I haven’t watched a single episode of this season’s Real Housewives of Atlanta. Partly because I don’t own a television and partly because I gave up on that Real Housewives stuff awhile ago. But I do read blogs and social media feeds, so I am aware that Porsha Stewart’s husband Kordell has filed for divorce.
Sometimes it’s hard for people to conjure up sympathy for someone who has put a relationship in the public eye via reality television. But this woman still deserves sympathy, space and as much privacy as she desires.
Of course the next step in this intense world of 24-hour online gossip and news is going to be the myriad theories, blame games and I-told-you-sos from various corners of the blogosphere and social media. Regardless of what was shown on television, none of us know the ins and outs of that woman’s marriage and it’s really not useful to turn the demise of her marriage into a national game of “I knew their marriage wouldn’t last because…”
No matter if she was blindsided or not, divorce knocks you on your ass. It’s a humbling experience that I wouldn’t wish upon anyone. If at all possible, it would be great if we could step out of the Stewart marriage/divorce and focus on our own present, actual lives.
Demetria Irwin is a New York City-based freelance writer/editor. Follow her on Twitter,@Love_Is_Dope.