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Did you tune into the first installment of “Fashion Queens” on Bravo yesterday evening? The three-episode series stars hairstylists Derek J and Miss Lawrence discussing all things fashion from “haute couture to global style trends,” moderated by style maven Bevy Smith. The talk show includes cleverly-titled segments like “Gag of The Week” and features shade-filled quips about everyone from Andre Leon Talley to Lady Gaga.

The kicker was when the topic of natural hair came up and Derek J voiced his disapproval. The hairstylist revealed he’s “not a fan of the natural hair movement” and declared “natural hair is not for everyone.” Does that mean he believes there are women out there that can’t wear their hair as God made it and have no other option but to resort to relaxers, wigs and weaves? It seems that way. Appearing to back his claim, Miss Lawrence advised women with natural hair to “check [their] density” before wearing an Afro.

Derek J continued his rant on social media, tweeting that “Natural Nazis” we’re going to give him “all types of havoc” for his comments. He then proceeded to share tweets from people that agreed with him.

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One of the tweets he shared cited women who look like “The Color Purple” as proof that Derek J’s comment was on point. But the problem is Derek J, and his supporters, can’t distinguish between a styling and maintenance issue versus a texture issue.

There are just as many women who can’t maintain or style their weaves properly; is Derek J not a fan of the weave moment for that reason as well? Clearly, his logic is inherently flawed.

He then related the backlash to racism, tweeting:

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Interesting. What’s your take on Derek’s comments, Clutchettes and Gents?

  • omfg

    there’s always a coon around for coonery.

    but now, we’ve got queen coons.

    poor black folk. when will we ever learn?

    le sigh.

  • Keshia

    Yeah and heels, makeup, and blouses are not for men. He’s either pressed he’s loosing money from clients going natural or is the typical self hating negro. : flips natural hair:

  • Justina

    High heels and women’s clothes aren’t for everyone but that doesn’t stop his big ass from marching around in them. This is clearly a demonstration of how opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.

  • Guest1234

    I don’t know why people get all upset when some hairdresser says something against natural hair. OF COURSE he doesn’t like natural hair. If women started taking care of their own hair, he’d be out of a job! He’s gonna do/say anything he can to discourage women from realizing that they don’t need him and his scalp-scorching chemicals and hair tools. It’s just like the drug pusher who’s trying to keep the junkie out of rehab. It’s pretty transparent. Big deal. Who cares?

  • http://gravatar.com/afrikanqueenn afrikanqueenn

    I can’t with this fool. The whole statement is idiotic and is also a true testimony of what’s wrong with us. We’re so conditioned it’s sad. How can the hair that grows out of your scalp not be for you?? Just express your preferences and keep it moving, but please PLEASE PLEASE stop the madness. Lets at least give the coming generation a fair chance instead of passing down the mental chains. SMH

  • Anon

    They reinforce the ideal that kinky coily textures are unacceptable. He-she is influencing a social trend of shaming, ridiculing, people for their natural-born features. How is this responsible behavior?

    It’s unacceptable based and whose/what standard?

    We can’t call it racism, nor colorism, which is the sticky part.

    But his sentiment does hint phenotype discrimination. It’s sentiments like this, within the sub-Saharan African descended diaspora, that helped propel the natural hair movement, because certain textures were not seen, encouraged, as acceptable.

    It’s just like saying certain skin-tones of brown, or certain nose widths, are unacceptable.

  • http://www.myblackfriendsays.com myblackfriendsays

    Of course, he thinks “natural hair is not for everyone,” he’s trying to protect his cash flow!

  • Alicia W.

    but there are women with natural hair who go to salons…so that makes no sense

  • Paige

    Bingo!

  • Paige

    Why would ANYONE care about what HE has to say. His whole image is pathetic and sad. Why do people care when fools speak? If Barak Obama or some important black figure said this then and only then would there be need for discussion. I don’t and no one else should care about what this hairstylist has to say. How about he let go of the twinkies and then talk about natural women. ]

  • Nadell

    And in the same token “permed hair is not for everyone”.
    I gather women embracing how their hair grows out of their head is becoming a financial threat to that lucrative market of relaxers, weaves and wigs.

    Be paranoid all you anti-natural militants cause your approval is neither desired nor required! I and countless other women are rocking their natural hair with sophistication, class and fabulousness!!

  • Paige

    Well said. He looks like a disaster every time he’s on the screen.

  • Yb

    This loose booty negro needs to learn how to adapt to stay in business. Instead of shitting on people with natural hair he needs to learn how to style it to continue HIS financial growth. Smh

  • Tina

    Says the person who created and styled that monstronsity of a wig Kim Z wore. Not of fan of the 10 pound wig movement. Clearly pounds of fake hair doesn’t fit everyone. He should have been ashamed to have been seen on camera w/ that mess.

  • apple

    well it isn’t for everyone , some people look great with it some people don’t,
    some people can handle the effort it takes some people can’t. everything isn’t made for everyone..think it depends on your features, shape of face, hair management skills and texture

  • http://twitter.com/ithas2besaid Think Critically

    He specializes in weaves and a lot of women who wear weaves are not natural. He is trying to preserve his business. The reality is that a lot of women who have gone natural are no longer going to salons to get their hair done.

    Also, there are many black people who don’t like natural hair. This is not news. He was just misguided enough to share his opinion. Next.

  • Anonymous

    I agree that many women with natural hair go to salons, but they do so less frequently, and as you grow more comfortable with your natural hair, many women will choose to do their hair themselves cause it’s cheaper. Once you figure out your own hair and its needs, you have less of a need for salons. He’s interested in selling his products and making money, not making women feel better about themselves in their natural state.

  • http://bourgiewinetv.com Ms_Krista

    Derek J’s comment has to do with his pocketbook, in my view. To my knowledge, he doesn’t do natural hair styles. The ‘big chop movement’ cuts into his profits, of course he has something bad to say about it LOL.

  • Sasha

    His big hippopotamus ass is trying to tell women that the hair that grows out of their scalp isn’t for them? Well pink isn’t for everyone and you look like a burnt fat burrito dressed in pink with tacky makeup so be on your way *hair flip and a twirl*

  • Cocochanel31

    I hope Derek J can take other’s advice as well since he is such an expert on all things women, such as the advice that NO MEN LOOK GOOD WEARING WOMEN’S CLOTHING #boybye#haveseveralseats

  • au napptural

    This person doesn’t even know if they are a man or a woman and clearly has race-hate and color issues. There is an entire stadium of seats for you to have right in Atlanta, sir. Please use them. And idk why these people who don’t know whether they are coming of going are always trying to be up in other people’s business. I swear, this man looks like he wants women to look a mess with 20 pounds of weave-so he can get all the men. SMH.

  • Cocochanel31

    Actually everyone I know who lives with weave 24/7 is natural, hence why they are addicted to the weave, so I beg to differ that he would be out of business if more women went natural.

  • Keshia

    I died!!! Lmaoo that wig stayed sitting sideways!!

  • http://gravatar.com/afrikanqueenn afrikanqueenn

    Please do this for me: record that ignorant statement and play it out loud, then maybe you’ll hear how much of a fool you sound.

  • Joy

    So the natural state of hair you were born with isn’t “for everybody.” Oh ok…

  • Joy

    Being that there is not just one natural hairstyle, this statement is just false. There are braids, fros, short styles, locs, twist-outs, hell even hair presses. There are very few styles that you have to actually get your hair chemicallly altered for.

  • Joy

    As the natural hair movement continues, there are certain stylist that will continue to be threatened, as they believe it effects their livlihood. Those who are smart will learn how to adapt and acutally train themselves to style natural tresses instead of putting them down.

  • London

    Of course he would through shade at the natural movement. He makes money off covering up (weaves) and straightening black women’s hair. Derek, like a lot of hairstylists I know, are scared and are losing money because 1) the natural movement is becoming bigger, 2) being natural doesn’t require you to go a salon every two weeks, if ever, and 3) he probably doesn’t know how to do all types of natural hair.

    But Derek just sounds ignorant. How can something growing out of your own damn head, and something God gave you be wrong? So God’s design is wrong?

  • Joy

    Lol at drug pusher! I agree with Guest 1234 about hair dressers who have pushed the creamy crack feeling threatened. But these type of things DO need to be discussed. Somewhere out there is a woman on the fence about whether to go natural or not. I’ve been approached by so many women since I have gone natural (it’s been 6 years now) that don’t think they can do it because they feel like they won’t “look right”. So when fools like this go running their mouth, spreading lies about natural hair, they need to be checked every time.

  • Keshia

    Exactly!! It’s crazy how many black hairstylist don’t know how to take care of or style natural hair. Shoot many of them don’t know how to take care of relaxed hair either smh

  • Prissy1

    This coming from a MAN who wears women’s clothing. I mean to each is own, but sweep around your front door before you come sweeping around min. And I’m Gone with the Wind Fabulous with my natural TWA.

  • Legallychisis

    If you don’t like natural hair you don’t like it, you have a right to voice your opinion. However to say Natural Hair isn’t for everyone and throw shade is just plain disrespectful and disgusting. I don’t like men who prance around in blouses and pumps but would never get disrespectful and offensive with it. Derek J have several seats in the rear #Teamnatural is here to STAY!!

  • MommieDearest

    “High heels and women’s clothes aren’t for everyone but that doesn’t stop his big ass from marching around in them. This is clearly a demonstration of how opinions are like assholes and everyone has one.”

    Basically. On top of that, he doesn’t even do the heels and women’s clothes correctly. Some of his friends need to help him out. LOL!!

    I can’t possibly take anything this fool has to say seriously. *tosses ‘fro*

  • Moe

    I hope Derek and the men that say these things know that if they grew there hair out, it would also be very coiled does that make there hair ” bad”?

  • Moe

    *their

  • The Artist

    Derek needs to take a seat. I bet this was some attempt to protect his business, some hairstylists have yet to learn how to care for natural hair, which for the life of me I can’t understand. Why not learn to do natural hair and have double the business? Some Black hairstylists are missing the mark and I’m pretty sure someone else will come a long and chip away the market from under them (similar to what’s happening with the Dominican salons).

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    These are “men” that wear high heels…I would NEVER take them seriously.

  • Monica B.

    Ok, so I’ll admit that I have no idea who Derek J is and have no intention of watching his show so I don’t know the context of his statement or what evidence he used to back it up. BUT, I think the people on here attacking him and the clothes he chooses to wear are doing the same thing they’re accusing him of doing. You all are judging him on his chosen appearance, and using that as a reflection of his personality and mindset.

    He might have made the comment about natural hair to protect his cash flow. If so, do you blame him. What if he just doesn’t like natural hair, and used his show (for which I assume he’s getting paid a pretty penny) to voice an opinion he has every right to have. The funny thing is that you all are doing exactly what he predicted you’d do. Attack him for his opinion (which, I repeat, he has every right to voice).

    As a woman who tried having natural hair and found that I did not have the time (or really the creativity & interest) to maintain it, I have to agree with Derek J. Natural hair is not for everybody. If you don’t have the time or energy to take care of it the way it should be taken care of, don’t do it. Granted, the color purple comparison is ignorant and deserves all kinds of shade. But why are we using ad hominem attacks on a man who 1. does not care about what Clutch readers think and 2. expressed and opinion that I’m sure LOTS of people share with him?

  • http://www.conventionalculture.com/ ConventionalDee

    I wouldn’t expect Derek to be a fan of natural hair, because it’s a threat to his occupation. If women of color overwhelmingly accepted their hair in it’s natural state, we’d only be going to the salon for a trim or a shape up. How can he afford his heels and handbags then?

  • UrbanTravel-Bug

    Everthing is not made for everyone your Absolutely right! Now take that same theory and apply it to those who rock weave/wigs. Some look good and some just look like a hot mess with hair looking like a birds nest…wigs strands looking so shiny and fake with horrible parts in the middle.

  • Chicago Chica

    Perhaps Derek J needs to learn how to work with natural hair instead of making derogatory statements. I would venture to say that his business is suffering because more women are embracing their natural curls. Sounds like bitterness to me.

  • LoLo

    Perhaps the natural hair “lifestyle” isn’t for everyone because in my opinion, it does require a greater degree of time and effort. Yes,after 3 years of being natural I pretty much have my own regimine down to a science. I can do it in my sleep! (And many Saturday night’s I do lol). But, it was tough going from a relatively short detangling time with a relaxer to a longer more thorough detangling time with natural hair. And the process of figuring out what hairstyles worked for me and those that didn’t was a trial and error process that ended in many frustrated ponytails or wigs for awhile.

    Not only is there more time required for my hair, but going natural forced me to examine my own beliefs about my beauty standards. It forced me to examine my work-out habits. And it encouraged me to start taking better care of my temple holistically. When I try to explain my experience to others, I completely understand why some might say it’s not for them. I get it. But it was the best decision for me. I would never trade the added amount of time for the sense of awe I have about myself as a black woman now.

    But natural hair IS for everyone. I truly believe God made no mistakes and that he created us as we are for a reason. I can’t judge, because 4 years ago I probably would have been thinking just like him. I did not think my natural hair was attractive, professional, or even manageable. I just hope that people continue to educate and re-define the perceptions of black hair in the mainstream. Maybe one day, an Atlanta Housewife will have the courage to be natural on television and show others that she is just as “snatched” as the next “wife.” Hey, I can dream right?

  • Treece

    Wow, how incredibly ignorant. My mother actually made this comment to me when I decided to grow out my relaxer. I still play with the versatility of my hair (sometimes I straighten it, weave it, or wear it naturally kinky-curly), but I have decided to ditch the chemicals. She has softened up to it lately, but when I first told her I was going to do it she said those exact words “you know, natural hair isn’t for everybody”. I had to ask her the same thing the author asked. How is the natural way your hair grows out of your head “not for you”? She just tried to deflect and ask me why I had to be so sensitive blah, blah, blah. I just dropped the issue but i realized that she is coming from an era where natural hair is a no-no for Black women. she grew up with a mother (my Grandmother) who didn’t even like cornrows much less afros. This fool has no excuse.

  • Charle

    Your last sentence had me in stitches! You ain’t right. haha

  • http://gravatar.com/heavenleiblu AB

    I saved my knee-jerk reaction to this on the facebook page, so I’ll try to be kinder here.

    This assclown is trying to preserve his clientele pool because he’s obviously not skilled on that side of the fence. if he was smarter, he’d expand his skillset so that he could be grabbing those coins as well, unless he has some (long term) sponsorship or product deal that creates a conflict of interest with that.

  • Charle

    /SLAIN

  • Anonymous

    I agree with the above statement. I’d also like to add to this the fact that some are saying natural hair takes time to learn and do, that’s the same for perms and weaves. We learned how to straighten, perm, and weave our hair at such a young age, we basically were indoctrinated into it before we were aware of what was going on. We didn’t consider the time it take to go get a perm at a salon or put a weave in cause that’s what we were taught. As someone moves into wearing natural hair, you have to learn how to do that, and it takes the same amount of time, although it seems longer because we are not used to it. When I first started wearing my hair natural, I mainly did twist outs, and b/c I have a lot of hair it would take forever, Now, It takes about the same amount of time as it would to put a perm in and I have a hairstyle I barely have to mess with for at least a week.

    When we learn how to manage our hair it becomes so much easier (and cheaper).

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    i am really happy, pleased and proud of my sisters comments on here!

  • Anonymous

    I have to say I am really not here for the homophobic, transphobic, and fatphobic comments towards Derek J. I absolutely do not agree with his statement, but calling him out his name in those manners is not necessary.

    Anyway, I really think that 1, his comments is just a way to protect hsi business. He’s a hairstylist who clearly does not know how to do natural hair, so he’s trying to put the insecurity on us to keep his business running. 2. I think his comments also show just how much work we have to do when it comes to decolonizing our minds in terms of our bodies. Most Black women’s hair is not straight naturally, and that’s OK. The sad part is that most of us never figure out how to manage our natural hair so we end up thinking of it as a problem instead of realizing it’s fine in its natural state. Of course, it does not help that many people (Black, white, and otherwise) will tell us how unprofessional, or unkempt our natural hair is, but realizing that is an issue with the other person and not our hair is important.

  • jeni

    I wasn’t going to click on this article–who cares about what some confused high-heeled queens who wear far more make-up than I do have to say about natural beauty–but his comments are indicative of someone who is salty about the natural hair movement hitting him in his pocket. That overpriced relaxer $$$ must have winnowed down. I’m honestly more upset with Andy Cohen for giving the ridiculousness their own show.

  • Nj2va2md2nj

    He’s a man dressed ( horribly) in WOMEN’S clothing!!!!! Like Wendall Williams I don’t care what he has to say! Wasn’t he the one placing those horrid wigs on Kim’s head?? I have locs and I go to the salon to get them done every 6 weeks. My hair is gorg!! I like all hair as long as it’s NICE! I’m sick of those who have no experience with natural hair commenting on it.

  • Blue

    I somewhat agree with his comment. As I choose to wear my hair straight because that is my preference. I just didn’t like the way it looked on me then my hair got too tangled & I had too many knots. Maybe I did something wrong. I’ll plan to give it another try.Enough about me
    For those who prefer to wear their hair natural. More power to them. Why put your people down for wanting to wear their hair how God made it. If you don’t like the look, fine. You are entitled to your opinion but don’t knock those who do like it.

  • Jaslene

    Derek J denim cutoffs and kitten heels aren’t for everyone.

  • Yes maam

    I happen to find these comments very immature, hateful and disgusting. As a grown woman I would never speak/type down on any human being as these comments have displayed.. I would love to see if the same hate spewed in these comments would ever be spoken out of your mouths to this man, I doubt it.. I agree his comments were ignorant, but these comments were just as ignorant, actually I found the comments left here more ignorant then the original one made.

    “Pot meet Kettle”
    “Wise men/women never argue with fools, because people from a distance can’t tell who is who”

    Very appropriate phrases for this foolishness..

  • DW

    This doesn’t surprise me: I went to him once for a weave – did I mention I have a head full of long, thick, natural hair. He seemed very challenged by the concept and I remember him being unenthused.

    His “sew down” was so tight I was sweating. The weave was beautiful, but I had to take it out a day later: THE WEAVE WAS SO TIGHT I COULD NOT SLEEP OR THINK STRAIGHT. You know the feeling.

    The kicker was when I took it out, I went to a natural stylist who promptly asked me what I had done to get a bloody sore in my scalp. Yes, he wove my hair so tight that after 24 hours of wearing the weave, I had a sore on my head. The patch of hair thinned and for a year, you could tell where that sore had been.

    This person is just a straight up natural hair hater.

  • VM

    Hear Hear!

  • apple

    can’t i have a difference of opinion? or do we all have to think a like to not get thumbs down.. when i say its not for everybody it isn’t because nothing is absolute.. blonde hair isn’t for everybody, weave or perms isn’t for everybody, short hair or long hair isn’t for everybody ,being thin or fat isn’t for everybody, anything or everything isn’t for everybody ..

  • Sylvie

    I think a lot of women who wear weaves and have been wearing them for years are going natural and that’s his issue. If you’ve been wearing weaves for years with your hair fully covered, why relax it? If you’ve let your hair alone for 4 or 5 years because its been under a weave, you might wake up with a head full of long beautiful natural hair of your own and want to do something with it but suddenly, the hair dresser that was skilled with the quips and the Remy doesn’t know jack about your hair. So you move onto someone who does or you do it yourself.

    So as a business owner, how do you keep that from happening? Convince your clients that they need you or that the look isn’t stylish or won’t look good on them or is for other people with a “better grade” or “easier hair type.” It’s pretty insidious actually.

    Mind you, he has been on both curlynikki and black girl long hair online talking about natural hair straightening so its probably only now that he sees it cutting into his money and his skillset is limited to flatironing. Hopefully his comments will cut into his business some more and he will go away.

  • http://www.facebook.com/yasmeen.regina Yasmeen Regina Parsley

    Fail. The day I start taking advice about my hair from Derek J will be the day he stops wearing custom heels. Never. going. to. happen. It’s quite easy to look at a type 4 girl and say, “I’m sorry, but I can’t do nothing with it”–afterall, that’s what most stylists do. They want to put a perm and weave up in there, be through and won’t mind snatching you bald in the process (and if you don’t believe me, go see sister Naomi). When is the the focus going to be put on HAIR CARE and not just the HAIR? Too many stylists DON’T know and don’t care to know how to CARE for black hair–including the one’s who look like us (Derek J). My hair never grew faster and stronger until I got OUT of the stylist’s chair and started doing my own natural hair. Oh and guess what? My wallet is a lot less lighter too because of it.

    Now, I do realize there are many sisters out here who do not know how to handle their natural hair. Especially after a big chop and the freedom that a ‘wash and go’ lifestyle promises. And how can they? There is very little education out there; and we’re all learning. Perhaps Derek J should learn along with us. I’m tired of hearing lazy stylists complain about naturals. You charge a mint to do HAIR of all things. Even a MD takes continuing education courses (CPE) to learn about new advancements in the field of medicine. Should it not be the same for you, as a DOCTOR of hair? If it were not for sites like CurlyNikki and Blackgirlonghair; and the scores of YouTube videos everyday sisters make; I for one, would be lost. Natural Hair that is no longer cropped “short” is not easy to maintain unless you’re skilled enough to know what you are doing. I live in NYC–but if I go to a salon and ask a stylist if he or she knows what banding is, someone will probably look at me like I’m crazy, because no one in there does natural hair. Then, if they can convince me to sit in their chair–they’ll probably throw a shampoo full of sulfates and alcohol up in my joint, dry it until it’s as hard as a brick and then ask to bandage that fail by putting a hot comb in it later.

    Ladies, the truth is, your hair can be long, beautiful and healthy–naturally. Get a creamy sulfate-free shampoo and a really good conditioner (sans alcohol preferably), a super-fatted oil (coconut, olive, shea, castor), add in lots of moisture, maybe some glycerine; do a trim maybe every 4 months and put a scarf under your hat and wigs (to protect your ends). Be sure to wash your hair every 5-10 days (max); perhaps a little more if you swim. Personally, I love my springy coils, but hair doesn’t always have to be in a fro, or curly; I learned that sometimes it’s good to stretch the curl a bit, so the coils won’t wrap around themselves–this limits the breakage. There are steaming methods that several natural hair care practitioners use that can get your hair as china doll straight as a perm/relaxer would, but will not chemically alter your hair– I kid you not. There are natural stylists out there (alot more talented than Mr. Derek J I might add), who know exactly how to lay that, curl that, bump that and fluff that– to perfection; And they didn’t need any help from Dudley and B&B to do it.

    I realize some girls are great with relaxers, but there are a few of us–who just can’t tolerate or keep up with the cost of maintaining relaxed hair. So, please don’t feel like you absolutely need is a perm (including texturizers), a dye job, or a flat iron every week to look good. I try to avoid attempting those kind of styles on my real hair–that’s why it has grown so fast in the last year. I love dyes too, but I had to stop. Dyes can dry out already dry type 4 hair. My goal is to have long healthy hair, PERIOD; and yes, I love my wigs, braids or weaves too–they are for fun (and are great protective styles if you do them right), but at the end of the day, I know, that stuff AIN’T MINE. I’m not my White sister and I probably will never be in a Pantene commercial. I am however, a beautiful, chocolate, honey-dipped, SuperBad.Afro-Toting BLACK woman; and my hair can be just as long as the girl in that Pantene commercial. It’s just A LOT curlier. It seems like too many of us sisters don’t know the difference these days; but trust me honey dips, your MEN DO. Therefore, please take care of your hair under all of that. It’s an extension of you, so while you’re loving yourself–putting on the makeup and the moisturizer, why not give that lovely brown head a little TLC too? I don’t know about you, but I want to be able to take a piece off and let down my hair like Black Rapunzel, not roll on up to the Barbers spot for a ‘Shape-UP’ because I listened to bafoons like Derek J.

    Thanks, but no thanks. Us natural gals are more than happy to be nappy.

  • beanbean

    Natural hair is for everyone. If it wasn’t for you, then you wouldn’t have been born with it! Not all hairstyles are for everyone. I don’t wear my hair in an afro because it’s not my style, but I love twist-outs. People have to understand that natural hair is NOT A STYLE, it the hair god/mama gave you. Weaves, afros, kinky twists are styles!

  • Mary

    It’s really disheartening when being your natural self is viewed as unattractive. Many of us are still suffering from the psychological affects of slavery and will never view ourselves and our people as “good as” or as “beautiful as” other groups as long as our minds are enslaved. Knowledge is Power

  • GeekMommaRants

    Money talks good advice from this fool walks. His/her/them’s advice would be spend spend spend! We ain’t got time for that. Dude, women clothes are for women!!

  • AnGe

    Can’t hear a word that man says over the loudness of that blouse

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    it’s never a good idea t take advice for the, um, competition…..

  • shoSTOPPER

    i dont care what the queen has to say

  • copelli

    He’s just mad because when a sista goes natural it’s money out of his pocket. Alot of natural maintain their own hair and no longer spend all that time and money on stylists. This movement hits him right in the pocket, so I am not surprised he has nothing intelligent to say on the matter.

  • http://gravatar.com/nolakiss16 binks

    I have a problem with the wording of “natural hair is not for everyone…” how is your natural hair texture not for you? Your natural hair wasn’t a deformity that needs to be fixed or corrected. That is like saying your skin color, eye color, eyelashes, etc. isn’t for you. I believe plenty of people get wearing natural hair confused with certain natural hair styles…i.e. mainly the afro/wash- n-gos. But I’ am not surprised he said this let’s be honest a lot of these hairstylists perpetuate these hair myths and bad hair practices to keep their pockets lined. Can you image if the bulk of black women knew how to properly take care, maintained and styled their hair regardless of if it is relaxed, natural, or weaved will do to people like Derek J., weave/wig companies (mind you which is mostly non-black owned), etc. pockets? These folks make a killing on our hair woes and misinformation to keep us coming back to them. Furthermore, I bet if the majority of black women had curly type 3 hair or wavy 2C type of hair people WOULD NOT be saying “natural hair is not for everyone…” as Marcus Garvey hinted on some people need to remove the kinks from their brains and not their hair.

  • http://gravatar.com/missinformation7 Ms. Information

    Black women are constantly being told (whether subliminally or directly) that we are not good enough….I am certainly not going to accept the lies…we are beautiful women…I am also not going to accept something coming from a man who wants to be a woman.

  • http://gravatar.com/jamesfrmphilly jamesfrmphilly

    to take advice from…..

  • http://gravatar.com/beejcee beejcee

    @LoLo Kenya is natural, she flat irons. She said the only chemical is color.

  • http://www.gangstarrgirl.com [email protected]

    He’s clearly an idiot as are the people who agree with him. “Natural hair isn’t for everyone” is the dumbest oxymoron I’ve every heard. Not even worth the stress of being hurt about it. He, of all people, should know better. After all, high heels are for women, right?

  • Overseas_Honeybee

    @Jaslene *DEAD_________________ lol. I was thinkin’ the same thing. Everytime I see his hooves shoved up in a pair of heels (and that Doublemint gum green suit he had on) … I just shake my head. Always consider the source of the “shade”.

  • Barbara

    Does that mean that HIS hair is not for himself either?

  • JMarie208

    I agree with SO MANY of the comments on this thread! What this supposed “stylist” confirms is how MANY black hair “stylists” who are accustomed to processing black women’s hair with chemicals and weaves are NOT SKILLED enough to manage and care for natural African curl patterns. This confirms why some women who get their hair done at the “black” salons will have hair horror stories of how stylists will give them dirty looks for having kinks and coils. What’s worse is how the “stylists” at these shops will hack at the kinks and coils with fine tooth combs or scissors just to show their disdain for a client wanting to embrace their natural hair. I stopped going to shops for this very reason! Why should I trust a ‘stylist’ will be able to respect and care for my hair like I do when they view it as burden due to their lack of education? I’m not saying ALL stylists and shops have this mentality however there are black owned salons that have issues with natural hair…but the wanna be women on that show minus Bev last night confirmed it!

  • Taurus

    *blinks* I don’t agree with what he has to say… but why am I starting to see a lot of homophobia in these comments.

  • http://twitter.com/MsBrooklynStar Perfectly Imperfect (@MsBrooklynStar)

    He’s one silly queen who doesn’t know how to capitalize on things. Instead of saying he doesn’t like it, his Shrek looking ass should have gotten some training and started a natural hair division in his salon; we spend just as much on our hair. Instead he chose to be a simp in heels. Chile bye. I’m glad my self worth and self esteem doesn’t depend on outside elements.

  • Ash K

    I agree. It’s pretty easy to point out how stupid his argument is, why are people making snarky (irrelevant) comments about dude’s sexuality?

  • Digg82

    What you are not understanding is that the way you were born is obviously for you…that is how you were intended to be. People might have a preference for how they look, but if natural hair isn’t “for” someone, than they just don’t like how they were made. No one is saying that there aren’t women whose natural hair style choices are misguided and could be altered and tailored to their look, but to say that it isn’t for everyone is like saying that “brown eyes aren’t for everyone with brown eyes…” they might wear blue contacts and think they look better, but their brown eyes were made just for them…

  • http://gravatar.com/tashman2012 TT

    Natural hair is not for everyone? I can’t even wear my hair the way it grows out of my head? And so what if I look like a character from the Color Purple? I think black people need to stop internalizing this notion that kinky hair that is a coarser texture is bad. Black people, specifically women, are constantly told to tame that nappy hair so much that we don’t even know how to care for our own hair. And then black women wonder why their hair can’t retain length past a certain point. Then you get the generalization that black women can’t grow long hair. I just wished me wearing my natural hair didn’t have to be a political statement. I have no problems with weaves. A lot of naturals wear weaves to protect their hair. But if you tell yourself that your hair is ugly and too nappy, therefore you need a weave or a relaxer to look presentable, therein lies the problem.

  • Leah

    What an ignorant comment! Thats why me and many other black women have stopped going to stylists because of this type of mentality. It’s already bad enough that we can’t wear our natural hair in corporate America (well at least I can’t) but for our own people to discourage us to wear our own hair is a disgrace!

  • http://gravatar.com/chanela17 chanela17

    LOOSE BOOTY NEGRO!! NAHHHHHH LMAOOOO

  • Leah

    I meant to add this to my comment I just posted.

    He should look at the lovely heads of natural hair in the Reniece Real Black Hair Showcase video on YouTube. It’s nice to actually see a stylist who helps black women get the best out of their natural hair. Instead of telling folks that “natural hair isn’t for everyone”.

    My question is, WHO is natural hair for then?

  • Joy

    Alll I can say is that I “cringe” everytime I see this guy.

  • Lauren

    Black folks need to stop with this self hating ignorant crap! Hey Derek J, all that stuff you learned about Black hair being bad, TOSS IT! If you were smart, you would embrace the natural hair care movement and expand your revenue, you fool! Shout out to all these Black stylists who will be out of business soon for not adapting.

  • Joy

    Taurus Homosexuality is wha it is. I don’t think it’s so much homophobia as it is that (some) black women are starved of seeing masculine black men. And it’s a valid concern

  • Mama Mia

    Just like that pink blouse isn’t for him…

  • beanbean

    I like to get my hair done every one and a while. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve walked into a salon and a BLACK stylists looks at my natural hair like it’s from outer space. I always get the, “I’m don’t understand how to do your hair.” Now this is coming from a black woman stylists. Stylists make their money from relaxers and weaves. Blowouts and trims don’t bring in the cash, so many stylists do not like natural hair.

  • Lauren

    DONE! *insert tears here*

  • M

    This is a ignorant gay black man. He’s just saying that because he knows that if every black woman, including celebrities, decided to go natural (and did away with throwing away their money on weaves and relaxers) his ass would be put out of business.

  • M

    So true. Well said.

  • Joy

    Starr: Yes high heels are definitely for women. Yet (some) people will take offense to that being said. Double standard. When you put yourself out there you have to be ready for the positive, and negative comments. Otherwise if people like Derek can’t take the heat they need to stay out of ther kitchen

  • Ash

    Derek looks a hot mess most of the time. People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones!

  • jean

    You are so right. Just as he feels natural hair isn’t for everyone, heels and skinny womens jeans weren’t made for linebackers!

  • Guest

    Yes, his business is threatened and he’s feeling the heat. That’s all this is about. They make money off of a woman’s low self esteem about her natural looks.

    No woman should ever feel bad about wearing her hair out the way it grows naturally from her scalp.

  • LHB

    I think his comment is ignorant and dumb I think he as well as other hair stylists are feeling the financial pinch as more black women are beginning to obtain more knowledge about our hair and eliminate our reliance on hair stylists for hair care. I believe we as black women must do our own hair care and go to hair stylists for hair styles only.

  • Guest

    This is a good point and something I’ve thought about. These men love to make fun of black women and their nappy hair but hello, your hair is just a kinky if you would let it grow. Black men are just as ashamed of their hair as women who cover it up with weave — they hurry up and cut it as soon as it grows an inch.

  • jcross

    Thank you! Out of all the negative opinions about kinky hair, THE ABSOLUTE DUMBEST to me is “natural hair isn’t for everyone.” That’s like saying “Those Asians need to get eyelid surgery; slanted eyes aren’t for everyone.” o_O ???

  • Nina

    He’s in a fairyland anyway!! Nothing about him is “NATURAL”!!!

  • http://gravatar.com/khrish67 khrish67

    How can your natural hair not be meant for you? It’s these women with all these weaves that look strange. Women have so much hair it makes me ill. And they just get it longer and longer until they look like they have a weave. You can usually tell when a woman doesn’t really have the hair that she is born with. And the idea that one would go to a stylist and sit that long for some of these dos. Not in me, thank goodness.

  • http://gravatar.com/keimia Kam

    I agree, we can disagree with his comments without making comments about his sexuality.

  • HoneyDew

    Exactly, most of the time he looks like a stuffed sausage!!!

  • Nubiahbella

    I still don’t know if he meant natural hair is not for everyone because NOT everyone knows how to take of it or if he was talking about hair texture?? The color purple comment isn’t a proof. Anyone who has seen the movie, would know Celie’s hair wasn’t meant to be seen as pretty ( styling wise) like she didn’t wear any makeup or dressed “fashionably”, this was part of her character in the movie.

    Also people need to stop saying that going natural is putting the black hairdressers out of business. Personally I prefer to have my hair color, trim, straightening, shaping, braids etc… done by a professional. Since Black women are NOT monolithic (thank god to that) there will still be a fair amount of Black women who relax, perm, BKT, locks etc… What we need is knowledgeable Black hairdressers regardless of the hair type.

  • http://Twitter.com/yowhothatbe Krista Davis

    This pisses me off when black women or MEN say natural isn’t for everybody. So I guess that means black people were born with boxed perms or relaxers in they head? Oh.

  • http://twitter.com/YoWhoThatBe IG: KristaGene (@YoWhoThatBe)

    This pisses me off when black women or MEN say natural isn’t for everybody. So I guess that means black people were born with boxed perms or relaxers in they head? Oh.

  • Ashleigh

    He’s right, though. We can get mad all we want to, but black women looking unkempt like that’s “natural” is not cute. Correct, some wigs and weaves look just as or more atrocious, and to that I say “wigs and weaves are not for everyone”. Women honestly need to access their knowledge of beauty culture, techniques, how involved they want to get with their hair, texture (as related to their available time/effort investment) when they decide on a hair style or hair lifestyle. Many women decide to go the natural route, realize it’s more work than their weaved and/or processed hair, and walk around looking a mess for extended periods of time. In that instance, this man would have a point. It’s not for everyone.

  • M

    He’s entitled to his opinion. However, I personally get tired of people criticizing black women’s physical features. We get it from the fashion industry. We get it from Hollywood. We get it from society in general. I expect to get it from those places. But when it comes from a black man? (Even when the black man is a shim?) It hurts. It hurts to hear it from someone who not only has naturally kinky/curly hair, but who quite likely has a mother and/or father with the same hair. It is an example of how often, black women can’t even get support/praise from our own race. A black person in the beauty industry telling us, hey…some of you shouldn’t be looking the way you naturally look. Think about that. Even if he only meant that some black women aren’t good at taking care of natural hair, it’s still a very insensitive remark that can be interpreted a multitude of ways. And black women are constantly bombarded with insensitive remarks that can be interpreted a multitude of ways. Yet again, someone throws something out there to be added to the overflowing bowl…

  • M

    Adding –

    This is my first time posting here and I just noticed that there is another “M” in the comments. To her: Sorry! I’ll use my whole name next time. ;)

  • http://clutchmagazine blcknnblvuu

    I have seen more than once,white people with mistreated hair maybe it’s Time to tell them that straight hair is not for all white people.

  • Town

    If more women went natural, and Derek J only styles weaves and relaxed hair, then his business dries up. Derek J is looking out for his business.

  • http://defendingmoney.wordpress.com Marketing Gimmicks

    Self Hate is real and giving a platform to people who hate themselves the most seems to be the order of the day these days.

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  • Your Spirit, or Your Body

    LMAO!!!

  • CC

    I agree with the writer of the article in regards to some women looking a hot mess because they don’t know how to maintain their look. Whether you have kinky curls, wavy locks, or thick coarse locks all of our hair is beautiful. However just because you are natural doesn’t mean you no longer have to care for your hair or keep it fresh. Some women do feel because they are natural that means they don’t have to style their hair. FALSE. You don’t get a pass on looking like you rolled out of bed because you don’t straighten your hair. However, what Derek said is just dumb.

  • Kay

    That is the problem. Natural hair is not a LOOK. lol. wash-n-go? a look. twist out? a look. Natural hair is just that….Natural hair. What you choose to do WITH that hair…is the look.

  • Monica B.

    I completely agree with you. The vitriol on this site is very disappointing. Especially when used in a way that’s supposed to empower black women who wear their hair natural. How is that empowering if you’re attacking someone else for the style that he’s adopted?

  • Monica B.

    Right. I don’t know if my confusion about what he meant is because of the why he was quoted in this article or because of the way he was edited on the show. I’m definitely not going to watch the show to find out. But I do agree with you that the belief that natural hair is going to put black hairdressers out of business is silly.

  • Simone L

    Men in women’s clothes, weave and makeup telling women what God gave them isn’t for everybody. Nice. If he means that not everyone’s styling skills are up to par, that’s one thing. I cut all my hair off because I refused to spend so much time doing my hair. Not everyone can rock a baldy, but you can’t say what naturally belongs to someone isn’t for them. Putting chemicals that can melt a damn can on someone’s scalp is for no one.

  • The Real Toni Childs

    I wouldn’t take advice from a man who wears women clothes and looks HORRIBLE in them. If you’re going to rock women’s clothes, wear the right size. People need to stay in their own lane.

  • Pseudonym

    That all sounds good but I can guarantee that if you talk to hairdressers in areas where a lot of women are going natural, they’re feelin it in their pockets. A relaxer keeps you coming back every 4-6 weeks. Natural, I go about every 6 months and most others seem to do the same.

    I guess you’d go more often if you color your hair, wear twists/braids, or straighten it regularly, but I have no reason to go to a hairdresser often. A 6 moth trim seems to do my tresses just fine.

    No one’s treating black women like a monolith by noting that more black women with natural hair seem to style their hair themselves and, hence, stylists are making less.

  • Misty

    Ha! I’m natural and all and to each her own but my first thought upon hearing this was, “High heels aren’t for everyone either!”

  • Chic Noir

    Many Blk hair stylist don ‘t like the natural movement cause it’s less money in their pocket.

  • Crys Mack

    I could accept that AFROS aren’t for everyone, twist out, corn-rows, locs aren’t for everyone. But to say that natural hair isn’t for everyone is akin to saying ‘Wearing your own hair isn’t for you, Boo”.

    Healthy un-chemically treated hair can work for everyone!

  • Kiki

    I get really frustrated with black gay men who don’t check their male privileged, or think they don’t have to or get a pass because their gay. Honey, quit the misogynistic antics and stop telling black women how they should wear their hair and what they should look like. I not here for that. Period.

  • Joan

    I can understand not liking that people criticize his sexual orientation. However, it should be okay for people to joke about his appearance. He looks like a fool. If he were straight and looked like a fool, I’d say the same thing: he looks like a fool. There are straight male cross dressers, so his way of dressing does not necessarily directly relate to his sexual orientation. Anyway, it’s hilarious to me that someone who puts so much effort into looking like a fool can be critical of women who choose to wear their hair naturally.

  • Medusa

    Isn’t natural hair, by definition, for everyone?

  • Ms. Vee

    COSIGN!!!!

  • Dee

    Sad, but true. However, what many of them fail to realize is that it doesn’t have to take away from their business. It is an opportunity for them to add to their skillset and broaden their client base. I’m a natural hair stylist and believe me when I tell you, the money is GOOD over here!

  • Joyce Williams

    Some comments aren’t worth ‘entertaining’!!! The comment was made so he could get attention and rating! Soooooooo like someone with a LOW SELF ESTEEM!!!

  • Joyce Williams

    Learning HOW TO care for natural hair is a “process”. That is why many naturals style might not look as groomed. Keep trying, keep trying!!!!!

  • Cocochanel31

    He’s stupid. He is alienating his own client base/finances. You can be natural and still rock all the weaves and wigs in the world if that is what you choose to do underneath the weave/wig. All of my friends who consistently wear weave are natural and go to the hairdresser just as often, if not more so, than those with a relaxer. This SHE/MAN is a fool!

  • http://www.eatstyleplay.com Eat.Style.Play

    Personal Decision…that doesn’t need his approval. I mean at the same time relaxed and straight hair isn’t for everyone. Personally i think it’s silly to even think that every black woman has to go natural. I think it’s silly to hate on any woman who wears weaves, braids, relaxers, twist whatever. I mean we all know that there are plenty of things out there that are more harmful than a relaxer…yet we put all sort of things on our skin, face, and into our bodies. That’s the next persons business. I’m natural, I don’t care either way, personally it’s cheaper to wear it natural for me, I don’t mind it, I don’t try to force my friends on the “natural hair bangwagon” I simply don’t care what the next person does. IF they want to go natural i show them some hair blogs, give a little advice and leave it to them. i don’t look too deep into my hair saying anything about who i am as a person. overall he sounds entirely too silly to talk about this in the first place. Someone could easily say they don’t approve him and what he does with her person, and body but again that’s nobodies business.

  • just_kiesh

    I also thought his comment stemmed from lost business due to women doing their own hair. Womp.

  • AP

    At the core, his comments are an expression of the self hate and racism we have internalized these last hundred years. Slavery may be over but its legacy still runs rampant evidenced by such a ridiculous comment that “natural hair ain’t for everyone” People have added something extra to the word natural. It doesnt mean “curly, wavy, or soft”. It means as is; without adulteration. With that being said, how the heck can natural hair not be for everyone? Wake up people!!

  • http://gravatar.com/beckie7399 Beckie

    I feel like this is such a silly argument. Wear your hair whatever way you want. It’s not that deep. It really is not. Meanwhile, I do not like Bevy Smith. My ears bleed when I hear her speak. Please just make the show about Miss L and Derek J.

  • Kaeli

    I’m not quite sure why his opinion matters.

  • Darcy

    Though every person has the right to alter their hair the way they see fit, I despite a comment like “natural hair is not for everyone” when that is the way the average black woman’s hair grows! I hate how we are the only race of women where at least 60% and above feel that something is “wrong” with the way their hair grows. Derek J is too infatuated with the stereotype of what a woman looks like and that is his problem.

    I’m getting tired of “celebrity stylists” who aren’t even female (I have no issues with male stylists in general) bashing natural hair to fit their own agenda which is keeping women in weaves and using relaxers. Again, I’m not anti-relaxer but just dislike how we’ve been made to feel that there is something “odd, revolutionary, or rebellious” about natural hair if a woman chooses to keep it that way.

  • http://gravatar.com/vonmiwi vonmiwi

    I stayed up late to watch this and totally dismissed them after I heard that ignorant comment. I’m so thankful that I self-define my own existence. Bravo TV did right to make this a limited series.

  • Blaque217

    While I don’t think that wearing the natural look is for everyone, I think Derek J’s statements and some of the comments he re-tweeted are just ignorant. The bottom line, it’s a personal choice. Those who choose to wear their hair natural can and should do so with pride. While others like me who choose to wear hair extensions and/or relax our hair should do so with just as much pride.

    I do agree with him on one point, the vast majority of people who wear natural hair styles do act like Hair Nazi’s. They assume that everyone who don’t go natural are trying to look white. And they suggest that their choice should be everyone’s choice. I don’t like their superior, divisive attitudes at all!

  • SR

    The “vast majority” of people who wear natural hair styles that i know of, really don’t care what you choose to do to your head. We’re all too busy trying to figure out what works for our own.

  • Von

    BLACK hair has always been misunderstood even by BLACK PEOPLE! When people don’t understand something, out of fear they hate it and make derogatory comments. WHY IS BLACK HAIR SCARY, HATED AND INTIMIDATING TO EVEN ITS POSSESSERS?!

  • http://www.dawnthescreenwriter.com ScriptTease

    I somewhat disagree…. If you ain’t going to take care of your natural hair, then please do not wear it natural.

  • http://www.dawnthescreenwriter.com ScriptTease

    “heels and skinny womens jeans weren’t made for linebackers!” LMAO

  • mikayla

    I can see how his statements can be taken the wrong way. but let’s be real, even me in my natural state have seen other naturals and said to myself that maybe it’s not for them. their are some naturals who do not know or seem to do proper hair care on their hair. just like there are some people with weaves, wigs and perms that seem to not need them because of the upkeep they are doing to their hair. being natural is not for everyone nor is being permed or straightened. I don’t think he meant to come off as degrading or like a self hating type person. he just stating something that other people have thought or said whether they are willing to admit or not.

  • Wong Chia Chi

    It’s funny that this has been brought up because every person I know that wears weaves as if it’s their hair, when you see them without it, which is rare but when you do, they have little to NO hair underneath or it’s like permanently damaged and short.

    My hair is natural and I press it with a flat iron or I style it when it’s wet usually with braids people are shocked by what I’m able to do with it. It’s thick and layered and it’s basically ear to mid neck length depending on if it’s straitened.They often mistake it for a wig or a weave when I straiten it but I just explain that curly hair of any texture looks different when it’s curly than when it’s straitened.

    If they knew how to take care of their hair, they would already know this without me having to explain it to them, and they wouldn’t be so shocked when they see me with my hair curly after I’ve washed it and a few days later longer and straighter/loose curled, the next. they always ask me what I’ve done to it, and why it looks so different. ITS THE SAME HAIR!

    It leads me to believe that they’ve relied on weaves for soooo long because they’ve damaged their natural hair and they rarely ever see it so they don’t remember how it behaves or how to style it. Which I find terribly sad.

    It is a corrosive and insidious form of self hate to me, because even people with hair that is naturally the texture that they covet/buy to wear on their head have to comb it and style it. A white woman once asked me what kind of conditioner I used because my hair was so shiny and I told her and we actually had a similar hair regimen. So I HATE it when people make it seem like having hair that’s a certain texture is worse than another texture. We all have to use conditioner, we all have to comb and gel and whatever to get our hair in a certain condition that we prefer to wear it in. People who want hair that you looks perfect all the time without it ever having to be combed are just not being realistic. ALL hair takes maintenance of some kind, some takes slightly more than others but still. There’s no way around it. If non black people NEVER combed their hair it would get tangled and messy and oily and start breaking off. So I don’t know where SOME black people get the idea that “perfect” hair never has to be manipulated. Clearly they’ve never styled a non black person’s hair. Strait hair can be fine or EXTREMELY COARSE. Either way, it STILL has to be combedd, at LEAST.

    To have NEVER combed your OWN hair, no matter what texture it is, is just bizarre to me. I enjoy styling my hair. And most women enjoy playing with their hair, I know I do. But many black women seem to hate, even SEEING or combing their natural hair. One of the girls I know that wears weave all the time, said that she NEVER washes her hair. Not ever. Not even co washing because dirty hair grows more or something? LOL

    I saw this same girl one day without the weave, just briefly and she had like maybe ONE INCH of hair. I’m being generous, more like a 1/4 of an inch of hair. So I don’t buy that wearing wigs and weaves all the time makes your hair grow more because your not messing with it. It does if you TAKE CARE OF IT PROPERLY but not in and of it itself. You still have to comb, wash, CONDITION, and TRIM from time to time. Even people that wear locks. This one girl I know that wears nothing but weaves: her hair is still as short as it ever was. It hasn’t grown at all in the three years that I’ve know her. My hair on the other hand, has been several different lengths and styles, been dyed, been cut, been dyed again and it’s still growing. For your hair to have NEVER grown an inch in three years(!) That says a lot about how you take of it and not the natural state it’s in.

    And I’m the lowest maintenance person there is. I barely wear makeup, I shave irregularly, I may wear earrings from time to time but that’s it. So I’m not someone who obsesses over my appearance or spends a lot of time in front of the mirror in the morning. I do obsess over my skin a bit because it’s sensitive but that’s about it. And my hair is about a 3C in the front/sides/crown to a 4a in the back where the edges have grown out considerably. I’ve never worn a weave in my life. Not even braided weaves. And the reason is because it costs too much for me. I’m cheap as hell and I don’t enjoy spending a lot of money on my outer appearance, I think there are whole industries set up to make women feel inadequate and to help us cope with that inadequacy they tell us to buy things and part with our hard earned coin. And then make us pay MORE. Most salons charge different prices for men and women just for things like Hair Cuts which is ridiculous to me.

    All the money these women spend on weaves I probably spend a fraction of for the various products I use to style my natural hair including conditioner, shampoo, products and trims. They probably spend like hundred or more a month, where I’ll spend like $30-40 every three months and my hair is longer and in better condition than their hair is.

    My point is: it doesn’t take a lot of time/energy/money to have beautiful natural hair. At least it doesn’t cost as much as buying new hair every two week does. Even combing and manipulating it, doesn’t take that much time. I hate that people like this guy, perpetuate this myth that it does, to sell women synthetic hair and wigs. This is why you have to consider the source when it comes to advice like this.

    It’s times like this I’m glad I had a mother that never put a chemical in my hair and taught me how to properly take care of it.

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  • Jaquerian

    I think there are geek monsters on both sides of the quarter. Some folks can’t maintain a natural hairstyle and some folks look sick in those weaves/wigs and perms. If you have very thin hair – a natural afro is NOT for you. If you have one inch of hair – a full on weave with only your hair hiding the tracks is NOT for you. I think realistic styles for ones own hair texture and density is the key. Everyone cannot wear every style with class and beauty. So I agree with him. Natural hair is not for everyone. However, it is for me!!! I am a beautiful loc lady…with very thick hair might I add. So no scalp showing all day long! LOL

  • Nakia

    If you’re not going to take carer of your hair, natural or not, then please shave your head. What does being natural have to do with “taking care” of yourself? Perms, weaves and wigs can look busted, broken off and unhealthy. And quite frankly, I wouldn’t trust the opinions of a person who would make such a statement in regards to what they feel “taking care” looks like. Do you tame it, wrangle it, what…?

  • http://www.facebook.com/CarmenWJones Carmen W Jones

    It’s ignorance and negativity. Beauty is not about looks, it’s about self care. Your skin is natural, but if you don’t know how to address issues, it can look like your dirty or have skin problems. There are steps to success in anything. My hair is currently in it’s natural state, but I wear braids. I have a preference. If I wear my natural hair, and YOU don’t like the looks, that is YOU. AS LONG AS I’M HAPPY. Life is not a reality show, and we can’t go around putting a filter over our faces 24/7. There is no App for life…

  • Diane

    …and this comes from MEN ( DJ & “Miss” Lawrence)?? who think make-up, weave, women’s clothing and heels are “natural” for men; I’m sure they don’t want anyone to judege them. Women NEVER listen to “men”? like this who try to rob you of something they can never achieve…being an all natural women…. no matter how you wear your hair.

  • http://www.facebook.com/ravennicolemasterson Raven Nicole Masterson

    Yes, and he says what he says while he wears HIS HAIR IN IT’S NATURAL STATE! #Smdh!

  • oma

    lt’s self hatre we taught by the white man to hate ourselves, especially our natural hair, it strange that a black person in hair business will speak negative about black women hair.

  • ann

    Mikaya, I understand and agree with you.

  • sss215

    It’s not! I know a few naturals who do not nor do they want to learn how to take care of their hair. It’s not healthy, doesn’t grow and when I try to tell them a big chop is easy to maintain, they don’t want to do that either. He’s not wrong in his opinion.

  • http://www.goodlooknout.com GoodLooknOut

    His comments ONLY prove he is a world class SIMPLETON!

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  • http://Candygirl Ronjohn

    I’m late to this story but, I have been natural before the movement started. I loved being natural until I started seeing everyone who is natural with the same look!! You can be mad at Derrick if you want to but he is right. Some sista’s who are natural look terrible. The texture of the hair should have a curl or a wave to it or it just looks terrible. You can hide behind your computers but be for real. I am going back to my relaxer because I am ready for a change and I don’t want to look like every other natural sista!!

  • B

    Yessssssssssssss!!! I can’t stand him and his cereal boxed body in women’s clothes.

  • stacy johnson

    Horrible, just horrible, its a sad shame the natural hair movement. Its embarrassing as a black woman to see the state of black women and their hair. the nappy hair does not look professional neither does it look well groomed. As a licensed hairstylist my opinion is that the nappy hair look is just an attempt for lazy women to get out of taking responsibility for their beauty and upkeep. Wearing a relaxer or straightened hair not make you less black or less connected to your identity a Ts a black woman. Cleaning your hair and properly grooming is a reflection of what level self esteem you have. Nappy hair lowers expectations and reflects poorly on black women as a whole, that nappy mess sets black women back 200 years. Sisters we need to get it together, our hair is our crown and glory.

  • Koko

    damn you stupid

  • Jade

    I agree. Just flat out ignorant. I have been natural for 7 years, and I work in an office environment and I model part time. Natural hair does NOT equal laziness. I keep my hair clean, neatly groomed, and I get it trimmed regularly. And FYI, it is MORE work to deal with natural hair than relaxed hair. So relaxed hair=laziness because you don’t want to take the time to work with your own hair. So get it straight

  • Tsk tsk!

    Honey that is the negativity that the natural community does not need. Good on you for going back, because it sounds like you came into it for the wrong reasons and didn’t like what happened. You can’t go around shaming women who are natural for the pattern of curl or kink they have, calling it a mess. You MUST be talking about yourself. You can’t tell a woman what her texture should be, so she won’t “look a mess”. If you hate being natural just because others are joining, girlfriend you shouldn’t have done it in the first place.

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