  • ArabellaMichaela

    Interesting article. I have never worn a weave and have no plans to do so. Also, my perception is that men ( including black men) definitely prefer natural hair, even if it’s short. It is so obvious that wearing a head full of someone else’s hair is flattering to that someone else (meaning white women, Asian women, Hispanic women) not you. It’s, very obviously, a walking advertisement that you consider them more beautiful than you.
    And I will say something else, those other ethnicities laugh at black women’s fake hair. It’s the truth.

  • Epiphany

    One really can’t win. I’ve had people not like me because I wore a wig (not knowing why). They assume I was trying to be white but I could have been bald underneath for all they knew. Then I had a more natural looking weave and was told it didn’t look good because it was too nappy. So one has to do what one wants to do. You just can’t please everyone.

  • Mary

    The monies that we spend on weaves, we can spend elsewhere on more important things like our children’s education. Or how about a trust fund/Roth IRA for our college age children? We are so independent but at times so naive. WAKE UP MY SISTERS. Learn to love yourselves as you are. Stop trying to look like or be someone that you are not. Embracing the White Eurocentric look is not the answer.

  • AJW

    I do.

  • Mary

    You are absolutely correct. I agree.

  • Treece

    So I suppose you support a Black/African aesthetic or standard of beauty and attractiveness all aspects of how you look? clothing and fashion choices? Beauty products? The furniture in your home, the car you drive? I am proud of my race and everything I’ve accomplished as a Black woman. I think Black women are beautiful no matter how we wear our hair. I like to wear my hair straight and sometimes I like to wear my.kinky curls. sometimes I wear weaves. That doesn’t mean that I think it makes me closer to a White standard of beauty. It’s a freakin hairstyle choice! For some women, that’s all it is. Nobody bothers Asian women when they want to wear thier naturally straight hair curly or Latinas who have curly hair and flat iron it out. We are the only race that gives each other a really hard time about this issue. So tired of this bullish**….

  • http://twitter.com/Cognorati001 Colette Marcheline (@Cognorati001)

    Quote from an interview in the article:
    “It makes me feel more confident and like I can compete with other women.”

    WTF?! She’s a Black, female lawyer! Why does she need validation or feel “less than” based on her appearance? What is going on? Why didn’t anyone ask her why she feels this way?

    Good grief.

  • Listen.

    IIIIIII am “hiding” under my weave. Who else would it be? I am who I am with or without weave. It’s a STYLE of choice. Many African American women have to stop putting so much emphasis on weaves ,relaxed, natural and everything in between, I don’t let my hair DEFINE who I am.

  • kaybee

    I wear my hair in weaves, braids, ponytails..so what! My bf has seen my hair in a weave and in a fro. It’s funny how men have so much to say yet they go after the women with the long beautiful hair..they complain that we dont like to get it wet and etc..ppl wear fake hair..fake nails..fake breasts..do you!

  • 122122

    It’s 2013 and black women are still getting blamed for not showing off our real hair…it’s getting hella annoying now…I only wear weave because my real hair just refuses to grow any longer and I always received rude and hurtful comments about how short my hair was when I was in high school…it’s pretty annoying to just blame women when they’re other factors.

  • 122122

    Thank you. Some guys are just ugh….one minute they say that they hate women with short hair, then say they hate women with weaves..they should make up their minds or be quiet.

  • It’s not a matter of men making p their minds…their minds are clearly made up.They simply want women with real (authentic) long hair.

  • http://gravatar.com/seriouslynatural Sabrina @seriouslynatural

    Sad….fake hair has to make you feel more sexy? Well, I guess we all do something to spruce ourselves up but we do need to step away from the weaves and embrace our natural hair…OK, I’m biased. Been natural for over 7 years.

  • 122122

    Well I don’t have a problem with that, just stop insulting women with short hair or weaves.

  • 324243

    I wish people would stop complaining about what women do with their hair…just as long as it makes them feel confident…not every woman was born with long hair. I despise my short hair because it refuses to grow no matter how much I try to take good care of it, and I only wear weaves at least 2 times a year, guess I’m a fake person, huh….some opinions about black hair are completely biased.

  • shoe

    Actually, we make up approximately twelve percent of the population.

  • emmy

    Like they say, “they brought her down by her crown” meaning, this weave fad is orchistrated. The top chakra which is the 7th chakra is at the top of the head, which is your crown and glory, certain human beings have found a way to take control of the energy of that frequency.I do undertsand black women wear weaves due to a lack of knowledge about our 360 degree hair, which is the only complete hair btw, but there are not enough natural hair styles being shared and we get our hair products from the korean beauty supplies in which they are here in america because they are making all of the money from us selling weaves and hair products, we actually spend over a billion dollars on wigs, weaves, and hair products that are not even made by our own people. Back to the point; they have tooken control of the crown and glory by putting so many chemicals and synthetics in the products we use and they seep into the scalp and into the blood stream causing all sorts of health problems. You can have cancer and never thought it was that weave you had sewed in your head 3 months ago. I say we should embrace our natural selves,,,, get locks, do double strand twist, straw sets, nubian knotts, whatever it takes for you to not use any fake chemical hair.

  • WIF

    ENOUGH! Please stop with these weaves vs. natural articles. We are causing more friction within our communities over such trivial conversations. Unless you are paying my bills, paying for my clothes, makeup and are dragging me around with a chain around my neck, mind your damn business. We should be discussing how to eliminate racism, the lack of available heathy food within black communities, and our social and economic disenfranchisement, – not whether someone want to put in some Indian Remi or not. SMH.

  • london via africa

    I used to be a weaveaholic until my father told me that in our tribe, a deceased man/women’s hair and nails will be returned to the paternal village if the body itself cannot be returned. This made me remove the brazilian weave on my head ASAP and 4 years later I am yet to put another chicks hair on my head. yuck.

  • Truro

    I think if people didn’t mean things about women with short hair, then we wouldn’t be worrying about weaves today. Simple. If we all would stop complaining and let people wear their real hair the way we want to, these arguments won’t be happening.

  • http://www.newtress.com sallie

    Regardless a womans beauty is dependent on the woman. Everyone has their niche, and some women have grown to feel more comfortable and beautiful in weaves. There is nothing wrong with that. It’s the same as material obsessions for clothing and such. Weave isn’t going to harm anyone so it’s not really a big deal. The concept of weave makes women feel more secure.

  • http://gravatar.com/lope32 my way

    I started to wear a weave when my hair began thinning from androgenic alopecia. ..

    I wish people would stop judging others, you never know what they’re going through.

    I feel great and will continue to rock my hair as I choose.

  • Sheilah Sutton

    The real discussion is about Black and African culture in the United States. Oppression was created from the past, yet lasting effects of slavery in this country, and how it continues to divide our culture. I would love to see Black and African women empowered to the point of supporting one another instead of judging/blaming one another for the hair option that is chosen. The more we understand who we are, the more we can truly walk in the fullness of who we are, regardless of the hair style.

  • david

    “My Brothers Keeper.” My response. In order to move forward in America,”Change must happen.” This needs to start with the President, yes President Barrack Obama. His message initiative in the beginning of his campaign was this “CHANGE.” In order for this Change to really change America, the people of America, Americans, is to CHANGE the name of the “WHITE HOUSE”, back to the “Presidential Mansion.” How about the “American Estate”, anything but the discriminatory and racial “WHITE HOUSE.”

    This is the bonding, healing, and commitment that America
    needs, starting with the modern Presidential Chief Executive Officer in charge. Our leader, elected official
    and America’s Commander leading the charge for this change hear at home. Until this change happens we as Americans who are minority and from many cultures and backgrounds including the Caucasians who themselves are mixed, inter-culturally different. White Americans who’s grand-parents spoke languages, came from other countries, and were from all over the world need this change to open the hearts of their eyes.

    This is the true Change America needs to go forward.

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